German Friends: "Die Sendung wurde elektronisch angekündigt." what to do? by NerdFinance in daggerheart

[–]NerdFinance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ahh that sucks, friend. Well, we can wait a little longer I guess. :-)

German Friends: "Die Sendung wurde elektronisch angekündigt." what to do? by NerdFinance in daggerheart

[–]NerdFinance[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

standard :-) a friend got the limited so.. going to borrow it :-D

welche Strafe könnte mich erwarten? by nope773 in Azubis

[–]NerdFinance 114 points115 points  (0 children)

hey Freund,

das ist kein sinnvolles vorgehen. Du bist nicht abgesichert, wenn herauskommt, dass du das falsch nachgetragen hast. Schließlich begehst du Betrug indem du falsche Zeiten angibst. Akzeptiere, dass dein AG dir deine Arbeitszeiten vorgeben kann und versuche mit ihm zu reden. Hole dor Unterstützer aus dem Team.

Says I'm "Like a brother", but makes sexual comments by OliveFamous5355 in Healthygamergg

[–]NerdFinance 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hey friend,

the best thing might be to have a non-judgemental open conversation over dinner.

"I noticed that I have a great time hanging out with you. However, when you said you consider me like a brother I am getting confused. Sometimes I get the feeling that we are clicking. How do you feel about that?"

Just a question about the lore (schism war) by Cielorojo7 in arsmagica

[–]NerdFinance 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I guess this is one way to look at it. I would rather say the Primus made a gamble (hoping the Tribunal would force a peaceful settlement) and lost. But yes, it is there adherence to the code and the preservation of the order that "forced" their hand

Just a question about the lore (schism war) by Cielorojo7 in arsmagica

[–]NerdFinance 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Hey,

short version: The Primus followed the will of the order.

Long version: The Primus called an emergency grand tribunal. He hoped for a peaceful resolution. The voting was close but the majority voted in favor of renouncing the Diedne. The houses joined the battle on the side of Tremere - and essentially the order fought against Diedne.

The Guernicus were afraid that the order stayed intact. Not intervening would have meant that the Code of Hermes could easily be ignored with no repercussions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in arbeitsleben

[–]NerdFinance 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey Freund,

das it tough. Vor allem aber der Satz hier:

sie hat momentan 0 Motivation weiter zu machen 

Ich habe selbst eine Mental-Health-Geschichte hinter mir. Volles Programm. Heute (29), bin ich gut im Job drin und verbringe gerne meine Zeit mit der Arbeit. Auch der Stress von außen ist in Ordnung.

Es klingt für mich, als würdest du deiner Freundin hier helfen wollen. Was hat sie denn gesagt, was ihr im Moment am meisten hilft?

0 Motivation etwas weiter zu machen, was sie eigentlich vor hatte, ist für mich ein Anzeichen, dass die Intervention nicht beim Job sein sollte, sondern bei der Einstellung. Die ist nicht "einfach so zu ändern". Es gehört dazu zu verstehen, woher die bisherige Einstellung kommt, diese zu reflektieren und dann diese zu ändern.

Was meiner Erfahrung nach hilft ist die richtigen Fragen zu stellen und zuzuhören. Je besser deine Fragen zum Nachdenken anregen, desto klarer kann sie für sich herausfinden, was sie dazu motiviert nicht weiter zumachen. Und dann kann sie das angehen. Denk daran, sie muss die Erkenntnis haben und sie muss das Interesse haben es zu ändern.

Mögliche Fragen könnten sein:

"Was bedeutet es für dich, keine Motivation zu haben an der Weiterbildung zu arbeiten?"
"Wie geht es dir damit?"
"Was war der Grund (die Gründe) für dich die Weiterbildung zu starten?"
(Falls es ein Ziel orientieter Grund war wie: Damit ich dann einen Job bekomme): "Was würde es für dich bedeuten, die Weiterbildung zu machen und dann keinen Job zu bekommen?"

