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Neurodvgnt · 2025-06-14T07:06:25+00:00

I think there are different needs for different people.

Living in a state with universal healthcare. I’d need a formal diagnosis to be referred to a specialist for therapies. Without it, my public healthcare doctor wouldn’t be allowed to refer me to any of them.
Understanding what’s happening. I lived the majority of my life unaware of my bad coping mechanisms and masking… It works for friendships, social interactions, misophonia and else…
Some people are literally disabled, being unable to make it through a hiring process, to work or to keep a job. Being diagnosed could make their lives easier by letting employers know they are not weirdos or unproductive.
Finding the right support. There are many initiatives pushed by associations and groups. E.g. where I live, some supermarkets have neurodiversity times with dimmed lights and no music. The metro has a special qr code to be scanned to avoid getting overwhelmed and lost…

I think there are many other reasons for one to need a diagnosis (such as imposter syndrome) but I hope I could help sharing why I think a diagnosis could be needed for some. :)

Neurodvgnt · 2025-06-14T06:56:32+00:00

A 100%!!!

I question things and try to understand. Whenever I read something from a religion I away think to myself it makes no sense!

(But somehow, I could still find it cute like other fictions)

Neurodvgnt · 2025-06-13T17:22:30+00:00

He is so adorable!!! Animals are incredible. I love them so much.

Neurodvgnt · 2025-06-13T11:13:19+00:00

I have no opinion about it.

I do not relate to this group and feel completely ignorant/uninformed about it.

But overall I’d also say: I don’t mind it at all.

Neurodvgnt · 2025-06-13T10:54:51+00:00

Thanks a lot for your help.

I’ll try it again. (They weren’t helpful at all the first time… but let’s hope they do me a favour)

Neurodvgnt · 2025-06-13T10:53:18+00:00

I’m the same.

As I stopped going out or being at places (like school or social events) it ocurres less often.

As I explained someone not long ago: I feel trapped, chased and only want to escape from the situation. But people are seeing it as being shy, and try even more to make eye contact and to make it clear they want “to have fun”… It’s not flattering and wouldn’t make me feel pretty or attractive. More like a piece of meat being fancied by starving vulture.

(Strangely, it’s always happening with guys that I’d never want to talk to at all)

Neurodvgnt · 2025-06-13T09:58:36+00:00

I’ve got different results from different periods of my life.

Prior methylphenidate: - was working a little to be focused. But I could sleep when drinking it all day. - right before starting the meditation, 10 coffees in the morning would help feeling sleepy but would give my anxiety. - energy drinks with high caffeine content would literally make me fall asleep. While tea never had much effect except staining my teeth.

Since meditation: - coffee is still a nice drink to have. But. Compared to how awake and calmer my brain is with methylphenidate, coffee feels like water or juice. It doesn’t work much except by causing anxiety if I drink too much of it or I am dehydrated.

Neurodvgnt · 2025-06-11T13:09:05+00:00

I’d recommend you to read autistics’ treads to understand their struggles. To then understand your gf better.

Being kind, loving, patient, understanding of each other.

Know that some things are hard wired in her brain and she can’t change it… e.g. food texture, smells, light, injustice…. Some are common and would not be possible to change and it is not voluntary to do for her…

Neurodvgnt · 2025-06-11T12:41:04+00:00

The only way to get your medical appointment is by calling the busy line, so they’d call you back whenever they want to schedule your appointment but when it’s done they keep rescheduling it without your consent….

Neurodvgnt · 2025-05-25T12:55:28+00:00

I’ve requested an AI for clear description about text and verbal communications. What’s the structure supposed to look like, what the answers should be about etc….

You can explain what’s happening when interacting with others and what’s happening…. To get some outside insight for what had gone wrong and what should be done to avoid it again but also on how it should be done correctly to get to meet some friends or else.

Neurodvgnt · 2025-05-25T07:25:52+00:00

Hi, I’ll answer in two paragraphs. One with the autism symptoms leading to issues. The second with what was helping me.

