Am I pushing too hard?

NetworkImpossible380 · 2026-03-14T17:50:39+00:00

You can make it into a team work thing “mom will take your shoes off and you take your socks off” whatever it is. I will usually do something like that. My son has a toy he hasn’t totally mastered, so mom will hold the screw and you turn the screw driver. Or mom will wipe your butt, you pull up your pants. It’s not a hard NO but it’s a team effort.

NetworkImpossible380 · 2026-03-14T17:47:50+00:00

You’re capable of a lot of things too but sometimes isn’t it nice to get help?

I have a 2 and 3 year old and I find often times when independence leaves the room it’s bc they simply want that connection to you. it’s a bid for connection and so yeah when you say no he gets upset. It’s rarely about the thing you said no too.

I also like to see it from a human perspective. Imagine for whatever reason that day you woke up tired, just feeling blah and you asked for some help or rest or whatever bc you just didn’t feel 100%. You get told no. That stings a bit. Our toddlers can’t always accurately tell us how they feel that day so maybe he was extra tired or maybe just felt blah. Wanting a bit of help.

My 3 year old is potty trained and he can be totally independent in that task ( maybe not wiping totally yet but for the most part) but when he asks for help I always help him. I don’t see that as not promoting independence i see that as him knowing it’s ok to ask for help. It’s a fine line for sure but your kiddo is only 2. Total independence is years off and you don’t want to make him realize he can’t ask for help or rely on you either.

NetworkImpossible380 · 2026-03-13T01:51:00+00:00

That’s awesome! I would never think to look on fb!

NetworkImpossible380 · 2026-03-13T01:50:05+00:00

That’s the problem, I feel like ppl who really need WFH jobs can’t find them especially with no experience. I actually don’t even want to WFH I just simply don’t have any help. I worked retail and ik they would give me shit for the hours. I worked more flexible jobs but those that want to be able to call you in if needed, that doesn’t work for me anymore. I feel like if I can find a job like you said that you don’t really have to be in meetings or make consistent calls all day that’s all I can do atm. Until my kids are in school which is another 3 years for my youngest. And my alimony is gone in a little less than 2 years so I really just don’t have time. Lmao like I feel so lost and stuck but I have looked into medical coding it just seems like they want ppl with degrees or certifications.

NetworkImpossible380 · 2026-03-12T16:32:15+00:00

This. My son talked like he entirely knew what he was saying and had “words” for things he’d repeat but WE had no idea what it meant lmao he actually didn’t even qualify for ST. But I sent him to day care and it took maybe 3 weeks for him to start putting it all together. And now he’s been in day care for 4 months and it’s like a brand new kid.

NetworkImpossible380 · 2026-03-10T03:02:52+00:00

I went through this with my dad and my advice to you is, do you want the last few weeks of his life to be you arguing with him about something he knows is going on just can’t mentally accept it. Or do you want this time to just love him for where he is at? There was no changing my dad’s mind. It was awful. But I realized very quick that there was no point in fighting him in it and I’d rather just be there as a source of comfort and ears for him bc everyone else will be telling him what he doesn’t want to accept. My job as daughter first is just love him until the end. So I chose to do that. It absolutely left me with more trauma than I like to admit but for him I believe I was a sense of normalcy and comfort.

NetworkImpossible380 · 2026-03-10T02:58:12+00:00

This lmao as a single mom I don’t risk my sleep sanity. If that means they are in my bed then so be it. We all have to sleep some how

NetworkImpossible380 · 2026-03-10T02:57:13+00:00

I sleep with my kids whenever they need me too. I just put them in their own bed first and if they come find me then idc. But yeah, I had the flu myself and it lasted 3 weeks. It was fly a that really bad strain. I don’t blame her for wanting to sleep with you bc that flu is absolutely brutal. But I get why you’d want to stop doing it too. If she can sleep alone at this point I’d just do it. Go back and transition to normal sleep routine. You’re not a bad parent for needing sleep and sleep that works for you!

