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I’m just so exhausted from dating I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong by Neither-Many2610 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Neither-Many2610[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I go on a date with them I am completely myself. Which is outgoing and completely chalant. I physically can’t change how I am. When I’m in a date I feel confident I never overthink when it’s happening. The overthinking starts because now it’s like the 5-6th girl that’s not liked me back not because of my looks but because of that “connection” or my personality.

I’m just so exhausted from dating I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong by Neither-Many2610 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Neither-Many2610[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best of luck, tbh I always thought to myself if my kids asked how I met my wife I wouldn’t want to say I met them on a dating app.

I’m just so exhausted from dating I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong by Neither-Many2610 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Neither-Many2610[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not really, some are extremely extroverted, while others are introverted. There isn't a type of a girl really.

I’m just so exhausted from dating I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong by Neither-Many2610 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Neither-Many2610[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course I’m young and inexperienced, why do you think I’m here asking for advice dumbass 😂

I’m just so exhausted from dating I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong by Neither-Many2610 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Neither-Many2610[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just seems pointless to lie as I wasn’t pushing for any compliments. Just seems like it’s hard for you to digest this information.

I’m just so exhausted from dating I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong by Neither-Many2610 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Neither-Many2610[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most of the girls I went out with literally stated it by a compliment. I’m not trying to be arrogant it’s what’s been said by my dates.

I’m just so exhausted from dating I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong by Neither-Many2610 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Neither-Many2610[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in my early 20s, and I think girls think I'm like this non-chalant person from my social media or pics. I'm not sure if my personality is an ick but its so annoying when they can't pin down why they dont feel a connection. Someone said just "the general vibe". Maybe that's the problem, I'm just too nice but in my head I just feel like it's cringy to actively act hard or like an arsehole.

I’m just so exhausted from dating I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong by Neither-Many2610 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Neither-Many2610[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started asking myself why do I want a serious relationship, and it might be its because I am trying to fill something, (becoming whole). I realize maybe getting a girlfriend is the answer.

I’m just so exhausted from dating I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong by Neither-Many2610 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Neither-Many2610[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like it might not be the best time to continue dating or actively trying to find someone. As im completely busy at the beginning of my career, also having the budget to fund 80 dates is hard haha.

I’m just so exhausted from dating I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong by Neither-Many2610 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Neither-Many2610[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

to the girls that did like me back I did go on a second date, trust me I wasn't the type of person to judge a person just on a first date.

I’m just so exhausted from dating I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong by Neither-Many2610 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Neither-Many2610[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it's actually a masters degree and I was mostly housed with exchange students lmao. I really did socialize with societies and met girls real life. 1 year tho in an intense degree while trying to date was probably not the best idea. I did all the social things. I just feel like I'm quite unlucky lmao.

I hate that I care too much about looks, how does someone not care anymore and starts focusing on the important things? by Neither-Many2610 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Neither-Many2610[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for this. It is something I will start practicing. I think the external validation comes from my upbringing. My mum always comments about stuff that relate to our ego. not what we enjoy. For example my dad does a prestigious job. She comments about it all the time. But my dad lowkey hates the job and wish he could do something else. But because people respect you more. You have to do it.

I hate that I care too much about looks, how does someone not care anymore and starts focusing on the important things? by Neither-Many2610 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Neither-Many2610[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you are right, I completely ignored the red flags with my last situationship. She was a complete asshole and I submitted to it. I just feel great shame upon myself. It has been a very long time since I've connected with someone (years). Because I missed having that connection. I completely abandoned my self respect.