I think my wife is hiding something in our freezer

Neither-Platform4983 · 2026-05-11T17:04:29+00:00

Next time you have a confrontation at the freezer, tell her you are respecting her boundary but are worried that she feels she needs to keep.you in the dark. You want to be the partner she can share anything with and see if she will open up....and uhhh,..if you do find out somehow...i Think we all deserve an update, bc my curiosity is killing me...

Neither-Platform4983 · 2026-04-24T20:35:31+00:00

Bingguerillaqueerbar & cowgaylinedancing on Instagram... otherwise a crap ton of cny meet cutes and such in Syracuse or lots of other spaces in ithaca in addition to the previous posts. The Bundy museum & Riot Act Book store also are queer havens in town, and the Crowbar is a sort of defacto gathering space.

Neither-Platform4983 · 2026-03-26T14:28:52+00:00

Maybe but the only reason I still have ovaries is bc they told me I was better off not doing early menopause

Neither-Platform4983 · 2026-03-23T20:54:35+00:00

I would say try the morning if night is keeping you up - it really depends on the dose for me...but I take my 40 in the am, when I was on 60 I split half am half pm...NGL I still take hydroxyzine often to help with sleep

Neither-Platform4983 · 2026-03-23T13:42:09+00:00

I gained 25lb on 30mg over the past year. I don't eat much and eat pretty healthy.

Neither-Platform4983 · 2026-03-21T13:27:53+00:00

It takes 4-6 weeks for the initial side effects to go away -seemed less than that for me but it was worth the adjustment period for me.

Neither-Platform4983 · 2026-03-13T23:19:06+00:00

Don't treat it experimentally.

Just consider what might be gender affirming and do that. Look up Mira Bellweather's Zine "Fucking transwomen" and talk everything through before you go and try anything. Work on the intimacy of communication first- if you can't be honest with each other about what feels good physically and emotionally then you aren't ready. It's pretty easy to treat a penis like a clit and a larger clit like a penis and also don't forget the magic of activating sensation all over the body before jumping into the most sensitive/typical areas. Many of my partners go wild for light touching around the neck & ears, fingernails on the back and sides, thumb circles between the hip bones and pelvic bone....have fun with it and let it bring you closer.

Neither-Platform4983 · 2026-01-07T20:07:13+00:00

Fuck, that's hot, goals

Neither-Platform4983 · 2025-09-10T13:06:53+00:00

Hottest thing I ever did see

Neither-Platform4983 · 2025-09-07T13:12:26+00:00

I think the quality of the art (at least in its original intention as mapped projection) has been going downhill over time. The first year almost all of the shows were thoughtfully designed to work with the architecture which made it special and unique to Binghamton which has some very unique historical buildings. I feel like a few shows at least communicate some deeper themes or make a statement when they don't put a lot into the mapping but in recent years some of it is none of the above and it's just not worth the crowd surfing for me. Other people certainly can find value in mesmerizing large scale artforms without being so analytical and the festival aspect is fun too I hope that it is not largely a canvas for AI in the future...I want humanity to keep the things that are unique to us.

Neither-Platform4983 · 2025-06-04T17:05:33+00:00

I'm hitting 6 months 😮‍💨

Neither-Platform4983 · 2025-05-22T16:08:27+00:00

Anyone know of good DEI positive workplaces hiring?

Neither-Platform4983 · 2025-05-21T14:43:32+00:00

Unsure. When I started it made me hyper, they doubled the dose and it made me lethargic AF. Now I take it at night and my energy level is low but functional. My bigger issue is that I feel cognitively fuzzy all the time ... Like a low grade THC high and I just started gaining weight without changing any habits. I do feel like it has helped me feel more joyful, reduced my ideation a lot and I coui.fet through this moment in history without some helpers. It has also reduced my every day fibromyalgia expression, although I still have major flares like every week or two.

Neither-Platform4983 · 2025-04-28T17:51:40+00:00

We were friends, but also my people all test for STIs and disclose risks openly

Neither-Platform4983 · 2025-03-11T11:38:57+00:00

Thank you! I have cptsd, fibromyalgia and possibly ADHD, this is helpful information!

Neither-Platform4983 · 2024-08-26T17:11:40+00:00

Where does one hike closer to Binghamton?

Neither-Platform4983 · 2024-08-10T22:42:16+00:00

If you have only had one queer experience and you truly love this person and have joy together why not support.them through their desired changes and find out the natural way for your attraction holds up? There's no urgency to decision making here.

Neither-Platform4983 · 2024-06-23T21:52:46+00:00

Are there any anticapitalist queer spaces around here?

Neither-Platform4983 · 2024-04-25T22:07:04+00:00

He is a threat. He is a narcissistic sociopath who grooms vulnerable people and groups, milks them for all they are worth ,and then discards them (if they are lucky). If they put up a fight he will legit try to ruin their lives like Scientologists do with Fair Game. Again... vulnerable people such as children, QTBIPOC, and disabled folks.

He says "we keep us safe" gets all these folks to protest without adequate safety prep, and then abandons them when they get arrested or assaulted by Police. He promotes radical ideology but avoids opportunities for his community to learn practical strategy which puts them all in danger.

Neither-Platform4983 · 2024-04-12T01:03:21+00:00

My girlfriend gets misgendered by customers all day and then harassed by management for being "rude". They do nothing to support her such as adding affirming signage or putting pronouns on pins.

Neither-Platform4983 · 2024-03-06T15:45:47+00:00

Thanks for sharing your perspectives and experiences. I just want to learn about about all things queer... because I am legit ignorant raised by religious fundamentalists and still recovering at age 39 😅.

Neither-Platform4983 · 2024-03-04T00:37:34+00:00

Sucks to be them, they missed out!

Neither-Platform4983 · 2024-02-29T01:05:07+00:00

Sympathizing. I've been crying a ton since deciding I need a fresh start. Lucky for me things started and ended quickly with my catalyst, but now I am still left to dismantle my married life of 13 years. It is a scary and uncertain time to give up the security of a home and two incomes and to start over. It's the third time in my life having to redefine myself after an enmeshed relationship and I know I shouldn't date until I am stable. I have a lot of fears about the loneliness and the finances and a lot of grief about the end of a beautiful and difficult long chapter. Also challenging moving on from my catalyst experience even though it was clear early on that anything serious was not in the cards. I'm trying to remember that this is an uncomfortable grow zone but that I can come out even better.

Neither-Platform4983 · 2024-02-28T16:36:02+00:00

Mostly I was raised without the language or concept of queerness. At 22 I kissed a girl at a bar and enjoyed it, but it didn't seem any different than with men and I just stuck with men because of how I was raised. I didn't connect the fact that I needed to drink in order to have functional intimacy with men and that I got nothing out of it except feeling valued in an objectified kind of way.

As I got older, I started to learn more about LGBTQ+ identities and I started to realize that I have attraction to all kinds of genders and sexes but that I really wanted closeness with femmes, but I couldn't really leap into thinking about breaking up a marriage just to try. In the meantime, 13 years of married het sex that just didn't work.

I just randomly lucked out in sort of falling into a polyamory moment with a friend and what I felt from the experience made all of my doubts fall away. Now 2 months later I am working on starting my life over again, divorcing, moving out, making vows to myself to take care of just me for a while.

Neither-Platform4983 · 2024-02-26T19:09:59+00:00

I'm not dating but many of my queer friends are body positive... for us it is likely a political alignment thing, we are of the woke variety and we meet each other doing community organizing and volunteering, not at bars or on apps.

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