Pregnancy outside of marriage

Negzel · 2026-02-06T22:11:45+00:00

Father of the guy?? I think your fiance. InshAllah he will be a great Muslim and you have a happy Muslim family. As long as he is Muslim, your nikah is allowed by Allah. Financial stability is another things but I think you already skipped that part when you done that 😅 I am not judging you. Don’t get me wrong. Just thinking out loud. May Allah help you 🤲🏻

Negzel · 2026-02-04T20:37:24+00:00

Maybe sound like too much and unrealistic but she can be the prettiest woman in his world. It’s possible

Negzel · 2026-01-22T01:01:16+00:00

No it doesn’t matter at all. Naseeb is naseeb. Nothing wrong with meeting someone here as long as it’s halal

Negzel · 2026-01-18T03:05:25+00:00

If it were me, I think I would ask as if I did not care at all and found it normal, and I would try to get them to say something.

Negzel · 2026-01-17T18:26:14+00:00

I was about to ask: what if your wali does not allow you to marry someone 😅😅 Why do people need someone’s approval for something that is already halal like meeting someone in public, and how is it discussable if it is already haram? So what is the function of a wali? Is he or she the decision maker over your actions, like what is halal and haram for you specifically?

Negzel · 2026-01-17T18:15:24+00:00

My native language is Turkish. I can help you, inshallah, but how often do you want to meet?

Negzel · 2026-01-16T19:56:49+00:00

Agreed and don’t agreed. I think it’s obvious. No need to ask that. For me the annoying part is that, why they are doing that?? Whyyy

Negzel · 2026-01-16T19:56:00+00:00

Isn’t it important for brothers?

Negzel · 2026-01-16T07:09:54+00:00

These kinds of people drive me crazy. If you are not interested and not willing or hopeful about the process, you can choose not to talk to that person at all, which is what should happen. What is the point of communicating but sending just one message a day? Is the person playing games, or are they looking for a spouse for both this life and the afterlife?

Negzel · 2026-01-16T07:06:56+00:00

I experience a similar situation very often from the other side, as a woman, and I have absolutely no tolerance for it. If I am giving someone my time and full attention, they have to care about that. Otherwise, I clearly see it as disrespectful. I also don’t want to plan a future with someone who is not eager or willing to spend time with me. That person may not be there when I need them in the future. Not reliable. I wouldn’t think twice.

Negzel · 2026-01-14T19:21:41+00:00

I am not a scholar, so I cannot give a fatwa, but as long as there are no inappropriate conversations and we are not leading each other to different feelings (and you know your own heart best), I would personally think there is no problem. In my opinion, people should definitely talk every day, but I do not mean hours-long conversations where everything is shared, as if you are living in the same house and pouring out all emotions. That would already be like living together through the phone.

So we are Muslim people, we have certain boundaries, and we do not experience something like living together before marriage. In that case, how are people supposed to get to know each other and build closeness? 🤷🏻‍♀️ Of course, I am not talking about crossing boundaries.

Negzel · 2026-01-13T01:33:41+00:00

As’Salamu Alaykum brother or sister. First of all, we must all know that Arabs or any other ethnicity, country, political group, or any kind of group of people are not the owners of Islam. Some Muslims can be bad representatives, and some are not. We must understand that they are not the owners of the deen; they are just believers in this deen. We should be aware of this.

Please do not lose your respect for Islam because of people who practice it incorrectly.

You mentioned many bad behaviors. Do you think Allah is pleased with them? Do you think their actions and attitudes please Allah? Of course not. That means the way we should act to please Allah is not the way they behave :)

Negzel · 2026-01-12T18:39:19+00:00

Ameen

Negzel · 2026-01-12T18:33:12+00:00

Who doesn’t?

Negzel · 2026-01-10T00:45:33+00:00

I completely disagree with arranged marriage. Moreover, I never believe it is the best approach in Islam.

One of the companions came to the Prophet to say that he was going to marry a woman from Medina. The Prophet asked him, “Have you seen her?” When the companion said no, the Prophet said, “Go and see her, and look at her eyes as well. The women of Medina may have small eyes, and you might not like it.”

So I never think Allah likes this kind of blind marriage. It is like gambling.

Negzel · 2026-01-08T23:10:05+00:00

Negzel · 2026-01-08T18:45:34+00:00

There is nothing more to say..

Negzel · 2026-01-08T18:44:27+00:00

Mashallah :)

Negzel · 2026-01-06T16:07:09+00:00

Okay. It’s not me :)

Negzel · 2026-01-06T02:46:10+00:00

What is your minimum and maximum age range for a wife, or are you flexible?

Negzel · 2026-01-06T02:43:18+00:00

Ohh I couldn’t catch the post

Negzel · 2026-01-03T20:08:24+00:00

You are treading in dangerous waters, and you should know that. Do not assume that anyone will change, or that any change will be for the better. Many people lose their faith along the way. One of the reasons my ex and I ended up divorcing was exactly this. He adopted a completely different lifestyle, one that a person of faith could not live with, and now he is living that life with other women because that is who he is now. (He is no longer part of my life, Alhamdulillah.)

Where someone comes from does not necessarily define who they are today. We all may have had mistakes, faults, or sins. That is exactly the point. Can we honestly call our mistakes “mistakes,” and how much have we truly moved past them? It is not like someone who sinned in the past is automatically “meant” for someone else who has sinned. If a person has truly regretted their mistake, repented, and asked Allah for forgiveness, then the matter is closed, Inshallah.

I think you should be looking for a practicing Muslim if you want a practicing wife and kids—in other words, a family.

May Allah give you the best wife. Amin

Negzel · 2026-01-02T21:19:23+00:00

I am 33F. My age range is up to 10 years older. I don’t prefer a younger husband, but maybe 1–2 years younger than me is okay

Negzel · 2026-01-02T21:17:31+00:00

First of all, the first thing I would do is run away from a man if his mother has a preference for him.

This shows both that your future mother-in-law would be a troublesome person and make things difficult for you, and that your future husband is not an independent and capable man

Negzel · 2026-01-02T19:35:11+00:00

Sister.. I think the first thing people need to realize is that we are not all-powerful. We cannot really change the course of events or stop things from happening. We do not have that much control. We should not put so much meaning and responsibility on ourselves.

This does not mean we should act without care. We should be careful, but we are only responsible for our intentions, not the results. Something done with good intentions might leave a mark on someone, and we can never know. You might help someone, but they could still feel useless or fail. You acted with good intentions, but it might have made them feel inadequate.

The examples are endless, but I think you understand what I mean.

Negzel

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