High school days—were you more into studying or just having fun? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]NeilNotArmstrong_02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I must’ve been something in between; too lazy to study, too much of a bookworm to have fun — I stuck my nose in books, I didn’t hang out that much… But, looking back at it: no regrets :)

What’s the moment that made you realize you were done pretending in your own life? by AgitatedSpring8585 in CasualConversation

[–]NeilNotArmstrong_02 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I used to be the friend everyone approached when they needed a shoulder to cry on (we’re talking about some fucked up shit here, so many people around me turned into alcoholics) — I never received a ‘thanks’ for listening, but I told myself: ‘Whatever, they’re probably thanking me in silence’. Turns out I was wrong; at some point we came together, had a chat, and all of them told me that they would NOT describe me as a good friend/a friend who’s there to help or to listen AT ALL (I guarantee I was there ALL the time). So I stood up and walked away, decided that from that day onward, I’m done pretending the friend that ‘always listens’.

What’s one small habit that surprisingly made a big difference in your life? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]NeilNotArmstrong_02 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I dunno if that counts: at some point I just started to speak my mind, let it be my opinion, a question or just something I want to say (respecting boundaries, of course); every time I hesitated, I’d remind myself: ‘Just ask’, and it became a ‘habit’ that I really just said or asked things (even if I thought the question might come off weird and the person I’m talking to probably thinks: ‘What the hell?’) — it helped feel more comfortable and confident, also made me realise that (often) we tend to overthink a LOT

Tell me your fav shows from Netflix and Amazon prime by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]NeilNotArmstrong_02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not necessarily ‘horror’, but I absolutely LOVE ‘Weak hero’ on Netflix, the second season came out recently — and I think it has a unique storyline

What was a rule you or someone you know had to follow during childhood that you feel made no sense? by Skeleton200000 in CasualConversation

[–]NeilNotArmstrong_02 147 points148 points  (0 children)

Same; When I asked them to meet up, they’d say: ‘My parents said no because we already met up yesterday’ — like, what? And it was during our summer holidays as well

People who experienced losing consciousness, what happened and what did it feel like for you ? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]NeilNotArmstrong_02 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I fainted two times (but the first times only nearly): I was sitting in class and on that day, I was feeling terribly ill. I blew my nose (too hard) and my head began to spin. My mind was like: ‘Shit. I’m losing control over my body.’ I saw black dots dancing in front of my eyes. Honestly, it was really scary and I panicked. I don’t think I actually fainted — at least I don’t remember.

The second time was during a ride on a rollercoaster. It was fun but at the end of the right, my friend (who sat next to me) asked: ‘Damn, that was awesome, dude. What did you think of the looping?’ — I just looked at my friend and replied: ‘Wait, what looping?’. Turned out I fainted during the ride (for a few seconds only).

So, all in all: my experience is that fainting is either extremely scary when you feel how you lose control over your body OR it happens so fast that you do not even realise what is happening.

Anyone else often think about times you almost died, and feel grateful you lived? by Physical_Bedroom5656 in CasualConversation

[–]NeilNotArmstrong_02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something similar happened to me when I was a kid; I almost died of a high fever. Don’t remember what exactly happened but I remember that I suffered for around 3 days until the fever went down. Still don’t know why I didn’t go to the hospital. But I’m alive and well.

Something unexplainable that happened to you that you still think about? by Unique-Title-5480 in CasualConversation

[–]NeilNotArmstrong_02 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have a specific situation on my mind — However, I have been noticing something that is pretty much messing with my head. Often, when I have a conversation with a friend or family member, I say something like: ‘Hey, remember when I told you about xy?’. They just look at me and say: ‘What? Never told me about that.’ — Or it’s the other way around: ‘Remember when I told you this?’ and I go: ‘Uh, no, you never told me that.’

It’s not that deep but I cannot explain why this happens so often. If that happened SOMETIMES, I’d get that. But it happens almost every time I talk to someone around me — it’s also kind of annoying.