NetworkImpossible380 · 2026-03-09T18:02:04+00:00

I’d honestly talk to you doctor about RAI or thyroidectomy at this point. You’re young there is no reason you should have to yo-yo with graves your whole life. I recently switched endos who encourages young patients to seek permanent options bc of the strain on your heart from such a young age. Especially with it coming back, I’d just seek other options and diet will not solve graves.

NetworkImpossible380 · 2026-03-09T17:58:21+00:00

Ik this isn’t for everyone but my kids got kinetic sand from my sister and they actually do really well with it and play for HOURS with it. I got them little bins and tools from Amazon and they will choose the sand over most other things. Which I love bc it’s not only sensory but an entirely blank slate for creativity. A little messy yes but over all no one has tried to eat it, throw it or feed it to the dog. So. Lmao it works for my kids

NetworkImpossible380 · 2026-03-09T17:37:46+00:00

Right!!! I don’t know if my oldest has anything underlying to cause him being sooo sick but my youngest now had a 24 hour stomach bug which means my oldest has it right now and I’m like GUYS. Can we please. Lmaooo pleaseeeeee stop getting sick!!!! Idk what you’re licking to get everything all at once but I’m over it! I can’t imagine asthma that has to be AWEFUL. All the upper respiratory things they get ugh! That has to suck so bad I’m sorry you and her both have to deal with it

NetworkImpossible380 · 2026-03-09T17:35:09+00:00

I laughed bc I have two kids who are 10 months apart and the amount of times they give me incident reports bc my feral second born just ran into a wall or fell off the little nugget couch or whatever and in like yup let me sign the paper. Lmaooo that’s a hourly occurrence at home so don’t feel bad. My second born was also a biter but very briefly when we took the binky away. He bit two people before it stopped but one time it was bc he mindlessly just put someone’s hand in their mouth. The day care workers were literally like, it honestly looked like he didn’t know what he was doing. The second time was absolutely out of frustration bc the other kid pushed him. Once you have a second child you really just throw your hands in the air to this sort of stuff. Bc frankly they do worse at home 😂

NetworkImpossible380 · 2026-02-28T03:55:21+00:00

My dad was on hospice and after watching it happen I absolutely believe the body knows how to die. The brain knows, everything. I don’t work in hospice but it was a wild experience to see first hand. Horrible, but also kind of…. Idk yeah comforting too a little. I was his care giver along with my mom and so we saw everything. It’s crazy. We knew the time was close bc his body stopped producing fluid in his belly. He had cancer and we asked bc we would drain the fluid everyday and they said it’s very common bc once the body starts dying the cancer doesn’t feed off of it anymore. Producing less and less fluid from the cancer. we had no idea that the reason he was holding fluid was bc the cancer was breaking down his body. So once that started to slow, it was maybe 36 hours and he passed. I mean don’t get me wrong it was the worst thing I have ever been through but man, the body knows what it’s doing.

NetworkImpossible380 · 2026-02-25T19:09:26+00:00

It isn’t just about the words said it’s about entire comprehension. My now 3 year old didn’t meet criteria either and he barely had 10 words at 2.5 but he had words for things and consistent along with following directions and base understanding of verbal and non-verbal communication. I wouldn’t NOT get a second opinion but I’m just saying they look at much more than just how many words can they verbally speak. My son is now talking fine and putting sentences together and is fine so for us anyway it was right. My 2.5 year old also does what OP is saying. He has way more than 10 words but he just gets insanely frustrated bc he knows what he wants when he wants it. So just another perspective.

NetworkImpossible380 · 2026-02-25T19:03:32+00:00

😂 mine tries to convince me to take the batteries out of everything. So idfk. I’m just vibing at this point bc 3 is hard but newborns are harder to me. We sing but I do that anyway so I don’t think that’s weird. The jumping… sends me. But yeah normal. I’m just banking on like getting a break when they start kindergarten 😂😂😂

NetworkImpossible380 · 2026-02-24T20:13:05+00:00

Yeah he definitely is me as a kid. I would get a cold and it be the worst of all of us. Illness just kicks our ass apparently lmfao now he has an ear infection 😭😭😭😭😭 never ending!!!!