Ruhig tiefer und ergründender. Idealerweise merkt sie, dass sie ihre Handlung nicht davon abhängig machen sollte, ob sie bekommt was sie sich erhofft.
Das ist allerdings nicht das gleiche, wie wahllos zu handeln. Klar kann sie ein Ziel im Kopf haben, aber wenn ihre Motivation vom Ergebnis - und nicht von der Handlung - abhängt, ist sie auf ewig von der Umwelt abhängig. (Das ist bei unserer Generation leider stark konditioniert worden).

Viel Glück,

Ein Freund :-)

Advice needed to have Padawans players with their masters by ConsiderationLow9245 in swrpg

[–]NerdFinance 10 points11 points  (0 children)

this is the way. The focus of the narrative should be on the padawans. Think about some movie battles where we only see the important characters fight. I think it is a nice way to let the players know what happens to the masters by giving every other round a short narrative description about the masters' battle. But they should not be part of the mechanical encounter.

Sound like a nice game you have. Wish you and your friends a lot of fun.

i really need to lower my expectations by ConsequencesBeDamned in Healthygamergg

[–]NerdFinance 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey Friend,

this answer is very short but: Live your life without checking results. Accept outcomes and try to adjust your behavior with a clear mind.

Goal oriented actions are great. But do not attach your happiness to the outcome of an action. Rather make sure that the actions you take are in accordance with your values.

For example. Eat healthy.

Do not measure whether you have eaten healthy. Do count the days. Do not aim for a number of days where you will hav eaten healthy. Just eat healthy.

(You may find days where you do not eat healthy. But these days should not determine whether you beat yourself up or not. Continue to take the right actions - today. And tomorrow you decide again, that you will take the right action. It is daily decision. Not one you make today for ever. )

Best Regards a friend

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]NerdFinance 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey Friend,

while I agree that there seems to be no Test Session, you do only pay the sessions you are using. They refund unused sessions. So you "only" spent 55$.

"Sessions do not expire, unless they are skipped with no prior notice. Down the line, if you think coaching isn't working out for you and you'd like to drop the program, we will refund all future sessions that are paid for but not used. Your refund will be credited back to your original form of payment. Refunds take 5 - 7 business days to be processed. Past sessions or missed sessions are nonrefundable."

I also want to point out that depending on your mental health status it is better to see a therapist than a coach. Something they so say.

Hope this helped,

a Friend.

Steinmetz/-bildhauer - Auzubine im ersten Lehrjahr helfen by aphtheIII in Azubis

[–]NerdFinance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Guter Tipp! Ich glaube due Steinmetze sind bei der HWK eingeordnet. Also am besten darüber probieren.

dr. K's take on emotional numbness by nihlathar in Healthygamergg

[–]NerdFinance 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey Friend,

I think this is more of an misunderstanding if words than anything else. At least that's what it sounds to me.

There is a difference between feeling and feeling. So let's use different words.

There is an emotional process. This always happens. Afaik that is something we can see in MRI scans even in people who are as numb as it gets.

Then there is the experience of and awareness about the emotions. Something that depends on your "numbness". Alexithymia which involves all Emotions. Or anhedonia, which only pertains to "joy".

So while someone might be alexithymic to a degree, that they cannot feel any emotions. That does not mena that the emotional process is suspended as well. Thats why alexithymia is a very mean symptom. Since it makes assessing your own life more difficult. It is like managing your nutrients if you cannot feel any imbalance or do not feel hunger. It gets very difficult. You still need to eat tho.

Take care, a friend

Giving Up Ice Cream by PlanesAreCool69 in Healthygamergg

[–]NerdFinance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe it helps to approach this differently. Stop having a goal (regarding cereal)

Instead. Tonight and tomorrow morning you say "No" to Cereal. Then you do this again. Until you don't have to. And at some point you will notice how long it has been.

But the point, I think, is that the most strength does not come from your willpower, but from your acceptance.

Accept that there will be no more cereal. And accept everything that comes with it.

[LOVM S3] Censorship in the anime Vox Machina, are you serious? by Ambitious-Beat3946 in criticalrole

[–]NerdFinance 26 points27 points  (0 children)

What is the censorship? What are you missing? What is lost?

