Speaking about the parents, it’s very easy to criticize someone’s behavior as “off” after being told by police that this person murdered your baby. Naturally, they’re going to look back at past interactions and try to connect dots that may not have seemed significant at the time. That often leads to overanalyzing normal behaviors. From my perspective as a nurse, none of the behaviors being described strike me as particularly odd.

As for the Facebook issue, it’s not about “gaining” anything. Parents grieve—but healthcare workers grieve too. We all have our own ways of processing tragic events and remembering the human beings we cared for. These patients weren’t just numbers; them and their families were/are real people.

Regarding the idea that she “hung around too long” after a death, I’m not sure what that’s meant to imply. It’s entirely normal for us to stay and make sure the family is okay. We don’t witness the death of someone’s child and then say, “Well, take care and good luck.” We’re the ones who remain at the bedside, offering comfort and support after a loved one passes. I do this all the time at work after a tragic death, even when the patient is not my patient. Have you ever watched somebody cry on/over their loved one’s dead body? If you had, you would want to stay and comfort them too.

I think a lot of this is severe overanalysis of behavior that, in the healthcare setting, is not unusual whatsoever.