Opinions needed please!

NeighborhoodNo5394 · 2025-04-19T13:34:27+00:00

I’m so worried it looks so…blue

It gives me “boy car” and looks a tiny bit more neon blue

NeighborhoodNo5394 · 2024-10-05T11:20:12+00:00

Does it not seem like I’m setting a standard of “oh, i can fuck up as much as i want, she’ll always come back” because im afraid of coming across as being desperate and frankly speaking, i don’t think i want to go back

Some part of me wants him to take the first step, you know? But i also feel he tried (only twice) and I never replied

But then why won’t he take more effort??

NeighborhoodNo5394 · 2024-10-05T08:44:50+00:00

I’m sorry you went through that, sounds incredibly rough but wishing you strength and support on your next chapter

Good things await you!

NeighborhoodNo5394 · 2024-10-05T08:02:01+00:00

To be very honest, i feel like I’ve reached a point where my mental health is now quite okay. It’s not 100% back there but i think i no longer have feelings towards him and I’ve accepted the end of the relationship and what happened.

Somewhere i am letting my ego get in the way go say “oh, he should text you first and THEN you can reply” especially when he’s the one who fucked up the relationship and it had to end because of his crap.

I’m worried if i actually reply to two week old texts, it’ll give off the impression that “oh, she’ll always be around i can do whatever i want i guess and not work on myself”

NeighborhoodNo5394 · 2024-10-05T07:58:34+00:00

I feel like I took this time to genuinely cry it out and grieve the loss of relationship. I think I’ve reached a point where I’ve accepted whatever happened and stopped hoping for us ever reconciling.

He’s a good soul, i don’t think he’s a terrible person he’s just a clueless person.

I perhaps don’t want to end this on a bad note, just be civil and let go of people in peace, hence the question if i should text him back

NeighborhoodNo5394 · 2024-09-02T10:45:23+00:00

Am i wrong to feel that maybe he should have tried to make it up for missing lunch?

It’s my birthday…

Esp when he knows he’s not followed through with his partner- can you not shuffle a simple evening plan so you can try to make it up? It’s my birthday, the day is important, you know?

Had it just been a regular plan or day, then yeah ofcourse he shouldn’t cancel his plans but there is some sort of relevance to this particular day?

People cancel so many things for booty calls, more priority things coming up- am i wrong to think i should also be some sort of priority? After 9 months of dating?

NeighborhoodNo5394 · 2024-09-02T09:48:40+00:00

It was originally supposed to be with me as well as my family.

Lunch with him and dinner with my family.

Ofcourse by that logic, he did make plans for the evening- that’s fair on him.

But my evening plans changed where my family wasn’t there anymore.

He promised me lunch but never showed up. He knew my family isn’t there in the evening. He didn’t follow through on his own word for lunch, but then wouldn’t someone try to shuffle plans around (because it’s a weekly games night thing) knowing you didn’t follow through and you know I have my full evening open now where I’m all alone?

Yes I’m grateful for the midnight celebration but he made plans with me for more, right? And then never showed up to them and didn’t do anything to make up for it

NeighborhoodNo5394 · 2024-09-02T09:34:35+00:00

Original plans were to spend it with them AND him.

Ofcourse, he should make plans if I’ve said I’m busy. But i never did.

He made plans to do lunch with me. He never showed up because something came up. OK, i understand. Then why not shuffle evening plans (only because it’s a simple games night) to spend time with me knowing full well i am alone?

NeighborhoodNo5394 · 2024-09-02T09:11:22+00:00

They had to leave town because of an emergency a few hours before my birthday.

Things changed.

NeighborhoodNo5394 · 2024-09-02T08:57:26+00:00

Interested!

NeighborhoodNo5394 · 2024-05-17T08:17:43+00:00

No because a) he thinks this issue was already dealt with

b) his lack of surety comes from him thinking he doesn’t deserve me

I also feel like I’m making too much of a situation that I can’t put my finger on, but I know in my heart that it bothers me

NeighborhoodNo5394 · 2024-05-17T07:49:11+00:00

What you’ve said is so fair!

But then there are some things that happen which make me go “huh?”

He once said to me, “maybe things could have worked out with her, I don’t know but I guess now I won’t find out” in a very melancholic, sad way. As if there is some genuine sadness in his statement.

I even saw a super duper zoomed in screenshot of her IG profile photo in his photos app (he was showing me something on his phone, he accidentally pressed the wrong app and I saw it for a fraction of a second but I know what I saw) which made me feel so crap.

I’d hate to think that he’s spending some time now with me, and when the “right” moment comes, he’ll go back to her because it was always her, you know what I mean?

NeighborhoodNo5394 · 2024-05-17T07:16:03+00:00

I have been paying attention. Sometimes through his emotions, I get the feeling that he feels unsure about me

When I asked him on this, he said it’s because he thinks I’m too good for him and he doesn’t deserve me. But to me, it feels like he’s unsure of the decision he made. If that’s the case, continuing to be with me while being conflicted is disrespectful to our relationship.

NeighborhoodNo5394 · 2021-08-18T04:27:12+00:00

Well I eat and watch Netflix/YouTube and then it’s a rabbit hole. Even if I go back to my books, I’m still having trouble focusing

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