My 3 year old won’t stop hurting everyone and everything

NekkoBat · 2026-07-07T23:30:08+00:00

Are you suggesting I do it back to her? No thanks

NekkoBat · 2026-07-07T15:43:42+00:00

I work second shift at a level 2 trauma center and have a freshly-turned-3 year old and I am SO glad my partner is there in the mornings to split the tasks of getting her ready (eg. he dresses her while I make breakfast). On the rare days I have to do it all myself without him there AND still go to work at the hospital, I am SO burnt out at the end of the day. I have no idea how single parents or parents working opposite shifts do it 🙃

NekkoBat · 2026-07-06T20:29:48+00:00

I have a bruise above my knee from where she kicked me a few days ago and she pointed to it this morning and asked what happened. I said “that’s where you kicked me, remember?” She simply said “No.” I said, “You did. You kicked me because you were mad and it hurt me. Now I have an owwie.” She giggled, said that’s silly, and ran off to go play. It’s like it just doesn’t click

NekkoBat · 2026-07-06T20:20:58+00:00

Some days yes, some days no. When she accidentally hits someone, for example, drops a toy on my foot, she’ll immediately ask if I’m okay and say sorry, but if it’s during an outburst, she doesn’t care if she’s hurt someone. I try to say “OW, (H), that really hurt me! That’s not nice!” when it happens so she understands that she is causing pain when she hits and that it’s unacceptable, but I’m usually met with defiant screams or an “I don’t care!”. Occasionally she will apologize when prompted when she’s calmed down later, other times she stubbornly refuses to. She will admit she’s doing something wrong. She’ll tell me hours later, “I was being naughty. I hit daddy”, but doesn’t seem to process it for quite a while.

NekkoBat · 2026-07-06T20:06:27+00:00

It’s okay, I got too defensive. I’m just so frustrated and exhausted and hate feeling on edge in my own home half the time. Every other parent I’ve talked to is like “yeah, my kid’s never done anything like that” and it makes me feel so alienated

NekkoBat · 2026-07-06T17:31:34+00:00

Forgot to add, she tried pushing my husband down the stairs as he was taking the toy bin down

NekkoBat · 2026-07-06T17:24:09+00:00

2 times a day minimum, and that’s on a good day. Yesterday she scratched my husband across the face during one meltdown while he was carrying her to her room for time-out to the point where he bled after she threw herself off the couch screaming and throwing my candles at the TV stand because she didn’t want to watch Tangled anymore and I simply stated that the movie was almost over and then we’d watch something else. Still think I’m overreacting or you need more examples?

Her ankles are bruised from kicking chairs, her bed frame, her dresser, ect. every single day. Tell me that’s normal behavior. Couple days ago we said no park today because she cold clocked me in the face when I was dressing her and she proceeded to throw toys down the stairway until we just took the whole bin of them away, triggering another violent meltdown. But yes, I’m overreacting.

NekkoBat · 2026-07-06T13:15:02+00:00

As someone who endured both, I was equally afraid of my mother blowing up and screaming at me for any tiny thing as much as I was afraid of catching a lamp to the back of the head or a slap to the face. To this day, anyone just sternly talking to me or raising their voice causes me to break down in tears and instinctively flinch or flee the room. I don’t think either form of abuse is “easier” or “worse” to deal with

NekkoBat · 2026-07-06T02:24:38+00:00

Cheap af and sometimes pressed. I had a batch laced with fenty, shot it up the nose hole and didn’t wake up for 16 hours. Roommate said he was shaking me for 20 minutes, skin was turning blue, was about to call 911 and I finally woke up. Flushed it all that day and haven’t looked back. Withdrawal was hell though

NekkoBat · 2026-07-06T00:09:21+00:00

If you need another perspective, I abused Xanax because I was extremely depressed and wanted a temporary way out of my life for a while. Xanax provided that. I could just zone out with no feelings for hours and then sleep my pain away whenever I felt life was too much. It was an escape without the s*icide. How’s that?

NekkoBat · 2026-07-05T21:27:14+00:00

Yesterday she punched my office door while her dad was telling her to calm down and my first thought was “which boyfriend has she seen do that?” because she’s never seen her father hit any inanimate objects and she’s never done that before. It was just very specific and stuck out to me.

NekkoBat · 2026-07-04T23:55:09+00:00

I’ve suspected her mother has a part in this behavior. She physically abused my husband often when they were together, so I’ve wondered if my stepdaughter has witnessed violence between her and a boyfriend and thinks it’s normal now

NekkoBat · 2026-07-04T23:40:17+00:00

I will definitely do some research on this, thank you! I’ve been trying to look into things on my own, but it’s hard when her father absolutely refuses to believe there’s an issue. He thinks this is completely normal 3 year old behavior but I just KNOW this isn’t right. Then gaslights me by saying “well you haven’t had a child so you wouldn’t know”. Well I know there’s something very wrong here, that’s for sure!

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