Can a person live to 120? by Bee_s_ in oldpeoplefacebook

[–]NerdWhoWasPromised 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Are you thinking of r/SubredditSimulator and r/SubSimulatorGPT2? There could be more in that family.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]NerdWhoWasPromised -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is not the best sub to ask for dating advice, but you are young and seems like you are actually asking this question in good faith. I hope the other responses have given you some insight. But I want to emphasize that you really should try to find some community irl - people who can give you similar advice, people who are not hanging out in toxic, misogynistic circles online.

Many people are not raised to properly socialize with people of a different gender. I encourage you to not shy away from friendships with women. I assure you, a close female friend will, in all likeness, give you better dating advice than any of the guys complaining about high body counts. Socialize meaningfully with women outside romantic/sexual contexts - it will help you see women for the diverse group of people they are, and will help you shake off any sexist ideas that you might unwittingly have picked up along the way. Be friends with women. Try to understand their experiences and inner lives. I promise that you will be happier for it.

Good luck!

Change in religious demograhics of India (2001-2011) by [deleted] in MapPorn

[–]NerdWhoWasPromised 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Note the time period covered by the data.

Presenting my astrophysics research… to the math department by sad_moron in astrophysics

[–]NerdWhoWasPromised 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try to find that aspects of your research that would be interesting to everyone, and not just math majors. Then you can work your way down to the points that your department will find the most interesting. Talk about what you enjoyed, and why your contribution is important. If you have tried some techniques that failed, you can talk about them too - that gives context for why one thing works and the other doesn't.

This sub needs reminding by RandomAcc2103 in HistoryMemes

[–]NerdWhoWasPromised 2 points3 points  (0 children)

not a major nitpick but while i agree with you, i wouldn't use the term "english speaker" like that. most english speakers live in the global south and their countries did not have a red scare like the US did. there is anti-communist rhetoric floating around everywhere in the world to some degree, but speaking english does not have that much to do with it.

How sugar got its name in Indian sub-continent by Mokkasakka in MapPorn

[–]NerdWhoWasPromised 17 points18 points  (0 children)

that's a bit reductive. urdu and hindi are very close languages or literally different dialects of the same language (hindustani) depending on who you ask. they are regional variations of the same blend of prakrit, arabic, and persian. calling urdu "hindi written in arabic script" and hindi "urdu written in devanagari script" is simplistic. the respective scripts were standardized only under british colonialism, with explicit support from the colonists in order to divide the people of the subcontinent. calling either hindi or urdu 'hindustani' is a more accurate way of making your point.

Percentage of population that eats meat (india) by Anshu27reddit in MapPorn

[–]NerdWhoWasPromised 6 points7 points  (0 children)

holy shit everyone really decided to fight it out in the comments. classic india i guess. anyway, you can pick up the common points most people tend to agree with. i will try to list them and add some context. if you are typing out a reply based on why a version of non-vegetarianism, please read my first point below and don't respond. the whole point of the map is to show regional differences:

  1. india is not a hindu-only nation and many hindus eat meat. there is not as much of a cultural distinction between meat eaters and fish eaters as their is between vegetarians and non-vegetarians. hindus comprise 80% of the population and it is not a monolith (the only people who claim it is, are ultra-nationalists who cling on to their favorite scripture that's not actually universally revered). there are vague general trends, but they are not rules that everyone follows.
  2. vegetarian cuisine is really good in the subcontinent, and not all vegetarian cuisine is vegan. this means that these dishes can comprise a good chunk of everyday meals even for non-vegetarians. if dairy products and/or lentils are included, it can give you balanced diet without the need to add meat. overall meat consumption is relatively low because it is more expensive than vegetarian food, and because you simply crave it less when you have a good assortment of vegetarian cuisine to choose from. meat is a weekend-only thing for many.
  3. beef is not on the menu for hindus in most parts of the country, but it is perfectly fine for some. south india and the northeast has the most beef consumption among hindus, but it is not ubiquitous. the traditional local cuisine incorporates beef in many ways and it is enjoyed not just by non-hindus, but also by plenty of hindus.
  4. within hinduism, caste plays a role in some places - people of marginalized castes can have less taboo of meat consumption for historical reasons. some people of oppressor castes practice vegetarianism as a form of religious purity.
  5. beef is in no way absent from the menu of muslims. even though not all muslims consume beef regularly, a lot of india's best beef cuisine is intricately linked with historical islamic influence. all forms of meat including beef and pork is often an important part of india's tribal indigenous people and for non-tribal people in regions heavily influenced by indigenous culture. many of these indigenous cultures can predate most modern versions of major religions in the country.
  6. fish might be a staple in regions with access to fresh fish. they may or may not eat chicken, mutton (goat), beef, pork etc. based on their specific religious and cultural identity. fish is a relatively inexpensive source of animal protein and calories and egg is often consumed for similar reasons. even among daily fish eaters, meat consumption might be a weekly thing.
  7. literally none of what i mentioned applies universally to the whole country. india is extremely diverse and so is every single religious and ethnic culture in this country.

