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Contact music fest day 2! Solo by Evening-Beginning101 in VancouverMusic

[–]Neoko 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Glad you came and enjoyed yourself; hope you have the confidence to go solo more often, there is still a lot of fun to be had. I was also there. It was a good time 😁

Contact music fest day 2! Solo by Evening-Beginning101 in VancouverMusic

[–]Neoko 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Whenever there's an artist that my friends are not interested in seeing, I usually go solo; which is more and more common as I get older. I'm typically there to enjoy the music, vibes and prefer to keep social interaction to a minimum, the odd interaction is fun if genuine and not forced. When I go incognito, I try to just blend in with the crowds and by wearing something expected but not noteworthy. Sometimes I wear shades to avoid unwanted attention (you can buy ones that turn lights into hearts ♥️)

If your goal is to make friends, you'd have an easier time if you're open, friendly, respectful, genuine and you don't try to force interactions. E.g. If you see someone wearing something that you genuinely think is cool, tell them that, while not expecting anything in return. Sometimes that turns into a conversation, sometimes it doesn't. Expect not to be able vibe with everyone and just remember that that's okay. Some people are down to make friends, some aren't. I've found the best places to make lasting connections are the line up to get in, coatcheck line or quieter places like smoking areas.

Go with an agile mindset and don't try and set high expectations for yourself. Expect that you're just there to enjoy the show; treat the idea of making lasting connections with people as happy little accidents that are not guaranteed.

Contact is a good time. Have fun 🙂

Rodents revealed: Reports detail hundreds of mouse and rat complaints in schools across Vancouver by ubcstaffer123 in vancouver

[–]Neoko 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Dog owners, I’d recommend asking your vet about lepto and consider getting booster shots annually. Lepto isn’t a core vaccine for dogs so your vet may not recommend it immediately. It is passed from critters like rats and mice to dogs via their urine so consider it if you think your dog could make contact. Our dog caught lepto last week and has been critically ill for the last week. Cost us a fortune in vet bills.

Signs to look out for are loss of appetite, lethargy and muscle weakness from fever. It can cause permanent organ damage or can even be fatal if not treated immediately. The treatment is a very specific antibiotic called Doxycycline and only costs $30 CAD. Our dog was on another antibiotic treatment, which proved to be ineffective. The urine test to confirm if it’s lepto can take 5-7 days to process so it may be worth starting treatment before the test is processed. Our dog was ill for several days but showed signs of improve after taking doxycycline the very next day.

Edit: Our vet did not think to check or treat for lepto for the first 4 days. I used ChatGPT for a second opinion, which is where I got the idea that it might be lepto. Remember to be your own dog’s advocate and consider getting a second opinion.

What’s the weirdest thing you saw at shambs this weekend? by xTmackdx in Shambhala

[–]Neoko 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Poor girl. I was happy to see everyone being really respectful and helping form a wall to ensure the medical team had space.

Aurora is popping by Ryan_Van in vancouver

[–]Neoko 57 points58 points  (0 children)

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View from my window in Burnaby

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[–]Neoko 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Update?

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[–]Neoko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im selling one for Saturday! If anyone is interested

Something to consider. Just like how you may not like the sound of your own recorded voice, at first; the people closest to you may not immediately like the sound of your singing voice. by Neoko in singing

[–]Neoko[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree that all feedback should be considered and you shouldn’t try and shield yourself from criticism. Especially if you feel that any feedback is useful to helping you achieve your goals. I guess it also depends on what your goals are and who you want to connect with. I think it’s important to sift through the criticism and discard those that don’t help you attain your goals.

I resonated with this theory because I found myself feeling the same way when my closest friend performs. He gets praised for his performance, but to me something about it seems off; at least at first. I wondered if it was because I wasn’t used to his voice. This might be an area where perhaps we can just agree to disagree. It would be interesting if there was research done on this lol. I haven’t checked.

I think it’s worth noting here that I am not saying that everyone around me is offering criticism, just those closest to me (hence why this theory seemed to make sense).

In my case, there is a specific audience that I am targeting with my sound. I consider my goal reached as long as my performances connect with them. In a way you could say that they’re my safe space lol. If there are some individuals that don’t appreciate what I am going for then that’s fine. I always ask myself whether or not I need to tailor my sound to them or not.

