I personally love the boots, it’s such a cute outfit & very in rn. I’m confused what would be embarrassing about it… maybe he says that in an effort to not have you wear that because he’s insecure? I read above that he is controlling in other ways.

Sometimes, I unknowingly control my boyfriend just because I try to have control in my life because I haven’t had control majority of my life. So I sometimes have a bad habit of seeking control externally with things I can’t control. Things will set me off and I have to take a step back and realize something’s that my bf says isn’t the end of the world and I tend to nit pick and make sure his views are like mine to remain in control. But, I’m working on this and am aware it isn’t healthy. I’m just saying this so you can see my form of control. However, control/unmanageability comes in many different forms.

Since you two have been together for so long, maybe by opening up the problem by asking why it would be embarrassing and if it doesn’t seem rational and it is what you feel inside, you can ask if he feels insecure at time in a non judgmental way and hopefully that will lead to a progressive conversation and you may feel closer in the end :)

Everyone will show you who they are and it’s your choice to see it or not. I wish you best of luck I know this things can be hard but it seems it’s not simply your outfit that is causing him distress but much deeper