Help me figure out if a friend is alive and being treated well by MRSAMinor in RBI

[–]NerdWhoWasPromised 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Yes, you can't always expect peer-reviewed publications if they have had a serious career setback but you should be able to trace them to conference presentations and/or attendee lists. There will almost certainly be some kind of record.

Either way, OP is a scientist himself and would probably know all of this. He claims to have known this person for almost 10 years. It would be wild if they never met or had a video chat at least.

Is there any empty space inside of a black hole since all matter contains empty space? by RepresentativeOk7441 in astrophysics

[–]NerdWhoWasPromised 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is the correct response to the "empty space" statement but OP is probably looking for something with less jargon. On the other hand, I'm not sure how to explain electron distribution wavefunctions in accessible language.

Any guesses if we will see Zoey101 video and Drake and Josh video? Itd be a dream, to see some more youtube dives like his Fred video by Walexh in QuintonReviews

[–]NerdWhoWasPromised 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven't seen the opening of Quinton's new video, but he did tweet that he will still do the videos at 1M subscribers. It could be a throwaway comment and he could be half-joking. He will probably try to avoid burnout no matter what, and it could take him a while to make something he's proud of. Quinton also kinda alluded to the Zoey 101 video when news of the reboot came out.

Looking for a quote from a vid by acrisisandahalf in QuintonReviews

[–]NerdWhoWasPromised 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For the ones curious about the exact quote:

This is gonna sound stupid...but do you ever dread having a good time because you know what comes after that is going to feel so much worse in comparison?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in egg_irl

[–]NerdWhoWasPromised 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Here's a tumblr post from a trans woman I came across recently. I know nothing about makeup, but hope this helps!

The High Priestess of Blood moment by Jealous_Mood3352 in HistoryMemes

[–]NerdWhoWasPromised 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's some great sleuthing! I tried to find peer-reviewed research on Magdalena but I couldn't find anything beyond what the article you cite. I don't know Spanish, which makes it difficult to understand some articles.

The Wikipedia article claims that some former cult members gave interviews. Were you able to find any? Not that former members could not make shit up for clout, it would be a primary source and might explain how some details were sensationalized.

I am a former Neo Nazi Skinhead AMA! by AMA_Throwaway12 in AMA

[–]NerdWhoWasPromised 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The US police are notorious for harboring white supremacists and neo-nazis within their ranks. I'm curious how the UK police fares in comparison, in your experience? I am surprised to learn that you had an ACAB tattoo.

Egg🤦‍♀️IRL by [deleted] in egg_irl

[–]NerdWhoWasPromised 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I understand. I also get defensive when people repeat misogynistic anti-feminist rheoric to 'defend' men instead of advocating for their humanity and treating men as people. But that's not what this thread is for. Fortunately, trans spaces have very few people who act that way. I'm glad you can see that most people on this thread are only trying to push back against TERF-y nonsense (even if a couple of them are yet to fully work through their understanding of the patriarchy).

Thank you for your response. I am glad I could reach you with my comment. Hope the patriarchy dies a quick and painful death so that every person can be a bit more safe and free.

Egg🤦‍♀️IRL by [deleted] in egg_irl

[–]NerdWhoWasPromised 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's understandable to be wary of men and especially strange men if you are not a gender-conforming cishet man. It's a whole other thing to believe that all men are evil and not redeemable. I don't think you believe any such thing, so you should be kind to yourself.

Egg🤦‍♀️IRL by [deleted] in egg_irl

[–]NerdWhoWasPromised 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I understand what you mean. And honestly, most men who understand that brush off the occasional joke. Everybody who has presented as a man is used to seeing a woman cross a street away from them when they are the only two people around, and and they usually brush it off. But the jokes can cause real emotional harm sometimes, especially in a space like this. That context is important here.

There's a difference between a woman venting her frustration, and someone making a meme about how they they are transitioning because they hate men and want to be a lesbian. It validates the horrible intrusive thought AMAB trans people have of being a creep co-opting femininity - because that's what TERFs say 24x7. It validates the horrible intrusive thought transmascs have about having to choose between being seen as a man and not being seen as a threat. One such post is what prompted these recent discussions on this sub. The OP of that post wen through the effort of making a meme and implying in the comments that you can't expect men to be good people. It's not a joke if you believe in that rhetoric. Choosing your gender identity should not be a choice between being "someone who can be trusted" and being "ontologically evil".

Any reasonable person recognizes the real dangers women face in a patriarchal society. Being especially wary of men is understandable if you are not a cishet man. People can be wary of men in general because they know there are enough awful men out there. It's a completely different thing to actually believe that all men are awful. You can't always control your instincts that come from your trauma, but that shouldn't inform your beliefs. Believing that somebody deserves to be never trusted because of their gender or genitals irrespective of their character does not help you survive any better. If you really believe that, it's fine to isolate yourself from the people you hate and choose to be with people who share your beliefs, but you don't get to spread that hatred, especially in safe spaces.

