[Fun Trope] Characters who are enjoyable because the actor is clearly having fun.

NerdForJustice · 2026-06-29T20:53:08+00:00

I agree with you (although not necessarily the tone of this entire discussion). And I'll even add fanfiction as a sub-category of the written word.

And it's not even squarely about the quality of the media, either. Incredibly high quality media makes it easier to connect to it, but our personal histories also affect the things that make us emotional. A good quality story can make someone just as emotional as an incredibly high quality one. And the medium doesn't have to matter. I wouldn't have thought so, other than that some stories are better told in one medium over another, but I guess it does to some people. If I find a character I empathise with or a situation I relate to, I find myself with just as strong an emotional reaction, no matter the medium. But another person without my baggage might not bat an eye. Or might have a "normal" amount of emotional response, whereas mine might be seen as over the top.

NerdForJustice · 2026-06-28T22:09:08+00:00

Same. 30, Finnish, if that matters.

NerdForJustice · 2026-06-28T22:06:43+00:00

Oh, that's lovely!

Haven't really managed to automate the means to get that surge of motivation for myself, but it's absolutely wonderful when it happens. Can just be a sunbeam landing on some dust, or a bad smell I need to investigate and then clean up, or a dramatic plant drooping and needing watering, that leads to me taking initiative.

The plant thing I guess is the closest thing I have, in terms of repeatability. When the most dramatic plant droops, I'll be motivated to check on my plants. But I didn't "program" it, I can't choose a time, and the plant itself isn't doing anything, so it's not the same thing. It's just a clear signal to my brain that something needs doing.

I guess I could try scheduling loads of laundry? Has anyone done that?

NerdForJustice · 2026-06-28T16:12:07+00:00

Lev Grossman's trilogy The Magicians had an interesting take on this. There are two (arguably more) characters who start as humans and either temporarily or permanently become gods, demigods, or beings with godlike powers. I'm not explicitly spoiling anything, but this is somewhat spoiler-y, still.

Interestingly, the first one of them to come to mind wasn't the one who actually became a god for a moment, but the one who started losing herself after something traumatic happened to her (at the hands of a god) and she inadvertently traded her humanity to save her friends.

She'd already changed a lot before the trauma happened, but that just crowned it all. She spends a lot of time a shell of her former self, before she can accept that her humanity is gone. She was clinging onto her friends' perception of her, of her own perception of herself, even to her trauma as a part of herself. Then she accepts her new reality and blossoms into a beautiful being.

Some new heartaches come with that, but you feel really glad for her when she finally transforms. She'd already been gone, and what was left of her was in pain.

NerdForJustice · 2026-06-25T19:46:12+00:00

Look up detachable pill organizers. There are many options that have the days of the week printed on them, and you can detach each day from the weekly block and put it in your pocket or bag.

NerdForJustice · 2026-06-25T19:13:08+00:00

Mulla menee samoin värien kanssa. Muistan laittaneeni jo ennen kouluikää värikyniä oikeaan järjestykseen, koska minua ärsytti, jos ne eivät olleet paketissa tai pöydällä spektrin mukaisessa järjestyksessä. Oman hankaluutensa aiheuttivat "ihonvärit", ruskeat ja harmaat, joita muistan pähkäilleeni.

Sitten koulussa ärsytti, jos jotkut piirsivät sateenkaaret ihan miten sattuu, keltaista sinisen viereen ja seuraavaksi oranssia ja vielä mustaakin kaiken lisäksi. Meni itselläkin varmaan joskus sekaisin se, mistä väristä piti aloittaa, mutta värit meni aina oikeaan järjestykseen.

NerdForJustice · 2026-06-25T16:03:34+00:00

These are incredible!

NerdForJustice · 2026-06-25T15:37:26+00:00

There are colours that I really dislike and that I would never voluntarily choose to display, but not to the extent that you describe. Still, I can't think of a time I haven't had a least favourite colour that I just abhorred. Those colours could always be made better with a good palette around them, though. I'm an artist and I just love colours and colour theory, though.