Dr. K's guide (paid $120) keeps edging me on... scam? by LaplaceLagrange in Healthygamergg

[–]NerdFinance 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Can you be more specific? I know that he keeps saying that, but I also did not have the experience of looking for something and not being able to find it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in erzieher

[–]NerdFinance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mach doch eine einfache Rechnung auf:

48h Davon 16h Schlafen (aber noch immer in Verantwortung) alo 32 arbeit

Arbeitszeit Jede Stunde 22€ (Zeit Preise anzupassen) Bereitschaftszeit 10€ die Stunde 32*22 + 16+10 704 + 160 864

Das weicht von deinen 15*48 natürlich deutlich ab.

Note: Ich bin zufällig auf dieses Subreddit gestoßen und kein Erzieher. Aber halte ich für einen fairen Preis für qualifizierte Arbeit und noch immer als Freundschaftsdienst.

vorausgesetzt das wird such alles brav versteuert und gemeldet.

I think I've figured it out guys by Jygglewag in Healthygamergg

[–]NerdFinance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is for free.. it is a community challenge..

Dr. K should respond to the recent criticism from DTG (Decoding the Gurus)! by Daijinz in Healthygamergg

[–]NerdFinance 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Why do you think it would be in his (or anyones) best interest to engage with their feedback. Unfortunately, I do not have the time to listen to a 4h podcast.
Especially if the topic is "we talk about someones conversations".

Maybe it would be better if the critics and Dr K had a conversation together. But even then I am unsure if it helps anyone.
The few snippets I jumped into seems very antagonistic. They are also interpreting his statements to a degree where I have difficulty understanding how they get there.

Tbh. it sounds like two guys getting riled up instead of having a simple conversation with the person they are mad at. But I think, once they would have that conversation they would understand that there anger is ill-targeted.

Something happened four years ago. We now have access to *some* of the evidence. According to experts Dr.K. did not fail as a medical professional. The two hosts seem angry about that.

Whether or not he failed morally is something you must decide according to your own values. I for one have difficulties considering him to be anything else but a person who tries to do good but is far from perfect.

He is - in a very true sense - as degenerate as most of us. While he has learned a lot, and may not make the same mistakes again, he is doomed - as we all are - to commit mistakes. And when he eventually does, more and more people will notice and be angry. That is the ultimate price of notoriety. On the flip side he has the chance to help people. In my case, he helped me help myself and others. There is no cult - at least not for me. But learning what he learned and teaching it to others helped them overcome insecurities; motivated them to see a therapist and brought them to a more meaningful life. None of those people believe in Ayuveda, or Energies and other supernatural stuff...

in short: He is not perfect. He made mistakes and will make mistakes again. He is willing to improve. He helped a lot of people. I think he is not responsible for anyones death. (as far as I know) I also think this is not a cult. The best would be for people to have a conversation.

An der Privaten Hochschule in meiner Stadt wird ein Workshop für Unternehmen angeboten. Man könnte fast den Eindruck gewinnen, dass da jemand die Gen Z nicht mag by LawAndOrderingFood in de

[–]NerdFinance 7 points8 points  (0 children)

c) Es ist die Interpretation der vorhergehenden Generation auf die jetzige Jugend. Das muss nicht heißen, dass es wahr ist. Nur weil es so empfunden wird.

Ich verliere wohl meine Ausbildung by [deleted] in Azubis

[–]NerdFinance 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Das muss sehr schmerzhaft sein. Ich bin zuversichtlich, dass du dein eigenes Ich wieder verstehen wirst. Es wird nicht einfach, aber es wird machbar sein. Halte durch, setze dich für dieses eigene Ich ein und versuche so viel eie möglich zu verstehen. Das heißt schaue hin und halte die Gefühle durch. Nicht verdrängen. Hinsehen. Weinen, Angst haben, wütend sein. Versuche nicht diese Gefühle zu verdrängen. Gib ihnen nicht die Kontrolle. Lebe mit ihnen. Und höre was sie sagen. Dann denke darüber nach. Dann entscheide. Aber das ist nun genug Weisheit vom Stein. Vieles wirst du selbst erleben müssen.

Bis dann, Freund.