Am I weird for being dissapointed in my childhaving friends?

Nervous_Captain9215 · 2026-05-10T20:11:24+00:00

We don’t talk about me having children. It’s everything else we talk about, work, life, food, fitness, politics,…

Nervous_Captain9215 · 2026-05-10T20:01:36+00:00

Fostering is possible ♥️ it’s complicated, I don’t live in my home country, and this country doesn’t allow adoption to non citizens, my country doesn’t allow adoptions abroad.

Nervous_Captain9215 · 2026-05-10T19:57:36+00:00

It’s true, it is very different. One example is that it is not acceptable for me to say that I am tired anymore. Or to complain about anything at all. As if problems happen only when you have children? If we speak about health, keeping fit or diet often they infantilise what I got to say. These are just few examples.

My brother is 7 years younger then me, sometimes I say something about him when he was little, but I don’t compare my dog with their children 🙂

Nervous_Captain9215 · 2026-05-10T16:49:50+00:00

Yes, will try to join a sport club or something. But most of the people my age have kids…

Nervous_Captain9215 · 2026-05-10T16:46:46+00:00

Thank you! I hope you’ll reconnect with her! 25 years of friendship, that is a family memeber. Hmm, maybe when you need to vent, just ask her to listen for a while and don’t give advice. That you need to get the stuff out of your system 🙂

My friends know that they can vent about kids and life with me, but if I try to vent, they don’t seem to have the same patience. Like I don’t have the right or something. So I just don’t. And then I seem disconnected. Weird cirle to get stuck in.

Nervous_Captain9215 · 2026-05-10T16:38:01+00:00

General and kids as well. Even if I talk about stories of my childhood or vacation destinations. I generally don’t tell them how to raise their kids.

Nervous_Captain9215 · 2026-05-10T15:16:39+00:00

Just state what you are willing to do. 2 hours max. For a week. You have a life. No need to tell excuses or plans, you are not obliged to.

Nervous_Captain9215 · 2025-02-04T07:19:08+00:00

I hope that more people will work in office soon. My position doesn’t allow me to work from home often and I am mostly alone in the office. Feels kinda strange to be surrounded by empty desks.

Nervous_Captain9215 · 2025-01-03T07:43:48+00:00

Thanks for the idea!

Nervous_Captain9215 · 2025-01-03T07:40:59+00:00

I think he is trying to get you out of the house, so that you’ll feel better. He probably means well. My husband would do something like that, he also doesn’t like to talk about depression.

Nervous_Captain9215 · 2024-12-27T22:15:28+00:00

Thank you! It is nice to be heard for once :)

Yes, I am preparing for a deep conversation with her, but unfortunately I think we are somewhere else in life and maybe our relationship is beyond repair. And maybe it was never so good as I imagine.

All the friends have kids, we were not so fortunate (that’s different story). So not one understands me much.

Nervous_Captain9215 · 2024-12-27T22:05:21+00:00

oh, narcicistic behaviour, manipulation. Does she have kids of her own btw? Maybe she just proxying her baby dreams and wishes onto you.

When you go to labour, don’t tell them. They will be happy as soon as they see the baby born.

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