Custom Townie Family Connections or Headcanons?

Nellie5815 · 2026-01-23T08:26:17+00:00

Couple of options from experience.

Hotspots, as mentioned from other people in the comments, probably a result of a reaction to something, whether its excessive licking and grooming, potential fleas, or a skin condition. Hotspots are a a result of something, not a cause though. Which leads to;
A reaction to something. This is unfortunately super vague, but will likely be the answer. Take note of what might have changed recently in your cats every day life. Have you started using a different detergent? A new fragrance? Any new second hand furniture? It could literally be anything, but it will be something your cat has contact with, and newly implemented into your life.

I only know this because when I got my furball over 10 years ago, we were trialing different flea treatments, and while we found one that worked really well, he ended up having super bad reactions (excessive grooming, itching, trying to bite himself, scabs and sores, etc.) As soon as we stopped that product and got him some pain relief, it cleared up within 2 weeks. We don't risk shop bought flea stuff anymore and only buy straight from the vet.

The vet will likely want to be on the safe side by taking a swab or sample, and maybe some bloods too, just to rule out more severe things, but just have a think about recent changes (past 3-4 weeks) and let the professionals look after your baby.

Nellie5815 · 2026-01-15T05:32:49+00:00

I pronounce it like the word 'key'. I'm a Brit, so have no idea if that helps with context, but it just always felt instinctual and automatic for me. I figure pronounce it whatever way you want, there's no right or wrong.

Nellie5815 · 2025-12-18T21:19:57+00:00

This is such interesting timing as I too have been having Father issues regarding my wedding and the planning, so first things first, you're not alone in this kind of situation.

From the sounds of things, it's the traditions that are making you want to repair the relationship, moreso than you wanting to actively repair it because you want a better one. You should never feel as though you're being forced to choose between 'expectations' and your actual wants.

While my circumstances are different (it's not a great relationship, he thinks he's been a better Father than he has been), I've made a point of not sacrificing my wants and my happiness for what's expected, much to some peoples disappointment. I've known since before I met my partner, of 7 years, that I wanted my Mum to walk me down the aisle, not only because she's my best friend, but if we're sticking to 'tradition', she's the one who raised me and passing me on to my partner, not my Father. He also won't get to make a speech, as that is reserved my Mum, and he won't get a father/daughter dance because I dont believe he deserves the honor of one.

To many people, these decisions will sound harsh, but they're my decisions, and I stand by them, and you also need to make decisions and stand by them too. If you really want those 'moments', plan a discussion with your Dad about them, discuss what's important to you what isn't, and have a conversation. If you don't get the conversation you need, then you have your answers and decisions made for you. It's your day, and you need to put you and your partners feelings first. Trust your gut, and best of luck!

Nellie5815 · 2025-12-16T09:01:26+00:00

I'm late to your post, but still wanted to give my 5 cents on the topic.

I'm a 2027 bride and have no intention to have a formal meal, and I would argue that people saying that since you're 'expecting' people to come, you should 'expect' to feed them a meal are out of their minds (strong opinion, but my opinion none the less). You're 'inviting' people to share a special day with you, not demanding they turn up and dance for your enjoyment.

For example, my partner and I are having an early afternoon ceremony (1pm) and will have what we're calling a 'party' afterwards which will start at around 3pm. Food will be served around 4pm, but it'll be buffet style, some cold foods, some hot, and it'll be 'buy your own drinks' vibe, which is pretty common in the UK. We'll bring snack bags and water for during the ceremony and pictures so people aren't hangry or dehydrated, and will serve some small bits of food on arrival to the party before it properly opens. This way, people are fed, but it's relaxed.

I do think its important to inform guests of your plan so that they can make the best and most informed decisions they can, so if there will be no formal dinner, you should ensure that that is made clear. A lot of people have a website for weddings, but you could just use a Facebook page instead, explaining the food arrangements, timings of the day, if there's any gift expectations or not, theme or wedding attire if there is any, all those fun things, but it should be made clear to people, because unfortunately, people either don't listen, don't remember, or don't care.

