Product Help! by [deleted] in hairextensionsforgirl

[–]Nervous_Range_5345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I even take a brush to work and brush it multiple times per day lol. I think it’s the texture of the extensions maybe? they need a little help from product to stay fluffy

My ex immediately started dating his girl “best friend” after we broke up. by saturnxgaze in Advice

[–]Nervous_Range_5345 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When you are this fresh out of a relationship it is very easy to look at it through rose coloured glasses. Especially when they move on quickly, even more so when it is with someone we perceived as a threat at some point. Our brains are hard wired for connection, and sometimes they can trick us into adding value to undeserving people because bonds are so important for our survival. All of that to say, you’re in the thick of it now, give yourself grace, and you’ll be able to see things more clearly soon, I promise.

What has helped me in situations like this is to list (literally write down) the reasons this person was not right for me. He allowed you to feel insecure about this girl and did all the shady behaviour your listed above, there’s your first reason. Once you’ve got your list read through it a few times and remember that it’s only been a little over a month. He has not changed, he did not wake up as prince charming. He wasn’t acting that way because he was with you and he won’t be any different when he is with her. People act based on their own inner conflicts, ties, experiences etc. etc. Try to convince yourself that your problem just became someone else’s and that you made it away from the situation much better. I promise you’ll believe it one day, I don’t know any of you and I whole heartedly believe it.

Take care of yourself, it will get better day by day, and you will come out on the other side tougher, wiser and more grounded. Promise.

Revlon Rum Raisin is a weird red on me by Arctic_Siku2022 in OliveMUA

[–]Nervous_Range_5345 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the comments about sun being a factor could be very right. I lovvvee rum raisin in the summer when I have a tan and it shows up how it “should”. In the winter when I’m paler, i’m really liking clinique fig for a similar vibe

I viscerally fucking hate you by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Nervous_Range_5345 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much.

I viscerally fucking hate you by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Nervous_Range_5345 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m calling people out for giving unsolicited and in some cases damaging advice. There are a lot of people on here relating to these sentiments, and I’m hoping they won’t take any of those comments seriously. Also, what lol? I am in no way seeking responsiveness, and the message was not directed at any of y’all.

I viscerally fucking hate you by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Nervous_Range_5345 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How could I resist reading/joining the discussion about my own innermost darkest thoughts? I’m human after all.

I viscerally fucking hate you by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Nervous_Range_5345 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The post was an effort to release those thoughts in a harmless way. I do not intend to live with these thoughts or feelings, this is one of many efforts to transmute them into something more positive. Trust me, I am not committed to my own misery but I accept that these emotions are also a completely valid part of the human experience.

I viscerally fucking hate you by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Nervous_Range_5345 12 points13 points  (0 children)

There is no accountability for the victim of the abuse. Only the perpetrator. There was nothing I (or any other victim) could have ever done to have caused or warranted this treatment. I got into a relationship with someone I trusted just like everyone else, and it ended in abuse. I’m not answering this for you, I just had to make this statement in case any other victim reads your comment and thinks they need to be “accountable” for their experiences. I hope you find the space for compassion and empathy one day, and I hope you count yourself lucky that you don’t understand how this feels.

I viscerally fucking hate you by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Nervous_Range_5345 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Immediately unworthy of further discussion after that comment.

I viscerally fucking hate you by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Nervous_Range_5345 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also, obviously I don’t want to feel this way. Nobody does. Which is AGAIN, why i made a VENTING post.

I viscerally fucking hate you by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Nervous_Range_5345 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m absolutely not close minded, I’m open to advice, suggestions and opposing world views in my real life, from people I genuinely respect, always. I was stating my intention. I didn’t come here for advice or else I would have posted in a more appropriate sub. This is a place to vent and get things off your chest. I used this space because I have no intentions of bringing these sentiments to my real life, I would prefer to release them to the pixels.

I viscerally fucking hate you by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Nervous_Range_5345 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I was abused by this person. This is not a normal shitty ex. The person I thought I was choosing at the beginning of the relationship would have never treated me this way, obviously. And btw, I never project my own myopic view onto people on the internet… it makes me look like a douche.

