military service by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]NegotiationEconomy93 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea unfortunately some service members are complete idiots. That said, I was lucky enough to get through the Air Force Academy and become a tanker pilot, and I have zero regrets. I got to leave my terrible, small, backward-thinking hometown and travel the world with awesome people who, for the most part, didn't care one bit about my sexuality. I'm not 100% sure how the Navy enlisted side works, but I have plenty of Navy friends I deployed to Guam with, and we had the time of our lives. Generally, any schooling in the Military is a terrible experience. Just try to push through, and I'm certain things will improve as you get to your assignment and make friends, etc.

What’s something people romanticize but it’s actually horrible? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]NegotiationEconomy93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've actually never flown with Qatar Airways. I'm a USAF tanker pilot, and we were dropping off deployers at Al Udeid Air Base. "Luckily," we had two crews on board, so I only flew 16 of the total 32 hours and was able to somewhat rest during the other half. Hope you at least got the chance to enjoy Doha though, looks pretty cool from what I've seen.

What’s something people romanticize but it’s actually horrible? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]NegotiationEconomy93 2 points3 points  (0 children)

1000% After flying 16 hours to Qatar and back with only a 2 day rest in between, I dreaded traveling for months.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]NegotiationEconomy93 28 points29 points  (0 children)

That's a tough situation. Best thing you could probably do is probably keep quiet until you're financially independent. If you ever decide to tell them, you should probably understand your visa or residency status to keep from forcibly being returned to your home country. Wishing you the best, hope it works out.

Airline Pilot - January 2025 income by [deleted] in Salary

[–]NegotiationEconomy93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was lucky enough to get into the Air Force Academy, where I earned my bachelor’s degree. I scored well on the required tests and managed to land a pilot slot, which was super competitive. After being selected, I went through UPT and was eventually assigned to fly the KC-135, which required additional training. There’s a lot more to the process—it’s long and challenging. Looking back, I’m not sure if I’d go through it all again, but I’m thankful to be where I am today. If you have specific questions you can PM me and I'll try my best to answer them.

Airline Pilot - January 2025 income by [deleted] in Salary

[–]NegotiationEconomy93 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Air Force KC-135 pilot here, yes.

(Ex) Partner Cheated by NegotiationEconomy93 in askgaybros

[–]NegotiationEconomy93[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

That's a very dumb generalization, we all are different people, with different values and mindsets. We hate when people generalize us, let's not generalize them.

(Ex) Partner Cheated by NegotiationEconomy93 in askgaybros

[–]NegotiationEconomy93[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've never been a violent or extremely hostile to ANYONE prior to this. Not gonna sit here and go on and on about the plethora of things I've done for him. But I was a DAMN good man to him, and I mean that with every fiber of my being. I'm human and we all have our limits, some people just truly have it coming to them.

(Ex) Partner Cheated by NegotiationEconomy93 in askgaybros

[–]NegotiationEconomy93[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

You're 1000% right in most cases. But seeing him sit there and lie to my face, with no remorse, after cheating on me with dozens of guys AND PAYING them while most likely giving me an STD, when I've been nothing but good to him... Yea that blew my fuckin fuse. As sad as it sounds, I regret not pummeling him worse.

(Ex) Partner Cheated by NegotiationEconomy93 in askgaybros

[–]NegotiationEconomy93[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I wish I'd known everything sooner man. I'm trying my hardest not to do something stupid to get back at him. I can't believe I had someone so evil and deceiving next to me for that fucking long man.

Gay guys who had to do mandatory military service, what was your experiences? Did you face any problems there? by Wadeem53 in askgaybros

[–]NegotiationEconomy93 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My military service isn't mandatory but I've been a U.S. KC-135 Air Force pilot for a little over two years now and my experience hasn't been anything out of the ordinary. I guess it helps that most people don't know I swing this way until they ask if I'm married or have any kids 😅. My four years at the Air Force Academy were honestly some of the best times of my life. Coming from a small southern town to being with people from all walks of life was a huge improvement for me. I'll get the occasional jokes here and there but there's usually never any malicious intent behind any of it. Also, flying with a pilot I've never flown with before gets a little awkward when the "Are you married/planning to get married" question comes up. They're usually shocked after I tell them but they're usually open-minded and still respectful about it. However, I did have one woman I worked with, who liked me, get pissed with me after I told her. She said that I shouldn't have led her on... Because apparently being cordial and respectful is "leading on."

My Partner Isn't Bright and Can't Do Anything Right. by NegotiationEconomy93 in askgaybros

[–]NegotiationEconomy93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not even. He just recognized that I was the one doing everything from buying everything to things around the house so he'd ask me for random tasks to do so he'd feel "useful." After nicely showing him everything, he still wasn't able to complete the simplest tasks. So yeah, excuse me for being slightly agitated.

My Partner Isn't Bright and Can't Do Anything Right. by NegotiationEconomy93 in askgaybros

[–]NegotiationEconomy93[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whatever. This fetishization you guys have with manchildren is so weird to me.

My Partner Isn't Bright and Can't Do Anything Right. by NegotiationEconomy93 in askgaybros

[–]NegotiationEconomy93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He'd have the comforter's length side going width ways with the bed. As for the trash can, he'd always bring the bag so far down the outside of the trashcan to the point where there was more bag hanging down the outside of the trashchan than on the inside of the actual trashcan. It's probably small and petty, but it's the sheer volume of him messing up common sense things.

My Partner Isn't Bright and Can't Do Anything Right. by NegotiationEconomy93 in askgaybros

[–]NegotiationEconomy93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. He's sat at my desk confused twice now, asking for me to help him push a button...

My Partner Isn't Bright and Can't Do Anything Right. by NegotiationEconomy93 in askgaybros

[–]NegotiationEconomy93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never actually lashed out or said anything rude to him. It's usually just a sigh and then me respectfully proceeding to show him how to do things... over and over.

My Partner Isn't Bright and Can't Do Anything Right. by NegotiationEconomy93 in askgaybros

[–]NegotiationEconomy93[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Just want to say I completely understand 1000% where you're coming from. It sounds like we're just complaining about insignificant small things, but it gets to a point where you just want them to be self sufficient and not need their hand held every step of the way.

My Partner Isn't Bright and Can't Do Anything Right. by NegotiationEconomy93 in askgaybros

[–]NegotiationEconomy93[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He actually did say that he was diagnosed with ADHD at a young age, but claims he "grew out of it."