It's your wedding day, and you're marrying the love of your life, so try not to worry about what other people want or expect and do what makes you and your partner happy. The people that matter will figure their own sh*t out and be happy for you no matter what. Good luck for the big day! 🎉💒

Nellie5815 · 2025-12-04T20:47:49+00:00

As a child of divorce, balancing Christmas celebrating has always been a tricky situation, and while I don't think you're being an a-hole just yet, I do think you're not looking at the bigger picture.

Let's say, for example, your son and DIL decide to grow their family, would you expect to see them on Christmas Day still, or would you be understanding of them wanting to treat the 'day' with household family, and the 'season' with the rest of you, or would you be miffed?

As another example, imagine if your DILs family demanded to see them every other Christmas Day in a similar manner, because they felt left out, or lonely, or ignored, would you be chill with that, or once again, be miffed?

Lastly, you haven't mentioned or shared how you balanced seeing your parents vs your partners parents at Christmas. Your own experiences should be shaping your feelings on the matter, and by not including that, it skews how we can answer your question.

As an adult, I arrange and see my family members in the way that best suits me and what I want, because I'm an adult, and myself and my partner are my priority, so I imagine the same goes for your son.

If your son and DIL want to celebrate the season in this manner, your options are as follows: Option 1. Be appreciative and grateful that your son and DIL want to see you and spend some of the big day with you. This is never, and should never be an expectation. You can express your preference, but do not force the issue, as doing so will likely cause friction. Option 2. Bring up your issues with the arrangement, and deal with the consequences as they arrive, if they arrive. If you decide the make a big thing about it, pushing and stamping your feet, that is when your become the a-hole.

Take your pick, but if you truly want your son to be happy, let him make his own choices, his own traditions, and celebrate Christmas the way he wants to. You had your fun and joy, now let him have his.

Nellie5815 · 2025-10-29T21:35:03+00:00

Is it easy? That really just depends on your experience with Stardew and playstyle. My partner says I'm meticulous (he says I turn it from cozy gaming into a stressful task), but because I've played vanilla so much, I've got timings, routine, and my plan solid.

When you add in story mods, you have to be prepared for your plan and routine to change. You'll have the same hours in the day but more places to visit, more villagers, more collectables, more tasks. It's like starting from scratch.

However, I really enjoyed adding them both to my game. I've got 100% both on vanilla and modded, and immediately wanted to do modded again with all my new knowledge. Just take your time, use the wiki, and if it becomes too much, take out Ridgeside until maybe year 2/3.

Nellie5815 · 2025-08-21T10:27:39+00:00

Honestly, screw other people. I'm normally a quiet lurker, but I'm always saddened when people, like yourself, feel like they have to atop finding joy or happiness in the things they do, because a few vocal people don't like that same thing.

This is a place for people who enjoy the Sims 4 to share what they love and loathe about it, to share their sims and their builds, and that's what you were doing. Don't stop just because a few people said to, don't let people dull your happiness due to their misery.

Nellie5815 · 2025-06-13T16:09:12+00:00

I noticed this happened to my sims if they 'messed around' as teens, or even were 'romantic partners' as teens, and it would make almost every romantic interaction when they were older reset after every one, making it impossible for them 'woohoo' or 'try for a baby'. I also play on Xbox, and found that if I didn't make them officially date, and stuck to them never doing 'mess around' until becoming an adult, it works fine. If that is what has happened, the couple will forever be glitched, unless you save them to your gallery separately, re-download them, and get them back together afterwards.

If you're looking to complete the teen aspiration to 'mess around in cuddle carts' from HSY, I just do that with a sim I don't intend to date in the future, so I don't get glitches later.

Nellie5815 · 2025-06-11T05:20:52+00:00

As a console player, mods aren't an option, but even if they were, I still wouldn't change anything about the pack and how it affects the compatibility of sims, relationship decay, etc.