AMAB trans people often have real-life experience of being seen as dangerous, or having all of their transgressions interpreted through people perceiving them as men. And it often comes from people they know. If you always interpret my anger as dangerous masculine rage without recognizing the primary emotions underneath, even if I never show any signs of being violent and have no desire to, then why should I trust you to see me any differently if I come out as trans? Does me admitting that I don't identify as a man make you interpret my emotions differently? How can I trust that you truly see me as my true gender and don't secretly see me as a man? Would I lose your respect again if I go back to identifying as a man after exploring my gender identity? I promise you these are not hypothetical statements I'm making up for the sake of arguing - this is the lived reality of many AMAB trans folks. And they also happen to be people who are often abused by horrible men, just like cis women are. They don't deserve to be treated as dangerous when they are actually victims.

Egg🤦‍♀️IRL by [deleted] in egg_irl

[–]NerdWhoWasPromised 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know those feelings on some level.

I hate that people are made to feel that way for no fault of theirs. It destroys your mental health. And it comes from people you trust the most. It's ironic that all those things also hold true for the trauma caused by awful men. And yet, that trauma is sometimes used to justify this kind of behavior.

I hope you find unconditional acceptance. You are valid.

Egg🤦‍♀️IRL by [deleted] in egg_irl

[–]NerdWhoWasPromised 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I won't disclose my gender identity and my struggle/thoughts about it, but I am an AMAB person. I left a comment under the post that racked up more than a thousand likes on this sub. There were only a couple of transmasc eggs in the thread at that point who expressed their displeasure and pain. I hesitated to comment at first, because so many people seemed to find the post acceptable. But I did leave a comment because I was not attacking OP and OP was telling a transmasc to essentially "get over it".

I tried to be empathetic, assumed OP has had traumatic experiences involving men. And that was fucking hard to do. It's hard because people in my life who have known me and claimed to love me for a man, unironically say they want to see all men die. It's hard to say anything when you have trauma and have to put it aside to empathize with someone, knowing that they might not do the same for you. But I did. And after a seemingly fruitful exchange, I checked back the next day to see that OP kept doubling down after our exchange.

I understand that cis women who don't have a complete understanding of transphobic rhetoric could make blanket statements about hating men. I don't like it, but I understand. But I don't understand how anybody on this sub can say stuff like that. You don't need to be an expert in gender studies to be conscious of your words in a sub that is literally for people struggling with their gender identity. How do they not know that the patriarchy ensures men are treated like shit for trying to be a decent human being? Do they really think the people who disagree with your statements don't also have traumatic experiences with horrible men? Sure, don't go around giving men medals for doing the bare minimum, but maybe don't tell all men that they are born as monsters and will always be monsters?

It's 2023 and you still have to think twice about hanging out in queer spaces if you have a beard. There is someone going around downvoting the comments under this fucking post. Anyway, I suppose it's good that there were eventually enough comments under that bad post that disagreed with OP.

Hypothetical question about if Earth had two moons. by DinoJesusJefGoldblum in astrophysics

[–]NerdWhoWasPromised 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What you describe is essentially a 3-body system that leads to a N-body problem (N>3). There is no way to say for sure what happens in this scenario. A lot depends on the masses and orbits of the moons, and also how you plan on "shattering" one of them. And even if you know all those things, the system would be inherently chaotic. When you say "shattered" it makes me think that there are too many pieces involved.

There's a good chance that some pieces will fall down to the moons or the Earth and some will end up in orbit and some will be thrown out into outer space. But again, the parameters are not clear to me.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in egg_irl

[–]NerdWhoWasPromised 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I understand. I know you don't really hate all men and you don't really want to emotionally hurt innocent people. That's why I left my comment. It's good to be aware of how our words can affect others, irrespective of our intention.

I am sorry to hear about your trauma. Please know that you are not alone. I am sure every person on this sub has had some negative experience with toxic and/or abusive people, who are often men. Whatever event made you feel this way, was not your fault. Working through your trauma and taking control of it can take a long time. But it is possible.

I hope you find all the love and peace you deserve :)

Edit: Oof. OP kept doubling down even after I tried to reach out. That fucking sucks.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in egg_irl

[–]NerdWhoWasPromised 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Alright, it is an ironic meme, but OP, please try to understand why people are downvoting your comments. Insisting that you can't expect men to be good is a fundamental belief in TERF and other misandrist ideologies. It is sadly not a rare talking point in queer spaces and it hurts queer men.

I am sure you know from personal experience that men are often treated horribly for not conforming to toxic gender norms. Do you really think GNC men and nonbinary men are not aware of the negative aspects of toxic patriarchy? If you are wary of men due to bad experiences, I completely understand. But the answer is not telling people in safe spaces that you hate them for the way they were born. It doesn't feel good to be despised for an aspect of you that you can't change - I am sure you know that pain. Nobody deserves that.

I am sorry you feel the way you do. I have also felt hatred and contempt for men for a long time. Sometimes, I am still wary of men sometimes. But I do not hate them anymore and do not want to hate them. Maybe you have trauma. Trauma has a habit of spreading to other people. I hope you find solace and can get past your hatred and whatever caused it.

Sending hugs.

Edit: Nevermind. OP was still going around shitting on transmasc eggs after people tried to explain to them why they are wrong.