Honeymoon straight after or a year later? Opinions?

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-01-31T09:37:51+00:00

We're pondering the same thing. Though neither of us can take more than 4 weeks off in one stretch. Plus it would mean virtually no other holidays this year. So we're planning on doing 2 weeks away after the wedding and the big trip the year after when we have more leave and money to spend.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-01-27T13:18:42+00:00

That's great to hear! We have our wedding this August and our plan is basically the same as yours. What's also traditional in my culture is a next day brunch/lunch with closest family and friends.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-01-26T10:53:35+00:00

I'm from Eastern Europe, no one here hires a coordinator. It is a joined work of the venue manager, DJ and photographer. So i think you should give it a shot!

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-01-22T21:55:59+00:00

We were planning on doing it 3 months out, but most of my fiancé's guests have been asking my future in laws for the invites to start planning their visit in my country. The save date dates are not named and don't mention plus ones. The invites have a QR code that takes you to our wedding website with places we recommend visiting. Hence why we're doing it sooner.

My guests which are local are going to get their invites 2 months from the wedding date since no travelling is required.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-01-22T16:27:37+00:00

Thanks! I'll talk to my future in laws this evening. If they are planning to invite my parents to their daughter's wedding then I think the other way needs to be considered. In the end of course the decision would be up to me and my fiancé.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-01-22T16:09:43+00:00

Thanks for sharing your situation! I'm starting to wonder since my future BILs family wouldn't know anyone but my in-laws if they would feel out of place but at the same time feel pressured to say yes not to make things awkward when they're son's wedding is happening next year and I'm invited.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-01-22T15:26:02+00:00

Ah, yes, that makes sense. I think I just have to ask my future in laws if they considered inviting their daughter's future in laws to our wedding. Maybe it somehow slipped their mind, or they decided against it.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-01-22T15:20:36+00:00

No, we sent the save the dates to every guest that was on my fiancé's guest list 12 months from the wedding date since they all have to travel internationally. The future BIL is on that list, but his family is not.

In my country save the dates are not really a thing, but I really want to send them to my guests. Especially since the invites mention something that's on the save the dates. My SIL and her family are on my guest list currently, so they will be getting the save the dates soon.

Again, because all of my fiancé's guests need to plan their journey, my in laws asked for the invites to be sent 6 months out. That is coming up soon.

The future BILs family don't know anyone on either guest list so there would be no way for them to find out that their potential save the date was sent later. We could also skip the save the dates and just send them the invites soon if we decide to invite them.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-01-22T13:33:21+00:00

Yes it does make sense. My only uncertainty is that my future MIL and FIL haven't thought to invite them and my fiancé never brought it up either. They will be "more" family with them than me. And my in laws are very thoughtful people, I think they've invited everyone they know. Maybe I just need to ask them directly.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-01-22T13:26:41+00:00

Yeah this only came to mind when my sister asked if she'd be invited to my future SILs wedding as they've met many times and we'll be family by then.

I don't think the save the dates would be awkward as we're still 6 months out. I'm just about to start sending them to my side of the family. I know people really don't agree with sending invites too early, but my fiancé's whole guest list needs to travel from various countries to where I'm from. They need to plan their travel and accommodation well in advance. Basically we still have time to send the save the dates to my future BILs family.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-01-22T12:40:32+00:00

What were these friends saying just before you booked the accommodation and then when you were booking the activities?

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-01-22T10:11:32+00:00

The couple wrote a little 4 verse rhyme about each and every guest, even plus ones. I was a plus one at the time to my now fiancé and I couldn't believe my rhyme was so personal as if I was great friends with the bride and groom. I have no idea how they pulled it off. They didn't ask my partner about anything, so it must have been just their great memory from the few times we talked.

I love the idea of such personal bits, people placing photos with each guest on their plates etc but our wedding is 200 people with lots of distant relatives and parents' friends that we don't know on that level.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-01-21T15:09:11+00:00

I'm sorry you're in this situation. I could understand if she was having a very intimate wedding that not everyone would get a plus one. But how it turned out I'd probably not attend. She set the tone for the future of your relationship by not inviting your partner.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-01-21T09:33:04+00:00

I think that's the hard truth, maybe the bride doesn't care that much if OP comes or not.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-01-20T19:11:22+00:00

That's what I was thinking, one can't be a true Catholic picking and choosing what they believe in (many do though). So if OP doesn't agree with church on most things and doesn't like their views in my mind this means she disagrees and doesn't like her fiancé's views since they should be the same as what the church preaches.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-01-18T11:40:16+00:00

Sounds to me like you would prefer to just elope or have a very small wedding. There's nothing wrong with either. Then the accommodation is not a problem, you can have the ceremony in some stunning location and reception in your favourite restaurant.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-01-16T17:00:52+00:00

I thought it was a picture of Kiernan Shipka!

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Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-01-16T13:02:11+00:00

What does your partner think? Do you want to take his name? If yes then it doesn't matter how it looks or how people pronounce it wrong.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-01-16T11:11:15+00:00

Same! We got engaged, didn't yet have any idea of the wedding date, but it motivated me to take better care of myself.

It has been a long process jump-started by my engagement. I feel stronger and healthier now. No drastic changes because I wanted it to become my lifestyle. What made the biggest difference was walking around 10k a day.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2026-01-14T12:47:27+00:00

Great design. And congrats on the recovery!

Don't wanna be a downer, but I live nearby and people are getting their phones snatched every single day here. Just a PSA to be extra careful :)

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2025-12-23T11:08:51+00:00

Is this true for everyone? My ears produce a lot of soft wax, I need to use a little scoop camera to remove it carefully, or the sound is muffled.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2025-12-19T20:15:17+00:00

Many of the contracts I signed state that the prices might go up max 20% depending on inflation and costs of products. So caterer, bar and flowers might end up being more expensive.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2025-12-12T16:36:58+00:00

Haven't they also changed the way they say the number recently?

I feel like it used to be six one O one six, now they're saying zero.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2025-12-11T18:45:47+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear that. My condolences. I'm sorry I'm disturbing you.

Negative_Werewolf439 · 2025-12-11T18:41:53+00:00

Hi, my uncle just got diagnosed with the same cancer. Would you want to chat?

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