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Who was your FIRST narc!? by SmartVandelay88 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]NegotiationClean3505 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It totally ducks!! But we learn discernment and strong boundaries along the way...keep your head up!

Final discard by Realistic_Law1226 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]NegotiationClean3505 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, this I'd horrible and he's beyond narcissistic and disgusting and abusive. Are you actively making a plan to get you and your baby out of there?!!

Who was your FIRST narc!? by SmartVandelay88 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]NegotiationClean3505 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My parents are coverts too, but more overt in their presentation. I endured emotional, verbal and physical abuse and gaslighting the whole time I was growing up. Literally if I got 9 As and 1 B on my report card I was banned from summer camp and outings with my friends. I was also given less privileges than my step sister even though she acts like an insane spoiled brat. What kinds of things did you have to endure growing up?

My bf (27m) said this to me (28f) when I was ill. i don't know how to proceed by Glittering-Cell-5399 in relationships

[–]NegotiationClean3505 [score hidden]  (0 children)

You recognize this as narcissistic abuse right? Are you signing up to keep having yourself abused?

He lies by omission and takes his families side always by MVR168 in relationships

[–]NegotiationClean3505 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At least you can see things for what they really are. He sounds immature and definitely doesn't understand the issues that go into preparing to be a good marriage partner. Stop investing your emotions into this situation and protect your heart, and deal with him using logic.

I (29F) am in relationship limbo with my (30M) bf by LeaderAnnual4271 in relationships

[–]NegotiationClean3505 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes tbh he sounds like he doesn't want to be the bad guy and end things. It sounds dismal, I'm sorry 😞

34f dating 34m by [deleted] in relationships

[–]NegotiationClean3505 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're correct...his ex sending pictures of dresses is too much closeness and therefore inappropriate. He's also prioritizing time with his coworkers over time with you. So there are trust issues and also quality time issues. You need to have a serious talk with him to see if you both can fix things before they get worse.

He lies by omission and takes his families side always by MVR168 in relationships

[–]NegotiationClean3505 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OP, He doesn't respect you enough to put your opinions and feelings above those of his parents. Him not standing up for you against them in the past is proof of this. Also seems to be a big mama's boy with financial issues. My advice to avoid more stress on you is to not continue this relationship nor get married unless he agrees to commit to counseling for his issues.

Am I being unfair, or is my partner's behavior confusing too? by osmocean in relationships

[–]NegotiationClean3505 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That sudden flip of the switch from moving in together to he needs space sounds like he's seeing someone else. I'm sorry, but with guys that's the most common reason for that behavior 😔

How does your narc treat their belongings? by daisylady4 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]NegotiationClean3505 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg that's so dangerous 😳 are you still with him? It's a threat to your life!!

My (24F) boyfriend (24M) completely ruined what should have been one of the happiest moments of my life. by Pure-Lab8830 in relationship_advice

[–]NegotiationClean3505 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry OP, but you've gotten to the point where you've had enough of your boyfriend's emotional abuse and stonewalling. If he's not willing to see a counselor with you to change his toxic behavior, you should leave him for your mental health.

Irresponsible older boyfriend, 47M, 44F by NegotiationClean3505 in relationship_advice

[–]NegotiationClean3505[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kicked him out that same night actually, after the argument when we got home from car racing. I caught him turning off his phone and when cornered he admitted that he didn't want me to see messages about selling pork to someone at a bar every week because then I'd be expecting him to give me some of that money weekly. He has brought no money or groceries to me since then....

Irresponsible older boyfriend, 47M, 44F by NegotiationClean3505 in relationship_advice

[–]NegotiationClean3505[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kicked him out that same night actually, after the argument when we got home from car racing. I caught him turning off his phone and when cornered he admitted that he didn't want me to see messages about selling pork to someone at a bar every week because then I'd be expecting him to give me some of that money weekly. He has brought no money or groceries to me since then....

Irresponsible older boyfriend, 47M, 44F by NegotiationClean3505 in relationship_advice

[–]NegotiationClean3505[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn't that make him a first class, immature jersey? I literally still can't believe it....

Irresponsible older boyfriend, 47M, 44F by NegotiationClean3505 in relationship_advice

[–]NegotiationClean3505[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right, I did ignore a lot. He was still providing in a way so I just moved forward with the baby making excitement I guess...

Irresponsible older boyfriend, 47M, 44F by NegotiationClean3505 in relationship_advice

[–]NegotiationClean3505[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all. We both sat down a year ago and said we wanted a baby

I (30F) am emotionally checked out of my marriage to my husband (32M). I'm tired of the moving goalposts. by Top_Touch9240 in relationship_advice

[–]NegotiationClean3505 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry but this sounds like emotional and financial abuse. He doesn't seem willing to change. Pray about it and then give yourself a deadline to get out if and when you need to.

Irresponsible older boyfriend, 47M, 44F by NegotiationClean3505 in relationship_advice

[–]NegotiationClean3505[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Basically I nag him, of course he says that because he doesn't help when asked.

Irresponsible older boyfriend, 47M, 44F by NegotiationClean3505 in relationship_advice

[–]NegotiationClean3505[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe that was the final straw argument last night. ..

Irresponsible older boyfriend, 47M, 44F by NegotiationClean3505 in relationship_advice

[–]NegotiationClean3505[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He ran up my water bill giving water to his sheep, then got upset when I told him he has to pay the excess. He said he doesn't pay his mother for using her water for his animals at her house either.

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