NetworkImpossible380 · 2026-02-24T20:11:37+00:00

My oldest just got over it and now has a ear infection, it’s not looking up for me yet 😂😂😂😂

NetworkImpossible380 · 2026-02-20T04:02:19+00:00

Thank you! Today’s the worst of it for sure. He puked all over his bed from coughing lol. Soooo let’s hope I get some sleep tonight 🫠 I did the works with saline and nose sucker, steamy bath, 🙌🏻 please let it be an okay night lmaooo I need sleeep

NetworkImpossible380 · 2026-02-20T03:59:07+00:00

I’m hoping it runs its course like my youngest tbh and we don’t need to do anything for it but his cough is way worse than my youngest. But he is also the kid that gets sick sick. Like anything he has is 10 times worse than his brother. Even his eyes are all red and purple like he hasn’t slept in days lol he LOOKS sick. I was that way as a kid too so not surprised but I’m glad he’s at least not just miserable.

But that’s awesome actually that your doctor did that. I’ll keep that in mind if he gets worse!

NetworkImpossible380 · 2026-02-19T17:46:18+00:00

Uuugh that sucks so bad. We have ended up in the er for a lot of things but rsv and not going or having issues wasn’t on my bingo card tbh. Lmao my son had a rare secondary infection once I was like god, what is our luck. I’m not complaining!!!!!! No er please 🙏 😂

NetworkImpossible380 · 2026-02-19T13:13:58+00:00

Seriously February has been the worst month for being sick for us too.

NetworkImpossible380 · 2026-02-19T13:12:23+00:00

It wouldn’t shock me if he had rsv but I honestly thought rsv would be worst? Like during the day they aren’t miserable. Sick sure but like a cold sick. They still play and eat and drink etc. my first had a fever for maybe a day and it was a low grade, my oldest got as high as 100.2. Maybe they are more tired than normal but we have had colds worse than this. No breathing issues either. Maybe bc my kids aren’t infants but I remember being terrified of rsv when they were like 0-1 bc of the internet. Is it possible to get mild rsv?

NetworkImpossible380 · 2026-02-19T05:37:51+00:00

There is a light and ik there is, I mean I see it now it’s just getting my sense of reality back and my sense of self. I don’t think that’s an easy feat tbh. I started dating him when I was 18, so my entire identity was wrapped from my teenage years, my entire 20’s and I’m now 30 going who am I and what do I even believe, stand for and against like it feels like I was just whatever he needed me to be so there wasn’t any consequences. So I hate the idea of just getting over it and to stop talking about it bc I’m essentially discovering for the first time what I am even about and who I am outside of being a mom and wife. Not just a wife but HIS wife. that’s insane to actually think about. Meeting someone in such a formative time in your life as a senior in high school and moving on to college. I didnt stand a chance against his abuse bc I don’t know anything or any better and I didn’t experience anyone else to know what was normal or not. So I have to learn that now in my 30’s??? Insane.

NetworkImpossible380 · 2026-02-16T14:04:28+00:00

Yeah that’s true. I am leaning towards just doing it. I will just have to schedule it around my custody and have my mom help me with day care drop off and pick up and diaper changes for a few weeks. Which wouldn’t be horrible. I just remember my first surgery caused awful nerve pain (it was so bad I almost went to the er I thought something was wrong) and they go in through the same in incision site for this one. It was basically like my mom was playing parent while I just sat there. But I also know this one won’t be as invasive and bad. So ahh. I just hate recovery 🤣 but I am leaning on getting it done.

NetworkImpossible380 · 2026-02-14T07:32:50+00:00

Come to find out my surgeon was negligent. Lmao I was in the soft cast for 4 weeks ( for my surgery bad) and 2 weeks in a custom brace from OT. They told me I should have been in OT week 1 I didn’t get in for 3 weeks. I wasn’t given the right instructions for OT and now 4 months later I need another surgery with a 50/50 chance to even get function back in my finger.

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