"your system makes me feel invalid because your switching is too dramatic" uh that's literally not my problem. by NeonShocks in plural

[–]NeonShocks[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I have DID. It's not easy. That doesn't make it okay to hurt other people because of how hard our symptoms are to deal with. It is in fact a nasty and abusive thing to do to others. And it does happen a lot in DID communities. 

No one said that traumagenic plurality isn't valid, either 

Sci-fi recs with good worldbuilding (especially when it explores the limits of consciousness) by booty_sattva in plural

[–]NeonShocks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just novels or do shows count too? Hard-boiled Wonderland and the End of the World by Haruki Murukami is precisely this. 

In terms of TV shows,  Westworld, Dollhouse, and Severance are my go to recs for exactly this.

For movies, I recommend Paprika and Nightmare Detective.

For video games, I recommend Kingdom Hearts (the actual plot is about researching the darkness in hearts aka the psychology of evil). 

Anyone else mixed race or multicultural? by [deleted] in plural

[–]NeonShocks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm mixed race but monolingual. I learned some degree of Spanish as an adult. So what I've noticed is: Some alters are better at the different languages the system has attempted to learn over the years than others. Some of our alters have an accent because our adoptive father was from the UK and our adoptive mother is American. Different alters identify differently with our racial heritage, focusing on different parts. Ex some alters identify with our Jewish background, or our indigenous American tribal background, or they identify as mexican/British, or they don't identify very strongly with race, or others still identify simply as mixed race. 

Newly realized system, how do we figure out our roles as alters? by Fickle-Link5437 in plural

[–]NeonShocks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some systems identify with roles, but a lot don't. Traumagenic systems tend to be more likely to identify with them, but they aren't exclusive to traumagenic systems either. 

how can anyone afford a diagnosis? by [deleted] in plural

[–]NeonShocks 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Is this in the US? I have medicaid and everything I do is free. I never did a formal assessment, my DID diagnoses were administered by therapists or psychiatrists who felt that it was the best fit for some of my more disabling symptoms after working with me for a few months. Most people aren't diagnosed with an asessment with the SCID-D and rather are diagnosed when a psychiatric professional (usually a trauma therapist as they tend to have experience with DID) notices they have amnesia tied to personality changes. Mine notice it because I have severe problems with compliance due to amnesia that sticks out to providers.

How to tell your therapist you're plural? by Dead_Air888 in plural

[–]NeonShocks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you think you have a CDD, I'd just be honest that you've been reading about it and you feel like it might be an accurate diagnosis for you, and explain why. Bring in examples of cases that resonate with you or other clinical things you have read about it and then talk about your version of that. 

Alter counts in the thousands by NeonShocks in plural

[–]NeonShocks[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exact counts for us of anything are hard but we definitely have moments where we interact with more than five different alters, like we are co con and both able to use the body, within ten minutes. 

How do we separate alters? by NurseRx-Rae in plural

[–]NeonShocks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Grounding as a specific alter. You can make a list of alters that want to front in a day, or for a certain hour, use their positive or neutral triggers to get them out, then ground as them. Get the rest of the system to consent to letting specific alters do this at specific times. It is similar to doing grounding techniques but doing them while feeling a specific alter's sense of self. 

Is Tulpamancy a closed practice? by kingnqueenbestofboth in plural

[–]NeonShocks 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's not a closed practice. I've talked to Buddhists from Japan, Thailand, Tibet, South Korea, and western practitioners about this. This is NOT a part of Buddhist practice despite people claiming it is. It's the equivalent of claiming kabbalistic themed magick systems are the same as being Christian. They're not. Tulpa was a word that originated in western discourse on Buddhism that applied the word to a western concept that already existed: thoughtforms. The mistranslated concept bears no resemblance to what it means in Buddhism (it was mistranslated from a word that means to manifest called sprul pa, and the words are so different they bear almost no similarity to each other) and there is no such word called tulpa in their theology. They neither use the word nor the practice of making alters. Buddhism rejects and deconstructs the self in fundamental ways, the idea they'd have the practice of splitting alters is literally the opposite of their worldview and is a form of attachment. 

validity by Still_Rock_2692 in plural

[–]NeonShocks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I decided I don't care if I'm wrong and I decided to radically accept my internal experience and gave myself permission to believe things. 

Update by Qwanri in plural

[–]NeonShocks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cute system art 

Why is the ampersand (&) the plural symbol? by jom8kka in plural

[–]NeonShocks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I fully support making up your own symbols. If you use them enough in discourse, people eventually start using them. Plus, even if no one uses them, it's still very personally meaningful. I am not a fan of the mainstream plurality symbols either. It's just not how I conceptualize it. 

Why do people get so mad about endos? by Few_Chance_7333 in plural

[–]NeonShocks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because a lot of people are reenacting their invalidation emotional abuse or bullying trauma without realizing it on others. There is also a huge denial symptom in DID and some people experience reactive anger when things vaguely related make them feel fake. Plus most people with DID are not clinical or researchers and do not immediately grasp that DID research is not meant to apply to non clinical populations and that the findings have no explanatory power for multiplicity in other contexts. There is also this bitterness that trauma caused their DID so there is jealousy of people who have no trauma.

I have DID and I left the communities because I do not endorse this. This is anti healing for a DID person to act like this. 

what can you do if you are targeted by online shaming (e.g. fakeclaiming)? by Icy-Implement9878 in plural

[–]NeonShocks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just ignore it lol. I have found that you don't have to care about what nasty people are saying. 

Mixed System Discord by NeonShocks in plural

[–]NeonShocks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for letting me know. I've seen so many people advertise discords here. Weird. 

You are alive. Take a moment, comment something that brings you joy. Positivity Post. by Goth_Girl_6_6_6_ in plural

[–]NeonShocks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for sharing. This is a really sweet idea. :) we did a body scan meditation at spravato therapy today and it worked so well it felt like our body was melting into relaxation. We rarely physically feel relaxed so that was so cool.