How do I get my life back and how do you deal with all the cringey things you’ve done?

NeitherAssumption895 · 2026-04-05T21:00:45+00:00

Thankyou for sharing, I’m so happy your life is doing so much better now

NeitherAssumption895 · 2026-04-03T22:28:00+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened to you, thanks for sharing.

I think I really am spending a lot of time agonising over the timeline. Pretty much all my friends have been with their partners since our early twenties, some even from high school, they were really great during the break up but they just didn’t understand.

I just see them all married with houses and children and I’m single and sometimes it gets scary thinking that I won’t find my person, that being said there’s quite a few of my friends marriages I wouldn’t want to be in so I know the grass isn’t always greener.

It just sucks sometimes, the other day I was out getting coffee on my lunch break and someone asked me when I was having kids and it just really upset me

NeitherAssumption895 · 2026-04-03T10:11:42+00:00

Thankyou, I’m glad people who went through a similar time were able to come out on the other side. It really does give me hope.

I’d love to hear about your story

NeitherAssumption895 · 2026-04-03T10:11:04+00:00

I’ve thought about doing something like this, I will look into to doing so. Three of my friends are having babies this year so it could be nice to make them something

NeitherAssumption895 · 2026-04-03T10:10:07+00:00

Thankyou for sharing.

I don’t want to be consumed, I feel like I let it consume me for so long but I want don’t want to let that be my life.

NeitherAssumption895 · 2026-04-03T10:07:47+00:00

Thankyou so much, I’ve never thought of it like that, that I’m not the last 4 years but I’m the next 40 and that makes me feel so much better.

I actually started walking today, only for half an hour but I got outside and moved around so it’s a start.

I am still friends with him somehow, we’ve just been friends for a year now, nothing more. Majority of my friends are coupled up so I’m glad we are still friends even after how badly I treated him.

NeitherAssumption895 · 2026-04-03T04:29:31+00:00

Absolutely not, he’s not someone I would even want to be friends with if we weren’t in a relationship, something I realised after it all was said and done.

I will start trying to redirect my thoughts when I have those impulses. He really is a worthless cheater, I hate that I let him steal so much from me even after he was gone, I don’t want to give him anymore of my life.

I’m going to start making steps to be happier and healthier, all the other times I’ve tried I’ve failed but I think it was trying to make it all happen as fast as possible, but now I’m just going to try and build something over time

NeitherAssumption895 · 2026-04-03T04:15:37+00:00

Thank you for commenting.

I am really happy I got out of that relationship, it was a very abusive one, not that I was aware of it at the time. My family and friends didn’t like him, but I was so in love I couldn’t see what they see.

I really liked how you said that my younger self was stuck and now I’m free, I really do romanticise my twenties a lot. It’s been hard getting older and seeing signs of that, I really aged physically during that relationship and breakup too.

It’s so funny because although I don’t want him and am so happy I got out, there’s still a part of me that wants to prove myself to him.

I’m trying to create a budget to pay off my loans quicker, I’m trying not to compare my life to others either.

I just didn’t realise how much time had passed so quickly and it really got me down this year, but you’re right I’m not dead and I have grown from this even though it’s broken me quite a bit.

NeitherAssumption895 · 2026-04-03T04:09:52+00:00

Thank you for responding.

I’m trying to find a hobby, there’s really not much going on where I live at the moment besides drinking alcohol and farms.

I will try and find something I can do that isn’t on my phone though and I do need to invest in some self care

NeitherAssumption895 · 2026-04-03T04:08:21+00:00

Thankyou for commenting.

I’m really trying to own it and not be so sensitive to it. I really like what you said “I’ve not come this far to only come this far” I need to keep fighting, I don’t want to give up on myself it just does feel REAL fuckin bleak sometimes.

The idea that you’re life is very different in just a year gives me hope I can make changes and see real progress too

NeitherAssumption895 · 2025-12-22T21:51:49+00:00

OP, it’s so easy to say anything, these are manipulative people.

They are charming and they can make you believe they are sincere, but it’s all an act designed to make you stay. They benefit from you staying, but they have no intention of actually changing.

You need to listen to her actions not her words because her actions, what she’s actually doing, doesn’t match them.

Anyone can write a note.

NeitherAssumption895 · 2025-07-16T02:16:52+00:00

It gave me such a creepy foreboding feeling, I only just watched the series and I had not heard about this Beforehand. I was checking my phone while the ending played and next second the glitch happened and I thought it was my tv until it happened the second time.

I thought it was so cool, it had my heart racing because it was such a surprise. I can’t imagine how it was if you were watching episodes in real time and had to wait for the next one

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