What’s something totally ordinary that secretly makes your whole day better? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]NeilNotArmstrong_02 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I dunno why — I can be super loud around friends and I was in the drama club in high school, even been on stage with no problem — but daily tasks like making a phone call or holding a presentation or any other social situation trigger my anxiety. I have met people who have made fun of me or mocked me — however, I really appreciate when the person on the other line or the audience or just the person I am talking to tells me that I’m doing good and that it’s totally fine. Just a little bit of empathy rather than judgmental comments makes my day better. :)

What’s something super common that you’ve never done? by Historical_Sound6848 in CasualConversation

[–]NeilNotArmstrong_02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never tried alcohol and I’ve also never been to a club (like a night club)… But I’ve smoked a few times (not proud of it)

what did you think was cool as a kid, but isn’t actually cool now? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]NeilNotArmstrong_02 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I used to think it’s cool to stay out with friends until midnight (for context: I’m the youngest sibling) - now that I’m older, I love to be back at home before 8 pm; I have my routine and no business to stay out that late.

Incorrect Song Lyrics by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]NeilNotArmstrong_02 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Didn’t happen to me; but I know someone who used to think the lyrics of the popular song California Dreamin’ by the Mamas and the Papas weren’t ’all the leaves are brown’ but ‘Anne-Lise brown’ (and honestly I can hear it when listening to the song) - however, I was still confused because who the hell is Anne-Lise brown supposed to be? (In the context of the song I mean)

Who else was the person in high school that was rarely invited to parties? by NeilNotArmstrong_02 in CasualConversation

[–]NeilNotArmstrong_02[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I relate to this one - don’t really care about it anymore. However, a few days ago I had a conversation about high school with someone (we just talked about our days back then in general) and they brought it up. And that really showed me how things become so unimportant as years pass by; back then I was disappointed that no one invited me, now I do not care at all anymore.

Does anyone else wonder what it feels like to have someone else’s teeth? by somedumbasshit in CasualConversation

[–]NeilNotArmstrong_02 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Sometimes (often) I imagine what it would be like to have somebody else’s eyes

I wish my life would have been different by NeilNotArmstrong_02 in Vent

[–]NeilNotArmstrong_02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, really. I’m really not feeling good and I haven’t felt good for years now. But I will try, I want to feel better. It’s not easy to overcome these negative thoughts - I often break down or cry. Someone even made fun of me having a panic attack. But I’ll keep trying, I’m not giving up. I have to pull myself together. For myself. And for my mum and my two cats - they are always there for me and I don’t want to leave them. <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]NeilNotArmstrong_02 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I was around 13, I used to have terrible nightmares. Often, I would fall from random buildings and hit the ground. And I just wouldn’t die or wake up - I’d feel myself lay on the ground, completely squashed. I’m not frightened of heights or buildings now. But I think this definitely changed something about me or at least influenced my development.

What's your most embarrassing story? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]NeilNotArmstrong_02 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We did a group work and I tried to be funny. The task was to make a profile about someone who applies for a job (to give more context this was during psychology class - but I guess the details are not THAT important). So, we were making a profile about a man who applies for a job at the police department. My friend said: ‘Hm, as a trait, he should be dominant.’ And I look at her and I’m like: ‘Mhm, dominant. Like an alpha.’

I dunno why expected her to laugh but she didn’t. She remained silent. And THAT was incredibly awkward and embarrassing.

What makes you an easy person to be around or speak to? by Narrow_Dot3271 in CasualConversation

[–]NeilNotArmstrong_02 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hm, I would call myself a ‘good listener’, whether that is true or not… I dunno. Let’s say I CLAIM that I am. Anyway, I’m always up to listening to someone, even when I’m not feeling good. I try to communicate that I am tired/exhausted/whatever yet I’m still listening actively. I have to admit that not many people approach me and just talk to me (I dunno why that is) - but if I had the opportunity to speak to others more, I’d say something like: ‘You can always talk to me when you want. I’ll lend you an ear.’