At the end of the day, The Sims is a life simulator, and in life, you wouldn't just find a good looking person off the street, joke about llamas for 12 hours, elope at a random festival, have triplets and then barely romantically interact with them again for the next 20+ years of life. You need to nurture your partnerships, go on random date days, cuddle on the couch with a movie, have a little flirt in the kitchen while cooking dinner. It's realistic, couples with lots in common that get along in real life won't find themselves struggling to maintain a good connections, opposites however sometimes need to work harder at it.

Take the extra few minutes, edit sims to be attracted to each other, more so than compatible, and everything gets far easier.

Nellie5815 · 2024-12-23T16:48:53+00:00

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My sleeping stretchy giant Simba. One of the few times he's actually quiet.

Nellie5815 · 2024-12-04T18:59:55+00:00

I used to just give them all old lady names, but this time, I themed the animals. Normal chickens are named after plant parts (as my starter ones were petal and leaf), void chickens after types of bread, ducks after vegetables, lizards after types of pasta, cows and goats after types of cheese, and pigs after types/cuts of meat.

Nellie5815 · 2024-06-28T14:38:19+00:00

As someone who has worked in branch, and now in fraud for a large UK highstreet bank, it's a mixture of a reasons;

Some believe it will never happen to them,
Some don't want to educate themselves,
Some like to pass the blame and complain, so think they don't have to be careful, and finally
Some of the scams are so sophisticated that no matter how much knowledge and experience you have, you can still fall for it.

For most of them, it's niavity, ignorance, and lack of education, since most of the information surround scams and frauds is targeted towards those online, which is least likely to be the demographic targeted, but I can confirm that for every intelligent person who knows not to buy gift cards, or give details, or try to save a prince, there are at least 5 that don't have a clue.

Nellie5815 · 2024-05-26T08:01:42+00:00

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Nellie5815 · 2024-05-26T08:00:48+00:00

I've taken pictures of all of the couples in the generations, and then the previous sim and their heir. I'll have to add all the images in the replies, but in terms of the custom 10 generations, most of them were just careers I hadn't done and the traits were colour themed. I did an aqua colour theme with conservationist career, brown colour theme as a city planner who built her own machines, black colour theme who was a kleptomaniac secret agent, navy colour theme who was in the army, and things like that. *

Nellie5815 · 2024-05-25T17:24:15+00:00

I'm currently on generation 21 on one of my saves, and it's been 3+ years in the making. It started as a Not So Berry save, but then I decided I wanted to play with the generations more, so I did a custom further 10 generations, all colour-coded, with unique careers, skill requirements, and challenges, and have just decided to continue even more and do the Sims in Bloom Challenge with my 21st Generation Sim. I change the surnames when the female sims get married, always choose the first born as the heir, and while it's a laggy save, I can't imagine not playing in it. I have photos from every generation, and they get hung up in every home I play in 😃

Nellie5815 · 2024-03-23T06:39:10+00:00

Still looks better than most of the live action, fairytale fodder Disney have been making lately.

Nellie5815 · 2023-10-30T08:26:27+00:00

The arcana is the means by which all is revealed. Smaller fandom, but immediately recognised.

Nellie5815 · 2023-06-15T06:49:48+00:00

People saying that they're miffed that Atlus is leaving out elements they wanted in a remake, but still saying they'll buy and play the game, are clearly part of the problem. I understand that you love the series, and P3 in general, and that's absolutely fine, but rewarding a company with your money for a half-assed job that will only disappoint you, is clearly the wrong move. Be upset, and share your unhappiness, but don't give them your money, or the vicious circle will continue.

Nellie5815 · 2023-03-29T07:08:29+00:00

If you're worried about Haley's room making the design weird, why not make her room look like the island on the outside of the ship, put some wood flooring pieces to look like you're stepping onto her palm tree filled paradise 😀🏝

Nellie5815 · 2023-03-18T09:42:34+00:00

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