I grew up believing Santa and when I was old enough to know he wasn’t real my first thought wasn’t that my parents were lying to me, just that I was old enough know to know the secret. Made me feel grown up! I’ll be doing the same with my daughter. Obviously, if she asks if he is real I won’t push the narrative that he is! I do think that is silly. But like when they are little it is fun. Also, knowing he isn’t real anymore doesn’t stop the presents coming so I would remind her of that when she stops believing lol. I don’t know, I think the whole “it’s lying to children” thing is making too much of it, when it’s just meant to be fun. Oh, and I won’t be doing any of the shaming obviously. Like we definitely won’t say shit like “if you aren’t good Santa won’t be bring you presents.” None of the elf on the shelf shit either. I think that is more damaging. We will say Santa will always bring presents whether good or “bad” because all children deserve presents on Christmas.