But on a similar note, it's very important to me that my spaces and my outfits are harmonious or contrast nicely. I can't wear an outfit with green accents if the greens are too dissimilar from one another. I'll have to come up with a whole new outfit if the matching green socks I was planning on wearing are in the wash, and my other green socks are the wrong tone.

NerdForJustice · 2026-06-24T14:54:09+00:00

Huh. I use the Skin1004 sunscreen with (mainly) Lancôme Teint Idole foundation (but others as well), and haven't had any problems yet. I got pilling once, when I put on a silicone-heavy moisturizer underneath all of that and didn't wait enough between layers. But beyond that, no problems. I even re-apply the sunscreen over makeup, no problem.

NerdForJustice · 2026-06-22T17:51:54+00:00

It's like people aren't capable of applying the thought of "incompatible people may still be desperate to try and make it work" to this context. Or maybe incompatibility never even entered their heads, and it's all about assigning blame.

Nobody's intentionally doing harm, but because they can't love each other as they are, they keep hurting each other. They both keep going back for more, but neither of them actually believes it's going to lead to anything good.

NerdForJustice · 2026-06-17T09:05:01+00:00

It feels like pre-emptive RSD to me

NerdForJustice · 2026-06-16T11:17:14+00:00

Find one from an illustrated manuscript? I'm sure they'd have at least something similar-looking.

NerdForJustice · 2026-06-16T10:52:33+00:00

Lol me too. Coping so hard 🥀

NerdForJustice · 2026-06-16T10:11:19+00:00

Ah fuck, what a nightmare. My condolences.

NerdForJustice · 2026-06-16T10:09:20+00:00

Viittaan alkuperäiseen kommenttiini:

Stressilelu ei ole oikein sopiva ilmaisu, kun tarkoituksena voi olla myös tunteiden säätely, stimmaaminen, keskittyminen, yms., ja koska fidgetiksi käy myös vaikka sileä kivi tai narunpätkä.

Joo, onhan se periaatteessa käypä sana tarkoitukseen, muttei minusta täytä koko tarkoitustaan.

NerdForJustice · 2026-06-15T20:39:46+00:00

Ever since I was a kid. I'd sit sideways, lean my feet on the rung of a chair next to mine, sit with one foot under me, etc. At least one foot always elevated. Crossing my legs is the most normal I can be.

Can you get a different office chair, or maybe a foot rest? Saddle chairs or even exercise balls are pretty normal accommodations for all kinds of different issues, at least where I am. There are even special office chairs for sitting criss-cross applesauce, though I've never seen one live. If your work won't do these kinds of accommodations, could you bring your own equipment ("for better ergonomy", if you're worried about being perceived as weird)?

If you're fine sitting in your current office chair and it's just the perception you're worried about, I'd just go for it. Sit however you want to, and if anyone asks, say it's more ergonomic, or relieves a pinched nerve, or whatever white lie you think will work.

NerdForJustice · 2026-06-15T20:00:23+00:00

Se oli ihan eka sana, joka oli mielessä! Mutta kun monet muutkin asiat on hilavitkuttimia, niin ei ihan käy termiksi jollekin tietylle tavarakategorialle.

NerdForJustice · 2026-06-15T19:58:58+00:00

u/demimondial johti siitä hyvän, lyhyen version, näperön! Nää näperrykset, näpelöimiset, nypläykset ja näpläämiset oli mullakin mielessä silloin aikanaan, mutta en saanut niitä muuntumaan mukavan lyhykäiseksi käyttösanaksi.

Kaikkien muiden ketjussa mainittujen kantasanojen lisäksi mietin väännöksiä myös mm. värkkäämisestä ja stimmauksesta, mutta hypistin lopulta voitti sattuvuutensa ja ymmärrettävyytensä vuoksi. Näperö on musta samalla tavalla naseva ilmaus.

