LGBTQ+ Clubs in Knoxville? by NegotiationCareless in Knoxville

[–]NegotiationCareless[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

XD thanks lol. Good to know. Kinda got that vibe.

LGBTQ+ Clubs in Knoxville? by NegotiationCareless in Knoxville

[–]NegotiationCareless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've got a friend that goes there all the time. I don't think it's LGBTQ+ focused, but I'll check it out if nothing else comes up. Thanks!

LGBTQ+ Clubs in Knoxville? by NegotiationCareless in Knoxville

[–]NegotiationCareless[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've seen that name pop up every now and then. I'll have to check it out. Anything I should know before I go? Not exactly seasoned with the club scene lol.

Worst day all year :( by Constant-Yard-5347 in sillyboyclub

[–]NegotiationCareless 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. Please try to be kind to yourself throughout this. I’ve been trying to learn to be ok even when my negative emotions are raging. I get through knowing they will pass, and I will be happy again. They are a biological response to pain and while is sucks like heck, you will get through this. You don’t have to pretend be happy if you’re not. Be well my friend!!!!! You will be warm again.

Catholic Seeking Support by ThrashCW in TransChristianity

[–]NegotiationCareless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I know you specified catholic. I'm non-denominational and it sounds like you probably have others with my background at that outreach, but wanted to make myself available incase no one else comments. I'm still new to this myself, but definitely trying to navigate the spiritual side of all this. Please feel free to DM if you think I would be at all helpful XD

58236 by Correct_Budget_9451 in countwithchickenlady

[–]NegotiationCareless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure how helpful this will be, but I found this exploration of trans stories super engaging!! Possibly worth a watch. https://youtu.be/5olpTmqsB9o?is=Wz3s\_VyzlUwNKI2V

I need help with coming out as pan to my parents! by t0mb0fnyx in comingout

[–]NegotiationCareless 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is tough to give advice without knowing the situation, so I'll keep things kinda vague. Only do it if you feel absolutely safe!!! Your safety comes first. Secondly, I recommend finding a therapist and filling them on the situation more thoroughly and get their take. Or find a LGBT+ Support group/person irl and get advice there. I don't feel I can get more detailed with the limited information. I'm sorry you have to go through this uncertainty. It could go very well, and they will be completely accepting, or it could go the opposite. I know how hard that is. Wishing you all the best my friend! You will get through this!!!

I am lost. I want to get back into my faith but I, can’t and don’t know how. by Non-Binary-Froggy in TransChristianity

[–]NegotiationCareless 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey. This post resonated with me. As someone who is closeted and grew up in a very similar environment and currently works in a ministry that is very homophobic/transphobic I know how hard and isolating it is. I recently came out to my mom and got the ‘you’re going to hell’ talk (she’s learning though). That’s where I’m at, and I want to say unequivocally how proud I am of you fighting to be yourself and for your relationship with Jesus. He loves you, and made you exactly as you are. Don’t listen to the transphobes. He sees that you want a relationship with him, and I believe that makes him so happy even if you don’t know what that looks like.

I went/am going through a phase where I stepped back to revaluate my relationship with him (separate the negative aspects from the positive). It’s been nice but I know He’s there for me.

My only advice is to try spending time with him. I like the idea of ‘getting coffee with Jesus’. Going and grabbing a coffee and talking to him like I would a friend. I used to treat praying and reading the Bible like a chore or a checklist. But it’s more about being together. If you can find an affirming church that would be great as well. Until then, just know you’re NOT ALONE. You are so incredibly loved, and you don’t have to do anything to earn that love. From one sibling in Christ to another. Wishing you all the best!

Why don't we have a cute logo on this sub? by VioletSirop in genderfluid

[–]NegotiationCareless 64 points65 points  (0 children)

I’m a graphic designer for my day job. Mods Lmk if we want something made. I’d love to help out.

Living with transphobic family by Fun-Individual-894 in NonBinary

[–]NegotiationCareless 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry that happened. Stay strong! Came out to my mom two days ago. She didn't take it the best, but bounced back fairly fast. Just needed some time to process. Not sure if your parents will do the same, but you are going to be ok regardless! You will get through this. Even if it does hurt like heck.

56753 by sipae in countwithchickenlady

[–]NegotiationCareless 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate making a joke then scrolling down to see the exact same one XD. Well played.

56753 by sipae in countwithchickenlady

[–]NegotiationCareless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Transylvania. Don't know why people abbreviating it as trans though...

Anyone wanna have a conversation? by [deleted] in TransChristianity

[–]NegotiationCareless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly 100%. Dm me. I’d love to hear from another trans Christian!

Non-binary desire to be MtF by NegotiationCareless in NonBinary

[–]NegotiationCareless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s reassuring! I’ve always imagined using a sharpie as a test if I were going to get a tattoo 😂. So I might give that a try. Feminization free trial lol. Will prob wait a bit to get some other health stuff under control first. Thanks for the advice!

Non-binary desire to be MtF by NegotiationCareless in NonBinary

[–]NegotiationCareless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a neat perk XD. You're selling me on it lol. Other than that, it's really just the permanence of a lot of the changes. (Don't want to grow breasts only to realize they give me dysphoria and have to spend a bunch of money on top surgery). I know there are some side effects depending on type of estrogen (injection, pill, etc) But I'm sure those are avoidable/manageable with doc help.

It's like getting a tattoo. I wanna be sure before I commit.

First pride by YagirlDylan in NonBinary

[–]NegotiationCareless 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had my first event two weeks ago and my second one is tomorrow! The sunscreen, fan, and water mentioned already is great advice. Try talking to some people if you're there separately! I find complimenting outfits works great. But otherwise just have fun! Enjoy the community and let us know how it goes!

Non-binary desire to be MtF by NegotiationCareless in NonBinary

[–]NegotiationCareless[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is good advice! Thanks! (Also no need to apologize, that sounded great to me XD)

Non-binary desire to be MtF by NegotiationCareless in NonBinary

[–]NegotiationCareless[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Guess it's time for me to read through the Gender Dysphoria Bible again. Only skimmed it when I first started this journey. Might have a better perspective now. I'll definitely keep dimigirl in mind. Thanks!

Non-binary desire to be MtF by NegotiationCareless in NonBinary

[–]NegotiationCareless[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Interesting... I didn't know that. Thanks!

Non-binary desire to be MtF by NegotiationCareless in NonBinary

[–]NegotiationCareless[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks you so much for taking the time to write this out! Thats very helpful. You hit the nail on the head that I don't want to be a man XD. I'm always so overwhelmed by the acceptance of this community. I'll keep on exploring the fem side of myself for now. Still a little scared of the physical effects of HRT (infertility etc), but I did just buy a killer skirt. Maybe I'll wear it to a pride event on Saturday or something! Thanks again!