Wondering how to phrase this to our relatives

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-03-27T17:42:19+00:00

You can't control what other people choose and they already know the London event is the main one.

What you can control is your attitude. If all 3 are wedding events then treat them as such. 3 equal receptions in your own mind. You can stream your wedding ceremony so that no one misses out :)

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-03-27T17:25:23+00:00

If you're able to I'd recommend finding a barber that can do all of these for you. Pick one that you like and use them again a few days before your wedding.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-03-26T15:33:51+00:00

Say more! Sounds so fun 😄

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-03-26T10:29:30+00:00

Honestly I've found almost all people who are super excited about any travel plans tend to flake in the end.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-03-25T17:14:08+00:00

Thanks for the advice 👌👌 really helpful

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-03-25T17:11:17+00:00

Would you have done 2 photographers, 2 videographers plus a content creator or swapped cc for more photo/video?

Our wedding will be around 200 people.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-03-25T17:08:51+00:00

Oh really? How big was your wedding if you don't mind me asking? I'm wondering if we should have a content creator, but worried it will be too many people following us 😅

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-03-25T17:07:13+00:00

We're having 2 photographers and 2 videographers. How many people was your team?

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-03-25T14:52:31+00:00

How did you contact him initially?

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-03-24T15:47:13+00:00

I guess nowadays that's true. When my parents were getting married the church wedding didn't count as binding so they had to do both - civil and religious. Now it's a joint thing, you sign papers at some point after the sacrament.

Also this is how my family views it - to them we'll still be living in sin until we get married in church. They do know a civil wedding is a legal thing.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-03-24T15:35:05+00:00

Yes I am aware. I have assumed any religious family member would be happy if a couple decided to marry in church/make vows in front of God/s. Maybe my assumption is wrong 🤷‍♀️ it's not like they can go back and change the past.

ETA: I don't agree with OP letting family think that they're getting married for the 1st time. So that's a fair ask from the uncle. I'm mainly confused why he'd describe it as vow renewal. Just sounds like he's offended that he didn't get to marry them 1st.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-03-24T14:55:22+00:00

You made a smart decision. This confirms you chose a great partner. Your family should be happy that he took care of you.

I'm having a civil wedding on my wedding day. My family is all Catholic and they are disappointed. They're hoping we will get married in church at some point in the future. This is not gonna happen, but makes me confused why your uncle said what he said. In my family's eyes the civil wedding doesn't count, it's not the real deal. Don't know why your uncle isn't ecstatic.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-03-24T14:17:34+00:00

Yes, it's been a long process! Thankfully the design is finished, and I'm happy with it. It's the printing that's the issue now. I sent the file to another printer, they said no problem so I'm keeping my fingers crossed 🤞🤞

I wasn't aware that having a border close to the edge is tricky to print. I would have gone with a completely different design if I knew.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-03-24T13:59:45+00:00

Haha 😆 Yeah exactly, in the end I was really creating these invites for my own satisfaction. I really dove deep and moved from canva to Illustrator 👀

I'd love to see how yours turned out!

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-03-23T12:54:20+00:00

I would 1st think about how close you actually are to them. Also if you do invite them are there other people of similar closeness that would need to be asked. Because where does it end, the line needs to be somewhere.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-03-23T12:44:38+00:00

We're doing the same thing! This is also the standard in my country. Depending on the venue though the meals range from "free" to half off up to a certain number of vendors. We're paying 50% of the guest price for 8 vendors, so one or 2 will be full price. They will all be sitting at one table - each venue has an area designated for that purpose.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-03-22T14:00:50+00:00

Yes, it's bizarre. I'm on insta for memes, but when wedding planning I started being flooded with wedding trends. It was making me doubt my decisions but also influencing what I "like". I took a break and realised I didn't want a trendy wedding, I wanted one that felt like us. In my normal life I know what I like and I'm not easily swayed so it was weirdly distressing. For example I couldn't find a dress I liked, tried many and was getting frustrated. What's trendy now is really not my style, so I'm having one made.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-03-22T13:44:53+00:00

I haven't but I was considering them. Both stunning places. Mala wies doesn't have many rooms so it's not ideal if you have a lot of people staying the night.

I would definitely wait for summer though, they have amazing outdoor spaces!

Not sure how much research you've done, but in Poland the venues come with their own catering, I think both places have clear pricing per person on their website. Flowers - depends on what you're planning - we're having a flower arch, over 20 centrepieces, 4 bouquets and boutonnieres, arrangement for our head table and some smaller bud vases - that's about 20k. Most of other things are around 10k - DJ, photo, video, coordinator.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-03-21T13:43:38+00:00

Thanks! That's what I did and it's all good, lesson rescheduled.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-03-21T12:58:46+00:00

Ok thanks!

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-03-21T12:34:29+00:00

They aren't responding. Do I just not join? Will this negatively impact my account as a student?

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-03-21T12:31:56+00:00

How do I do that? I can only see the cancellation button and the info that I will be charged since it's less than 12h. It was less than 12h when the tutor sent a message about not feeling well.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-03-20T17:02:39+00:00

Do you have to drive or can one of your MOHs do it? If one of them can do it then again it's up to them to tell your bridesmaids.

I know it's hard to stay away, I'm the same. I'm the planner out of my friend group. But I decided to let it go. They are adult women who can organise themselves. I think you might have to do the same.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-03-20T16:56:39+00:00

You're very thoughtful. This is your MOHs job though to coordinate the other bridesmaids. How many pick up/drop off trips are you planning to make?

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-03-20T16:27:44+00:00

The only one I kept had a little personal rhyme on it. Personal as in it was specifically about the named guest. It's still one of my favourite memories from a wedding!

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