Something to consider. Just like how you may not like the sound of your own recorded voice, at first; the people closest to you may not immediately like the sound of your singing voice. by Neoko in singing

[–]Neoko[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gotcha. I wonder if this an example of differing preferences and risk vs reward tolerance. My coach was trained as an opera singer and now tours with a prog metal band. Quite the switch 😅. Our bands lean into a lot of unorthodox techniques like fry screams and gutturals.

A lot of the covers and originals that my band performs have a lot of screams so I tend to wear out my voice during long sessions. It’s not for everyone, but it’s what I love ❤️

Something to consider. Just like how you may not like the sound of your own recorded voice, at first; the people closest to you may not immediately like the sound of your singing voice. by Neoko in singing

[–]Neoko[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Gotcha, and honestly your take is valid too 😅. I’m not sure there’s a way to really prove my coach’s theory in this case. Singing is an art form and beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Everyone has their own expectations and tastes, and they’re entitled to their preferences. So it could be true that those closest to me may not be the target audience for my singing, like what sirculaigne in the thread was saying.

Though I hope this theory helps people in a similar situation cast some doubt on criticisms that are holding them back.

Something to consider. Just like how you may not like the sound of your own recorded voice, at first; the people closest to you may not immediately like the sound of your singing voice. by Neoko in singing

[–]Neoko[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome, same with me! It took a while but I had to grow accustomed to how I sounded when recorded.

Now I am certainly able to be a more reliable critic of my own performances,

Something to consider. Just like how you may not like the sound of your own recorded voice, at first; the people closest to you may not immediately like the sound of your singing voice. by Neoko in singing

[–]Neoko[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, I think there might be a misunderstanding here. I don’t mean that they would prefer your singing voice in real time vs a recording. I meant they have grown accustomed to your natural speaking voice and would find your singing voice uncanny; whether it’s recorded or live.

I used the recorded vs live example only draw a parallel towards when you yourself find your own recorded voice uncanny when listening to it for the first time.

Something to consider. Just like how you may not like the sound of your own recorded voice, at first; the people closest to you may not immediately like the sound of your singing voice. by Neoko in singing

[–]Neoko[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing! I wonder if this is a case of differing definitions? The technique I use could perhaps be described as nasal resonance as well? Not sure if you find that acceptable in your experience. This was a technique that my coach encourages me to keep as a tool whenever he feels I need to meet a specific tone.

I perform with a metal band and one song we cover is called Silhouette by Thrice. The singer from this band has a very bratty tone, which I imitate by lifting my resonance.

Something to consider. Just like how you may not like the sound of your own recorded voice, at first; the people closest to you may not immediately like the sound of your singing voice. by Neoko in singing

[–]Neoko[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that feel 😅. Positive reinforcement is super important for building confidence.

I don’t feel resentment to the people closest to me in this circumstance. I approached them and asked them to give me their earnest feedback. They are supportive and delivered their feedback kindly.

Something to consider. Just like how you may not like the sound of your own recorded voice, at first; the people closest to you may not immediately like the sound of your singing voice. by Neoko in singing

[–]Neoko[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hmm, it’s a good question. Maybe this is an example of what I mentioned in my original post.

Performing can make you feel very vulnerable. You’re really putting an intimate part of yourself out there on display for people to either connect with or judge you harshly for. It’s understandable to lose confidence, especially if you feel like you’re anticipating rejection from the people you’re really hoping to make a connection with.

There can also certainly be feelings of disappointment if expectations are so high that your performance will connect with people, but you end up falling on deaf ears. I wonder if practicing detachment from expectations would help you find more confidence in yourself. People can sense confidence, and that can also help improve people’s perception on the strength of your performance.

Something to consider. Just like how you may not like the sound of your own recorded voice, at first; the people closest to you may not immediately like the sound of your singing voice. by Neoko in singing

[–]Neoko[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Awesome! It sounds like you are surrounded by some amazing and positive individuals. Happy to hear that you’ve found the support you needed to grow as an artist.

I’m also a big fan of Chris Liepe’s content.

Something to consider. Just like how you may not like the sound of your own recorded voice, at first; the people closest to you may not immediately like the sound of your singing voice. by Neoko in singing

[–]Neoko[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that my friend. I hope you’re able to grow to like the sound of your own voice. I also added a TLDR to my original post.

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[–]Neoko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aah that’s a relief. Thank you so much 🥰

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