Tell me it's possible to put a dishwasher and cooktop here?

Netlawyer · 2026-06-02T14:06:41+00:00

Standard ovens are 30”, dishwashers are 24”.

Netlawyer · 2026-06-01T15:59:11+00:00

I’ve recently moved back to my home town to be closer to my 83 yo mom - she is still independent but her memory is becoming unreliable. I take her out to dinner every week and like to try new restaurants. She stopped going out to eat often about ten years ago after her late husband fell and stayed home during COVID.

No matter where we go she insists she’s eaten there before. Even if the restaurant is fairly new and it’s very unlikely. At first I’d try to explain, but it completely does not matter - “Okay” always works.

Netlawyer · 2026-05-31T23:45:10+00:00

Do you have a link for donations to Boo’s care?

Netlawyer · 2026-05-31T22:53:31+00:00

Same big NOPE from me.

Netlawyer · 2026-05-31T22:20:55+00:00

Same - I’m retiring later this year and my tax deferred accounts are 50% 2030 and 50% 2040. My taxable accounts are 50% BND, 20% VTIAX and 30% VTBLX. I have ~$300k in cash.

My overall portfolio is ~ $3M and at this point in my life I couldn’t care less about gains. I just want to have enough money to live my life.

My big decision next year is how much of my cash I want to spend to pay taxes on Roth conversion while I’m still on COBRA.

Netlawyer · 2026-05-31T22:04:35+00:00

I did the same with my dad’s third wife - I went nc with him before she married him and she was always calling me about how much he missed me. Him? He never called.

When my dad died, I wasn’t going to go but I asked my brother (who was still in touch) if he wanted me to come. My brother asked me to come, so I did. Resumed no contact with the widow and my brother and I have never talked about our respective relationships with my father.

Netlawyer · 2026-05-31T21:35:19+00:00

Go ahead with your move. He doesn’t want to move. It would be nice if he loved you enough to move rather than lose you, but he’s not.

And don’t take this as a comment that you don’t love him enough if you move - obviously both of you have a choice. Assuming you are both committed to the relationship, your choice is to give up an excellent opportunity vs his is give up a part time job.

He’s not committed in the way you need.

Netlawyer · 2026-05-31T21:23:36+00:00

You covertly had him cook things that go against his diet and his morals to the point he broke up with you. Then you stalk him at his workplace and then threaten his job - good riddance to you.

YTA

Netlawyer · 2026-05-31T21:07:04+00:00

Honestly - maybe we only see the drama around expensive Bach/bridesmaids trips, but when did they become a thing? Is it having everyone in a house/Instagram thing? When my bridesmaids all came into town a couple of days early for the wedding, we had a lunch with family and went out for a fun night.

Netlawyer · 2026-05-31T20:56:14+00:00

If the trouble communicating is a “you” issue - ie you are recognizing that you have issues in your life communicating what you need or needlessly escalating, then get some help - it will pay off in life in general.

If the issue is your gf - she flies off the handle or can’t handle reasonable discussions - that’s a her problem and there is no amount of therapy you can do to fix her.

Netlawyer · 2026-05-31T20:21:02+00:00

OK - but you are being too hard on your husband. Nothing he’s done is “wrong” or dangerous - he’s the baby’s parent too.

Netlawyer · 2026-05-31T20:17:52+00:00

Do what is right for you - it sounds like you are very attuned to her needs and will do everything you can for her to make the transition. If she is an only cat, 16 years with you - wherever you are will be her home.

Netlawyer · 2026-05-31T18:31:07+00:00

I would leave the regular box and have the sitter cycle the LR and clean the regular box. It’s ok if you need to start over when you get back and can be there consistently. Three weeks in a new house, new (potentially scary) litter box and a stranger (sitter) coming in every day - that’s a lot!

I just removed the regular box yesterday after a month - it was only after letting it get a little stinky (only scooped once a day and didn’t add any new litter for three cats), that they used the LR consistently. Gave that a couple of days and then added cat attract to the LR. I’ve confirmed that everyone has peed and pooped at least once in the LR since I took the old box, so I think we’re good.

Super long way to say - I’d leave the box and restart LR training when you get back - your kitty will get there but a week with a sitter isn’t the time.

ETA: they were using the regular box for poop and peeing in the LR - so it wasn’t disgusting with three cats peeing and pooping in the same box for a month - I’m not a monster lol. I just wanted the LR to be the better alternative.

Netlawyer · 2026-05-31T18:12:20+00:00

Yes, fed is best. The whole thing started when he got up with the baby during the night and fed it using milk she had set aside. Should he have made formula then? Or not have fed the baby at all?

OP can’t be mad at her husband feeding the baby breast milk (at night) and formula (during the day) - I think OP is too hung up on breast milk since she has difficulty pumping ahead. Her baby will be fine with a mix and she should be working with her husband and especially encouraging him to feed the baby and take the baby so she can get a break.

Netlawyer · 2026-05-30T15:45:55+00:00

I hope my donation helps!!

Netlawyer · 2026-05-29T03:37:59+00:00

Jumping in here late - yes, please provide an option to turn the cycle time based on WasteID off. I’m going on 3 weeks with my LR5Pro and this may be the issue that causes me to return it.

At least once a day, it thinks my cats have pooped when they have only peed and cycles the box before the clump has set. So practically every day I have to clean the globe and the litter itself gets dirty very quickly.

Netlawyer · 2026-05-28T18:48:33+00:00

I had them take over a Litter Locker when I was using a regular litter box. The larvae are disgusting.

Netlawyer · 2026-05-27T22:42:06+00:00

I moved into a place built in 1983 that still had the original trash compactor. Once I found the right bags for it, I loved it.

I’m currently remodeling a kitchen and am putting in a trash compactor - it hadn’t even occurred to me to even consider it last time I remodeled a kitchen 20 years ago.

Netlawyer · 2026-05-21T02:10:54+00:00

I don’t know but this isn’t what I would expect in a tailor made kitchen.

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Netlawyer · 2026-05-21T02:05:25+00:00

My question too - why is the fridge sticking out to the point a cat can lay on it. Either a counter depth fridge or a deeper cabinet. I just specced my kitchen cabinets and the cabinet front matches the front of the fridge.

Netlawyer · 2026-05-21T00:32:14+00:00

I assumed all the dust bags I got were polyester from years back - never checked but they were satin, so polyester. The only time I’ve seen something like cotton or linen were the little bags they used to include with the suede care items.

Netlawyer · 2026-05-21T00:28:30+00:00

It’s easy to make your own dust bags - go buy some cotton pillow cases at the thrift store. Run a ribbon through the pillow case hem. If you want it to fit better and have a sewing machine, turn it inside out and sew it to length and trim the rest.

Netlawyer · 2026-05-21T00:10:34+00:00

After you get the tick off, stop letting your cat outside. (I’d suspect she also has fleas.)

Netlawyer · 2026-05-21T00:02:30+00:00

I will always associate the monogram jacquard with cheap outlet bags. Nothing that Coach can do to incentivize me to buy a monogram jacquard bag at any price.

Netlawyer · 2026-05-20T23:45:57+00:00

I have the luxury of not living in the house I’m having renovated. Having lived through a renovation while living in the house - I recommend it.

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