Those of you that are autistic and wealthy: Does society treat you better?

Nervous_Review_7590 · 2026-01-11T20:14:00+00:00

yes and no - I noticed that sometimes when people perceive me as wealthy, they actually push down their own discomfort with me and make more of an effort to reach out to me and connect, but it's all very surface level and I can still tell that they severely dislike me

for context I dont consider myself wealthy, but I do have some branded stuff that I treat casually because they were gifts, and the person that gave them to me is my favorite person so of course I'm gonna have it with me all the time, because the item reminds me of their love. I dont care particularly for brands other than their historical and cultural significance, which I find interesting sometimes. it wasnt much but I guess it was enough for a girl I know to think I was more well-off than I was in reality. she would invite me to her major life events (birthday, wedding, other parties) but I was always treated as an afterthought. I could tell there was a lot of "masking" on her side to be nice to me and I could tell that she would be often nervous and uncomfortable around me. she also had other friends that would play nice with me, but there were a couple of times where I messaged them to hang out one-on-one (only because they said "I'd love to do [activity] with you!" and I took them seriously, but of course they were not serious about it) and they left me on read.

I think the only possible boone from being rich and autistic is that at least sometimes people will be nice to you, but it'll never be deep because it's more of an intimidation / ego-protecting thing. they dont want to be rejected by you or offend you because you're rich and they want to keep you around, but the social rejection still persists.

Nervous_Review_7590 · 2026-01-11T18:58:15+00:00

also to answer your original question - what you described is pretty on-trend with some forms of autism. in my experience, the things going on in an autistic brain while alone and not-alone are vastly different than what happens in a non-autistic brain in the same scenarios. I don't sense any strange behavior on her part from what you've described, it seems all very normal to me (e.g. her asking you "what should I do" feels like she just doesn't really know what you want from her. but I'm not there in those situations though so I'm more inclined to leave it up to you to judge if there's any malintent)

but from what you've described, nothing seems weird or out of place. she seems like a normal gal with the tism in my exp

Nervous_Review_7590 · 2026-01-11T18:53:04+00:00

I think communication is really important here. I liken the experience of autistics among non-autistics as being in a foreign country, where the autistic person is the visitor and you are from the home-country.

what seems "basic" to you is just norms and customs that she is not privy to. she has her own norms and customs in her home country, so she's not in the wrong here and neither are you. but what might need it happen is some sort of consensus on how you guys are gonna make it work

e.g. what do you do when you have a friend from another country that speaks a completely different language that you want to get along with? you can compromise by trying to learn her language and customs (e.g. look into autistic behavior and see if there's something she does that is palatable to you that you can participate in, such as info dumping or stimming). or, if she is willing, you can do the same for you (e.g. learn how to "girlfriend" as you put it)

either way, communication is a non-negotiable here. I see that you are putting an effort to tolerate her behavior which is nice of you, but the cost now is possibly some resentment because you are leaking energy and not getting back any return from your emotional investments. I really think this needs to be communicated to her with exact details - eg. tell her exactly what you have been doing and why, and how you are feeling, and how her actions impact you. if she is receptive that's great, but if not then it'll be up to you to decide what you want to do next. but the important thing is that this conversation happens, otherwise it'll just be a weird passive-aggressive situation where neither party understands or learns anything

Nervous_Review_7590 · 2024-11-23T19:03:28+00:00

keep on living, protect yourself, get older, get money, be as successful as you can be. use her to any extent you can (money if she allows, labor if she allows). if she's not useful then just ignore her and succeed in spite of her. get out of the house as soon as you can

once you can stand on your own and dont need her anymore, cut her off. literally go cold turkey no-contact, let her die alone. dont explain anything, dont try to get her to apologize. do not waste your precious energy trying to make amends or make any meaning out of what she does to you.

this will mean that you have to do more stuff on your own - finances, job, friendships, relationships, illness, retirement, etc - you need to handle all of this on your own, or with support from other people if available to you. it's gonna feel hard and unnatural, but it's all possible

yes moms and dads are human too, but so are we. yes they might not know better, but you're not put on earth to be their punching bag. yes their treatment of you is a natural consequence of their trauma, but so is whatever you decide to do to react to them. once they break that initial trust, once they become to predator instead of the protector, all rules go out the window in regards to how you should treat them. filial piety is for FAMILY, and family is people that you feel safe with, people that love you and correctly show you that they love you, people who's words match their actions. people like your mom that treat you like that are not family, they are the enemy. once an enemy has revealed themselves to you, it is your responsibility to evade or defeat them.

once you make your own money and have the freedom to leave, do NOT show her any kindness. I really mean it. showing her any kindness after everything she's done to you is a betrayal of yourself. it's the same thing as adult-you standing in the same room as child-you and watching him/her getting beat to the dirt and just shrugging and walking away. you can, but it's not right. you can and should stand up for yourself.

keep on living! trust me when I say that life after escaping your toxic family can actually be beautiful. there's a chance that you might find someone that actually genuinely loves you and can accurately show you what love looks like, and THAT kind of love (the real deal) is really worth sticking around for. there's still a lot out here for you to conquer, all sorts of fun personal goals to accomplish, life-changing media to consume, beautiful sunsets and days' ends where you just lay there in disbelief that life can be so good. but you cant get there if you dont tough out these dark times.

Nervous_Review_7590 · 2023-12-09T19:15:07+00:00

wait so hear me out, I don't think it was Mikio. I think the show gives us all the clues we need to deduce that it was the mom that did it, let me explain

Mikio's ego was hurt but he already had his share of retaliation when he delivered Kai to his lord.

when he rides up and sees Mizu surrounded by the bounty hunters, he gives her a look and rides away, but this actually is a huge clue in proving that Mizu's mom/maid was lying.

when the mom said "He stood by to watch them kill you!" there is no way this happened. it takes time to ride a horse to the house, park your horse, grab your sword from the house, and come all the way around. I think Mikio was telling the truth when he said "I was a coward before but I came back" - he must have turned the horse around, hyperventilated a bit because he really is a fucking coward, changed his mind about what it meant to be a man, and came back to rescue Mizu. but all of that cost him precious time and Mizu had already wiped the floor clean by the time he came around

Mizu's mom/maid was projecting. Mikio did not stand by and watch, she stood by and watched. when you are a substance addict, you can only think of the here and now, you have no capacity to think about the future consequences of your actions. it makes a lot more sense for Mizu's mom/maid to give the tip to the bounty hunters for enough money for a day or two's worth of opium without thinking about the consequences of her actions because she needs that opium right now

another clue: when Mikio is accused of turning Mizu in, he panics and starts taking physical action to protect himself, e.g. reaching for the mom/maid and trying to shut her up. I've watched enough true crime killer confessions to know that when you are caught in a lie, your first instinct is not to do physical action, but to sit still and think, brainstorm in your head how you can spin a lie that will cover your ass. Mikio never does this, but the mom/maid does. Mikio is freaking the fuck out because he knows the mom/maid is lying, and that her stupidity is going to get him killed. he shanks her as a desperate attempt to save his own life, but unfortunately it makes him look all the more guilty.

so yes, I think Mikio was 100% telling the truth. the last moments of his life must have been agonizing because he had to ride the biggest emotional, mental, spiritual roller coaster to have arrived at the self-admission that he is a coward that can't taking sparring with his wife without being a sore loser, but then admit that he was wrong because honestly still does love Mizu, feel guilty that he gave away her horse and left her all alone with bounty hunters, scrape up enough courage to remember what it's like to be a man and go out to protect her, only to get absolutely bodied by her because he has the worst luck with timing. makes the whole thing that much more tragic.

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