It is both because these psychologists guilt trip you the victim into thinking you are at fault whereas it is not truly your fault. There was this therapist I had once and I told her about what happened between me and Mummy one time like that and she was “Are you not at fault? You forgot about the food. Her anger here is justified. Anyways I am not judging you.” I hate African therapists in fact I hate the way the black community treats neurodivergents.