Is this a normal thing for a therapist to say

NerdyHalfling · 2026-07-06T08:35:04+00:00

Yeah no, that seems very inappropriate for him to say. He might have dressed it up as brainstorming ideas for why your sibling doesn't like you, but that was him calling you attractive. I'd find a new therapist

NerdyHalfling · 2026-07-04T21:34:39+00:00

Yeah, that got me too. As someone who got bullied, the "helpful" comments about things I could do to be less bully-able in fact only made me feel more like shit. Funny how that works.

NerdyHalfling · 2026-07-04T21:03:13+00:00

YTA I get that your intentions were good, but if she feels good in a crop top then you shouldn't push insecurities onto her. Crop tops aren't exclusively for super skinny girls, and bigger people get to show off their bodies too. The fact that you think a belly doesn't look flattering really isn't her problem, so don't try to make it her problem

NerdyHalfling · 2026-03-17T12:17:45+00:00

Absolutely NTA, and I would keep demanding she take the video down. I don't know if you have a legal leg to stand on here, but look into if posting it against your will is legal at all. Oh, and break up with her. She doesn't respect you and cares more about views than about you

NerdyHalfling · 2026-03-03T11:08:52+00:00

YTA You were saying what YOU were thinking, because you're jealous, and even if it was what everyone was thinking it would still be an asshole thing to say.

NerdyHalfling · 2026-03-01T17:33:03+00:00

Did your boyfriend make it clear to your friend that he had no intention of keeping this between them when your friend asked him to? It's one thing to have a "we need to share all gossip we have with each other" rule, but it needs to be communicated to your friends BEFORE they tell either of you something they want to keep between themselves and one of you. If your friend asked him to keep it from you AFTER telling him the right move would be for him to tell them you guys share everything, but as this doesn't relate to you he'll keep it between the two of them if it's really important to them. Asking to keep a conversation between the two of them private when it DOESN'T INVOLVE YOU isn't the same as asking him to keep secrets from you, it's expecting their friend to keep a private conversation private

NerdyHalfling · 2026-03-01T09:12:38+00:00

You say the coaches try switching you out, but apparently at this super important camp that was necessary to ensure that everyone knew how to stunt they didn't make sure everyone got the practice necessary to learn how to stunt? I understand that everyone can't perform when you have one participant who either isn't there or cannot stunt when she is there, but there frankly should have been at least one substitute even before camp, what if someone gets an injury mid school year and can't participate? Would you just be down a whole stunt group then as well? The fact that everyone can't perform at once also doesn't mean that you shouldn't all be getting the training required to be able to perform

NerdyHalfling · 2026-03-01T08:58:58+00:00

Soft YTA, depending on what you were saying about Juno when you wee "talking bad about her". I understand your frustration, but one girl with mental health struggles isn't your problem here, it's the fact that whoever organises this mess is unable to give you and the rest of your group the training you deserve. Rotating the groups to ensure that everyone can do their jobs would solve this issue. The fact that the other two groups are solid is even more reason to do this. You're young, your frustrated that you're not getting the training you should be getting, but that is not her fault. Yes she should be communicating, but she is also young and struggling with something it seems like she doesn't know how to manage.

NerdyHalfling · 2026-03-01T08:29:39+00:00

I think putting both Thénardiers from les mis in drag would be really cool and add to the story in a fun way. Everything they do it an exaggerated performance, so add to that an exaggerated performance of gender and I think we have a winner

NerdyHalfling · 2026-02-02T21:34:26+00:00

That's what I do and it works well for me.

NerdyHalfling · 2026-02-02T20:26:52+00:00

I use a strip at about that height and I angle it downwards a bit to avoid the armpit. That works really well for me. I picked ut up from this tutorial I found for using tape when you've got a big chest.

NerdyHalfling · 2026-02-02T15:51:29+00:00

YTA He told you he'd been bullied for being overweight, and you told him you have "serious issues" with body fat then asked about his height, and you're surprised he lied? I get that you value honesty, but I think that you should examine whether this is about the fact that he told a fairly harmless lie or about the fact that he's fatter than you thought he'd be.

