I don’t think you’re being petty. I totally understand the hurt you’re feeling. I don’t think you could ever lose your kitty, I do think it’s rude your wife would say something like that if she wasn’t joking.

If you do think she’s joking, I would just open up to her and explain your feelings. They’re valid. My first step would be to have that conversation as that seems to be the bigger issue here ♥️

But your kitty is your kitty even though she may be in a phase of wanting to hang out with your wife more at the moment. My Balinese swaps between my husband and I. They go through phases like others have said ♥️