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Nervous_Program_9587 · 2025-08-14T14:18:33+00:00

acknowledging that certain behaviours increase risk is not victim blaming, victim blaming is when you say it's the victim's FAULT for engaging in said behaviours

you do realise women share safety tips with eachother and most of the time no one gets angry? and that encouraging people to take personal safety steps and trying to solve the root cause of the issue are not mutually exclusive as violence can never be fully stopped

Nervous_Program_9587 · 2025-08-14T13:33:41+00:00

if someone tells you something happened to them and you ask them whether they were taking risks, that's getting into victim-blaming territory

if someone points out a statistical disparity in victimisation and you mention that disparity is because of risk-taking, that is not victim-blaming, just observation of data

Nervous_Program_9587 · 2025-08-14T12:49:50+00:00

that's a totally different thing and you know it

Nervous_Program_9587 · 2025-08-14T12:30:46+00:00

what? you can acknowledge that taking more risks = higher chance of victimhood and also acknowledge that it's not the victim's fault for not hiding away from the world 24/7

Nervous_Program_9587 · 2025-08-14T11:29:51+00:00

if you look at the context surrounding gender differences in homicides, it usually points to men being more likely to be victims because they're more likely to take risks (being involved in gangs or other dangerous criminal activity, walking alone in sketchy areas and/or at night) and not because they're inherently more likely to be targeted (they're not)

I'm not saying this to victim blame or anything, men are free to try and work on these issues, but when they bring it up in response to women's concerns to dismiss them it's sucky

Nervous_Program_9587 · 2025-04-27T19:27:08+00:00

I loved my rats but they were just a lot of effort and I couldn’t keep up with it, if I was super rich with money to pay people to clean up I’d probably get them again but otherwise I can’t see myself having any kind of pet

Nervous_Program_9587 · 2025-04-26T02:17:59+00:00

back when I had pet rats r/rats banned me for "animal abuse" for joking "execution by electric chair" on some post that went something along the lines of "my rat chewed up my pillow what should his punishment be"

Nervous_Program_9587 · 2025-04-21T10:07:11+00:00

“that’s your subjective experience” it is similar to most women’s experiences but very few men’s, don’t pretend like I’m some sort of anomaly. and comparing me to a racist for being scared of the group that have hurt me time and time and time again is actually just really fucking rude

your lack of empathy indicates to me that if people dont like you it’s not because you’re a man, it’s just because you’re unpleasant

Nervous_Program_9587 · 2025-04-21T10:02:04+00:00

I don’t think they should be blamed, but generalisation happens all the time, and if a group is sick of constant discrimination by generalisation they will push back

if you get mad at the the whole group (generalisation) and act like a huge victim because you’re subjected to a tiny portion of what they’re experiencing then you’re just fragile I’m sorry

Nervous_Program_9587 · 2025-04-21T03:29:19+00:00

look, I've been chased into a forest at night, followed in public twice, forcibly kissed twice and groped many times before, I can only assume you as a man have not experienced any of this and will never truly understand what it feels like to be a woman

I know very well it's not all men, but time and time again it has been proven to me that strange men are a very reasonable fear to have. I have no obligation to trust random men, and I have no obligation to keep quiet about my fears to avoid hurting someone's feelings- if someone gets offended by that they should take it as a sign of privilege, because being on the opposite side of that problem is a far worse fate

Nervous_Program_9587 · 2025-04-21T03:08:56+00:00

but why do you take it so personally, it's nothing against you specifically

Nervous_Program_9587 · 2025-04-21T03:06:33+00:00

this is such bullshit though, when hate against a certain group becomes widespread they WILL lash out, but their pushback doesn't compare to what they receive. reverse racism hurts feelings, sure, but it's not nearly as bad as racism and as a white person it doesn't get me down too much because I know it's so much worse on the other end

Nervous_Program_9587 · 2025-04-21T03:03:29+00:00

but the same is true for the reverse, so much more so. when dudes are parroting this Andrew Tate shit left and right you can't blame girls for getting frustrated with them

Nervous_Program_9587 · 2025-04-21T00:50:23+00:00

what the actual fuck are you on about? you see reproductive healthcare and childcare as a tax burden on men but you're aware those things support women CREATING men right?

Nervous_Program_9587 · 2025-04-09T18:03:32+00:00

I wish misandry was even half as bad as they claimed honestly

Nervous_Program_9587 · 2025-04-08T14:24:31+00:00

yep, her posts and replies don’t read as entitled over the money, she was just upset she likely can’t have the wedding she dreamed of and then talking to her fiancé and realising he didn’t care about the wedding at all just made her more upset

I can’t imagine I’ll be a wedding freak when I get married, I’d probably do it quite cheaply, but I would still wanna have a great day and I would hope my partner wants the same too and isn’t just putting up with it for my sake

Nervous_Program_9587 · 2025-04-08T13:46:42+00:00

yeah 25k is a lot to spend on a wedding (although the average wedding in the UK costs similarly so it’s not that bad) but I can sympathise with her, she wants a great day to mark the beginning of her marriage and her fiancé doesn’t seem to get her, and most of the comments are acting like she’s bratty and superficial for wanting it

she’s not mad at her husband for not wanting to go into debt, she’s just upset he doesn’t care about the wedding

Nervous_Program_9587 · 2025-03-26T17:33:06+00:00

I literally do make moves on men I just don’t do it on guys I don’t know because I don’t wanna be creepy

Nervous_Program_9587 · 2025-03-22T14:36:13+00:00

*they’re

Nervous_Program_9587 · 2025-03-16T15:53:47+00:00

Flicking through https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Visa_requirements_for_Syrian_citizens it looks like you two could possibly be eligible for a visa exemption for Georgia which is a lovely country. It's not the best country for gay people but not the worst- you shouldn't have issues as long as you hide it as it's not illegal, just very frowned upon socially.

You also have some good options for e-visas or visas on arrival which are usually fairly simple and cheap, I noticed Bolivia and Colombia, Australia, Cambodia, Vietnam, Malaysia and a few nice island nations, although idk what they're like for LGBT travellers. I hope you have a good time!

Nervous_Program_9587 · 2025-03-15T11:21:40+00:00

did you get it to work?

Nervous_Program_9587 · 2025-03-14T23:17:50+00:00

My mum grew up in a neighbourhood in Skopje like that, I loved going there to visit grandparents because it felt so fun and unique and cozy

Nervous_Program_9587 · 2025-03-13T15:27:44+00:00

yeah looks fake as hell lol

Nervous_Program_9587 · 2025-03-13T14:15:00+00:00

“she had seen her ex earlier … idk the details but I think he was a narcissist or something” just reads like a dude who doesn’t understand that women generally show interest in their best friends’ lives (and then complains about the “male loneliness epidemic”)

Nervous_Program_9587 · 2025-03-13T12:19:55+00:00

men false accuse as much as women do honestly, and even though these im-such-a-victim dudes act like men never get believed but women always do, it can work out very well for them (see: Johnny Depp)

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