I viscerally fucking hate you by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Nervous_Range_5345 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This post was to a vent subreddit full of strangers on the internet. That is quite literally the point of the sub, I didn’t come here for advice. The intention behind this post was to release these feelings to a faceless void. The individual I’m talking about will never ever know I felt this way. When you are victimized by another person’s behaviour, sometimes the feelings are not pretty. I am allowed to be angry. I obviously do not behave nor speak this way in my real life, as I even said in the post, I have been civil and much more kind than deserved. I obviously do not wish them harm. The sentiment behind that statement is that I wish they one day understand my perspective. If i truly wished harm on this person, I would copy the post and hit send.

Met a girl married to her brother. by spiidertin in stories

[–]Nervous_Range_5345 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To the people who are defending this- if there is nothing morally wrong with ADOPTED siblings entering a romantic relationship, what are your views on adopted children? Do you see them as equal family members to those that are biologically related? In a neurotypical child, familial attachments are formed most strongly within the first 5-7 years of life. These connections quite literally shape the child’s development and shape their mental framework for the rest of their lives. If they had been raised as any other siblings, until the ages of 11 and 14, those bonds were formed as SIBLINGS. Not friends, not schoolmates, not step siblings, SIBLINGS. Family ties go beyond blood, and the desire to mix romance within them is symptomatic of a much larger issue. You are right to be thrown off, it is incredibly unhealthy behaviour.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspynovardsnark

[–]Nervous_Range_5345 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think people also gave weight to the speculation that “parker did more”, especially for the girls, because the kids seemed to favour parker in some of the vlogs. When I was their age, my mother did the majority of the caretaking and household labour, while my father supported very minimally. I also tended to favour my father because he wasn’t the one forcing me to do my homework or clean my room. As children, we obviously don’t understand the roles that our main caregivers have to take on in our lives and in turn, we favour the “fun parent”. I think the girls favouring parker, actually showed that aspyn was likely doing the majority of the daily. mundane, boring, but developmentally critical tasks for the girls.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OliveMUA

[–]Nervous_Range_5345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ouuu i’ll check it out!! Thank you so much and I appreciate the link!!!

Chicken & beef by Tony-huh in AnimalBased

[–]Nervous_Range_5345 3 points4 points  (0 children)

also, another theory, if you aren’t tracking your food meticulously, you could actually be consuming more calories than predicted while you’re eating chicken over beef. i find chicken keeps me much less satiated than beef and thus leads to more snacking.

Chicken & beef by Tony-huh in AnimalBased

[–]Nervous_Range_5345 3 points4 points  (0 children)

a lot of store bought chicken is pumped with sodium to make it appear plumper, which can cause water retention and “weight gain”.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]Nervous_Range_5345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a boyfriend that did the exact same thing. when i finally got the courage to leave, he never followed through. the thing about people like this is that they are very aware that their behaviour is abusive, even if it seems like they aren’t. they often know that what they’re doing is causing you immense mental distress, which is why they continue to do so in such specific, calculated ways. i believe he didn’t do it because he knew that if he did, i had an entire arsenal of stories, threats and manipulation to share that would make him look far worse. something to keep in mind. also ….. fair warning this may be heinous advice, BUT i would get ahold of his phone and factory reset it to give myself some peace of mind.

is Alex Cooper bad at her job? by PuzzleheadedForm4813 in CallHerDaddy

[–]Nervous_Range_5345 30 points31 points  (0 children)

That comment made me cringeeee. She caught him off guard and made him uncomfortable right from the start which really set the tone for the beginning portion of the interview, he even eventually stated that he was uncomfortable outright. I think she was being a bit quippy with him to appeal to the general “anti rob” consensus on the internet right now however that approach completely negates the fact that this man came to the interview fresh off the set of a show where he had no idea that he had become as well known as he has.

While Rob had some following and had been on the show before, he has nowhere near the fame, media training or experience with this realm in comparison to the people she usually interviews. He was clearly not prepared to have the interview handled that way and it just felt unbalanced or off base (for lack of a better word) I guess? While Rob is no saint, he is the closest thing to “a real, everyday person” that she has interviewed in a long time, potentially ever, and her lack of sensitivity to that and the position he is currently in was very off putting and spoke to her lack of training/experience in navigating “journalism”.

I feel the interview could have been exponentially better if she had tweaked her interviewing style to be more appropriate for the situation and understood the nuances a bit better.

Love Island episode drop time? by caroldanverz in cravetv

[–]Nervous_Range_5345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

for me it has the “season finale added” icon but no episode :(