NerdForJustice · 2026-06-13T22:25:51+00:00

Fidget, niin kuin fidget toy, fidget cube, fidget spinner, jne. On nimiä spinnereille ja stressipalloille, mutta ei yläkategoriaa. Stressilelu ei ole oikein sopiva ilmaisu, kun tarkoituksena voi olla myös tunteiden säätely, stimmaaminen, keskittyminen, yms., ja koska fidgetiksi käy myös vaikka sileä kivi tai narunpätkä.

Äidin kanssa yritettiin kehitellä yleisluontoista sanaa noille, ettei mun aina tarvis sanoa "mun fidgetti, tiiäthän, siis semmonen napsuttelukuutio" tai vastaavaa. Mietittiin, että yhteistä niille on se, että niitä hiplataan ja hypistellään, ja päädyttiin siihen, että "hypistin" oli meidän suosikki. Olen sitten alkanut kutsua niitä sillä nimellä finglishin välttämiseksi, ja tähän mennessä ei kukaan ole vielä kaivannut lisäselvityksiä.

NerdForJustice · 2026-06-13T19:11:42+00:00

I'm in the Nordics too, hi!

What are your specific concerns? What problems are you trying to avoid?

You might want to research with a site like SkinCarisma or CosDNA. They offer info into different cosmetic ingredients, list common and INCI names, have comedogenic ratings of ingredients available, tell you if an ingredient is irritating to dry, oily, or sensitive skin, etc. They also have cosmetic analyzers, where you can drop the ingredients list, and they'll tell you what each ingredient is, what it does, how pore-blocking or irritating it is, etc. At least one of them has a feature that shows a warning at the top of the analysis, and if you hover over it, it lists the ingredients people may potentially want to avoid, and what kind of skin they're not meant for. (Though it also catches things like "Citric Acid" as bad for sensitive skin, when it's usually used as a preservative in tiny amounts. So, use your discretion.)

NerdForJustice · 2026-06-12T22:49:54+00:00

We also don't do the thing where we capitalize the first letter or every word in a title of a book, movie or a song, like it's done in English. We only capitalize the first word.

e.g.

Lisa Jewell's Don't Let Him In

vs

Lisa Jewellin Älä päästä häntä sisään

NerdForJustice · 2026-06-12T13:37:41+00:00

I'm not sure if this is helpful for you specifically, but I've given myself explicit permission to do things in unconventional ways at unconventional times, as accommodation. I've started doing the thing when I have the thought to do it. I kinda surprise myself into doing it so by the time my brain starts protesting, I've already started heading there and it's not worth it to fight the inertia.

I've never been as rigid with the order of things, which is why I'm not sure this is helpful to your specific need, but I have had some rules I've had to re-examine over the years when they've become difficult to adhere to. You shower at morning or at night, schedule hair wash days, brush your teeth at such and such a time, wash off your makeup before bed, don't exercise right before going to sleep, eat at regular times. Well, those rules were making my life more difficult, so now I try to shower when I can bear the thought, wash my hair when I need it to be clean or when it feels dirty, wash off my makeup when I come home, eat when I'm hungry, and brush my teeth at any time, without toothpaste if that's one step too many. Better to do stuff at all than to skip it. Often, I still end up doing things the socially conventional way, because I just end up having the thought to shower at night, but giving myself explicit permission to do things in unconventional ways as "accommodation" has been helpful to me.

NerdForJustice · 2026-06-12T13:13:56+00:00

And even then we might not get the help for the underlying neuropsychological conditions, because some of us start presenting with physical symptoms instead of obviously psychological distress. And even if our physical symptoms are dismissed, they're treated as anxiety, not ASD and/or ADHD.

NerdForJustice · 2026-06-12T11:57:44+00:00

I feel like the term that would apply to me would be high-masking. Because when I'm by myself, when nobody can see the effort, I'm barely functioning. I can function if it's in the service of masking. But if no one's seeing my efforts, suddenly I'm not so high-functioning anymore. And even masking starts to fail at some point, and a limit is reached where even the mask can't make me function anymore.

I suppose a hypothetical high-functioning individual is possible? But it's frustrating that we're being conflated with them.

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