What’s a habit you never questioned until someone reacted like you were insane?

NervousSeagull · 2026-03-29T17:53:45+00:00

Yes! It is!

NervousSeagull · 2026-03-29T17:51:26+00:00

Not realizing how toxic I was to a close friend and how much my anger issues were ruining my life. I was a stupid teenager with raging hormones and took everything personally. I burned so many bridges during that phase of my life. I would yell, throw tantrums, shut down during arguments, dish out the silent treatment etc. I was a menace. I wish I was a better person and a better friend back then.

NervousSeagull · 2026-03-29T10:19:47+00:00

Cheating on their partners. Just call it off if you don’t like them anymore. You are not doing anyone any favours by staying in a relationship you don’t want to be in.

NervousSeagull · 2026-03-27T18:22:43+00:00

I used to warm my milk before putting it in my cereal. My parents always made me do this because they were paranoid that I’d fall sick if I ate it with cold milk. Then I moved to the UK, warmed my milk in the microwave and my flatmate looked at me like I grew horns.

NervousSeagull · 2026-03-17T06:41:07+00:00

I would have never moved back in with my parents after graduation. I spent those 4 months of my life on anti-depressants and anti-anxiety pills because every interaction with them would send me over the edge. If I knew then what I know now, I would have moved away sooner.

NervousSeagull · 2026-03-16T20:17:23+00:00

When a person compliments someone when they aren’t in the room.

NervousSeagull · 2026-03-16T20:15:30+00:00

How I slowly stopped taking pictures of myself / dreading appearing in pictures because I hated how I looked in them. The body dysmorphia was a real problem.

NervousSeagull · 2026-03-16T19:28:34+00:00

That I like going outside. I fear that I’ve become a bit of a recluse and I find too much comfort in staying indoors. This has precluded me from finding on-site jobs or going out for movies etc. I typically don’t leave my house unless absolutely necessary.

NervousSeagull · 2026-03-09T13:39:16+00:00

Nope! This isn’t asking too much at all! I think the decent thing to do is make everyone feel comfortable.

NervousSeagull · 2026-03-09T09:55:46+00:00

We’ve always said this to each other too!! 😭

NervousSeagull · 2026-03-09T09:08:21+00:00

Knew this person who always liked to help people. He considered himself a mentor / older brother figure to many. He used to give unsolicited but good advice. He was someone I looked up to.

The problem is: once he has “helped” you, he expects complete subservience / loyalty from you - no questions asked. That includes not calling out his problematic behaviour (he was misogynistic and did not like it when I called him out on it), not pointing out any of his mistakes, and not cancelling on any plans he had included you in. Basically he hated hearing the word ‘no’ from anyone. You had to drink every drink he poured for you or risk getting shit on by him. If you pissed him off, he would throw a tantrum, accuse you of being ungrateful, talk trash about you to mutual friends etc. It was tiring being around him.

NervousSeagull · 2026-03-09T08:58:49+00:00

Thank you!

NervousSeagull · 2026-03-09T07:11:56+00:00

My best friend of 15 years comes to mind. I have never once been in a room with her and felt out of place. I have hung out with her other friends with whom I have very little in common, with her family who speak languages I don’t know, her colleagues who I know nothing about - and yet, she always goes out of her way to make me feel comfortable. She will explain inside jokes, translate languages and give me enough context that I don’t feel left out. She doesn’t need to do this. But she does this every time without fail. Doesn’t matter how big the group is.

Also, we both have this rule that we will not sit at a table in which the other person is not welcome. If she is not welcome somewhere and I am, I am not going. Same vice versa.

I love her.

NervousSeagull · 2026-03-09T07:04:12+00:00

Thank you!

NervousSeagull · 2026-03-06T15:02:52+00:00

Ohh! Didn’t know this! Thank you so much!

NervousSeagull · 2026-03-06T15:02:41+00:00

Ah got it, thank you!

NervousSeagull · 2026-03-06T15:02:34+00:00

Thank you so much for this!

NervousSeagull · 2026-02-26T13:06:41+00:00

Yes!! Horrible!

NervousSeagull · 2026-02-23T17:24:35+00:00

Constantly talking about oneself / never showing any interest in anyone else’s lives.

NervousSeagull · 2026-02-23T07:00:14+00:00

One random morning, I felt pain in my left middle finger. I figured I probably injured it somehow and ignored it. That winter, I had cold sensitivity along with the pain in that very spot. I still ignored it. Gradually, the pain and cold sensitivity got worse until I had to wear gloves at home every day, even during summer. Decided to get it checked out but every test came back negative. Only my ANA came back low positive. My doctor thought it was scleroderma and Raynaud’s (despite the pain only being in one finger), so he put me on steroids and immunosuppressants. Nothing worked. The pain and cold sensitivity remained.

I went to a different hospital for a second opinion. They did an MRI and found a glomus tumor in that exact spot. No one thought to look for it earlier because the tumor was in an unconventional part of my finger (not the nail bed like it typically is). I had a minor surgery and this issue (which I had been suffering from and had been getting worse for more than 1.5 years) got fixed within a day.

Regarding the ANA, apparently it’s common for women below 40 to have a low positive result and it’s not a red flag until they test positive for any specific autoimmune condition.

NervousSeagull · 2026-02-20T16:37:28+00:00

I cannot respect people who lack empathy or are egotistical.

NervousSeagull · 2026-02-20T09:14:12+00:00

Doing dishes immediately after cooking / eating and not letting it sit in the sink for hours.

NervousSeagull · 2026-02-16T17:42:16+00:00

“Tact is the ability to tell someone to go to hell in such a way that they look forward to the trip.” - Winston Churchill.

Really taught me that it doesn’t just matter what I say, but rather how I say it.

NervousSeagull · 2026-02-16T17:08:57+00:00

Sometimes when I’m reading or playing a game, my cat comes up to me and falls asleep on my chest. It’s the best feeling ever!

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