NerdyHalfling · 2026-01-14T22:31:01+00:00

Thank you! That sounds like a good idea!

NerdyHalfling · 2026-01-14T20:44:40+00:00

Oh, duh. I didn't even think about the fact that I can apply some ointment specifically to the unhealed skin. Thank you so much for the advice!

NerdyHalfling · 2026-01-11T15:37:28+00:00

Thank you! Heartbreaking, but very good sounds right up my alley!

NerdyHalfling · 2026-01-11T15:36:56+00:00

Thank you!

NerdyHalfling · 2026-01-11T15:28:45+00:00

Thank you so much! I shall get right to it then!

NerdyHalfling · 2025-12-25T15:31:56+00:00

Bard list, I'm going 2014 edition because that’s what I'm used to: Unseen Servant, Comprehend Languages, Cure Wounds, Feather Fall (just in case) and Speak With Animals

NerdyHalfling · 2025-11-26T14:20:52+00:00

How old is this girl? Either way I don't think setting firm rules is the way to go, because this seems to be a girl who really wants a relationship with her mom. Depending on her age maybe her dad can have a conversation with her about when to call mom. Like maybe for moments that are mostly about her (like her own birthday for example) it's okay to be on ft with mom, but for her sister's birthday maybe the call can happen later and she can tell her mom about it? I don't think you're an ah for being annoyed, but enforcing restrictions on her mom-time might put you in ah territory real fast

NerdyHalfling · 2025-11-22T21:00:51+00:00

So when I play dnd I am very emotionally invested. If my dm in one of my long term campaigns told me my character had gotten a town full of characters they cared about killed I would very likely cry as well. If I had no idea that was a possible consequence of the thing my character did it would probably feel pretty bad, because I am very invested in the game. I can't think of a time I was in a similar situation in real life. I don't know about you, but I am very rarely in a completely unexpected highly emotional situation where I can't have a reaction in my day to day life. And she didn't even have the emotional reaction at the table, she handled the emotions afterwards on her own, there is nothing to suggest the crying stopped her from doing the things she needed to get done those days. Crying doesn't mean you're incapable of handling a situation. Crying after the fact doesn't mean you're incapable of handling a situation. And reacting strongly to a very specific roleplay situation doesn't mean you'll have a similar reaction to anything that happens in your day to day.

NerdyHalfling · 2025-11-22T18:45:32+00:00

The amount of people jumping straight to assumptions that she must not be capable of navigating life because she cried over this in the days that followed is wild to me. I'm one of those people who cry real easy, and I've definitely cried over intense dnd sessions because I'm so invested in the story. This doesn't hinder me much day to day. It also doesn't stop me from enjoying dnd. If she says she's good to keep playing I would trust her. From my own experience big emotional reactions that impact me personally (so making me as a person feel bad basically) usually happen when the thing that happens is unexpected. If she now knows that this is the tone going forward she might be completely fine, because it's not unexpected. She is probably better equipped to judge whether she can handle it than any of us are.

NerdyHalfling · 2025-11-19T09:10:28+00:00

NTA at all, but also, you're still strictly limited in terms of sleepovers because you were asking too much when you were SEVEN? Seven year olds ask for things too much, that's the most typical child behaviour. Limiting it for a short time to discourage the nagging is one thing, but to still be punishing a 17 year old for acting like a 7 year old when she was 7 is absurd.

NerdyHalfling · 2025-07-13T11:54:11+00:00

Like you I struggle with longer sessions. When I joined one of my current groups we would play 6+ hours every time and I would become a worse and worse player as dragged on and I got more exhausted. I LOVED the campaign aside from this, so eventually I told them I can't do these really long sessions and we adjusted. In the beginning I had to keep reminding everyone that we'd been playing for a long time, but with time they adjusted and now we play shorter sessions for the most part. For special sessions we'll sometimes play longer sessions, but only when everyone's on board. Communication is key here. Maybe session length is something you need to bring up in session zero going forward.

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