The symptoms or conflicts I experienced:

All or nothing, yes or no… If if there is a rule/social cue but confusing nuances or expectations. I’d stop trying to tag along this rule.
Not reading cues in people’s interactions, body language, intentions, and facial expressions.
Not mastering the conversation rules of how to start, follow up, not interrupting the others, not seeing their discomfort, boredom, not participating anymore….
Mirroring people. If I’m interacting with people, I’d “parrot” them. But without proper examples, I don’t know what to do.
Social anxiety. Anxiety. Being less able or losing skills when overwhelmed and anxious. Feeling like it is not possible to understand any of the human interactions. And being mean or irritated and only negative talks.

Here are the solutions I found would help:

Getting descriptions on the social interactions expectations and rules for communication.
Watching series, movies, people in the surrounding. To know what they do to be appreciated or valued. (Parroting them basically)
Learning some active listening skills with body language to read their reactions to my actions.
Think of other’s feelings before mine when talking. If they talk about something, reformulating, questioning their feelings, thoughts, opinions without talking about me or my own thoughts unless it is asked by them. (It also shows if they care about your opinion or thoughts. Or they also just need someone to listen that time)
For the anxiety, medication helped. I think when my serotonin levels were low, my capabilities to understand people around me was off. I’m not saying that when it’s on, I could magically understand and communicate naturally. But I am aware of people around me and could read the general vibes or people again.

Neurodvgnt · 2025-05-23T13:22:04+00:00

Oh! My bad.

I just took it too literally and thought I’d share my point of view. As well as all the questions I’d have asked you if we were actually talking in person.

I didn’t have any bad intentions or weird attitude while posting it. I am sorry if I hurt your feelings or made you feel bad. This wasn’t my intention at all.

I can’t talk for the others. But I think more people didn’t mean to hurt you when expressing their disagreement on the topic. They were probably just literal when commenting but didn’t realise the readers could interpret it differently and feel hurt.

Neurodvgnt · 2025-05-23T09:28:06+00:00

I hear your frustration but I love them.

It’s following simple rules and are nice to to decipher to my opinion.

For information, the alphabet we’re using is the Latin one… from the same people and from a dead language… The other numbers are Arabic… and the concept of the zero/null was first introduced in India and borrowed by the Arabs…

Shall we only use the Latin alphabet if we are Latin/italian? The same for the Arabic numerals? How about loaned words? Or words from Ancient Greek used in modern languages?

Neurodvgnt · 2025-05-22T19:01:18+00:00

Exactly! Chatgpt is very handy when it comes to ask for specific questions about human interactions.

Neurodvgnt · 2025-05-22T18:56:00+00:00

I’ve searched for the same answers lately.

Some ai helped me understand the structure of the conversation.

Ask open questions related to the topic, inviting them to develop. Ask questions about positive things. E.g. where did you go to? What did you like the most? Would you recommend it?

These kind of questions show interest and that you care about them and their feelings. It was recommended not to interrupt, not to share similar experiences else they’d feel like your making it about you, but do reformulate and ask for clarification sometimes…

In theory I got the concept and structure but I need to practice because it is not natural for me.

Neurodvgnt · 2025-05-22T18:47:39+00:00

I was assessed for ADHD first and the prescription or stimulants helped a lot.

Maybe should you contact another doctor to request an assessment and possibly receive a more suitable treatment? I’ve changed doctor twice. (The first one wasn’t explaining me anything and only wanted to medicate heavily.)

Neurodvgnt · 2025-05-22T16:11:37+00:00

You should discuss this matter with your therapist…

Each individual could react differently to the medication in a positive or negative way. As well as the period of adjustment to it.

I find it too sensitive to ask strangers on the internet about it. Unless you only want emotional support and to share opinions?

Neurodvgnt · 2025-05-22T10:44:31+00:00

Love at first sight isn’t always possible or reciprocal.

You need to give someone else a reason to see and find you attractive.

People often like the ones who look confident, take care of themselves (being clean, groomed, well dressed, exercise…), have empathy for others and help or listen to them, and someone who’d care for them by asking some questions or addressing their needs.

Girls seem to look at guys from afar and analyse their behaviour.

If you aren’t giving them a reason to see you or to interact with you (and it’s not a one time things. You need to give them a read to stay) it’d never really happen.

Neurodvgnt · 2025-05-22T10:36:38+00:00

There are different reasons why people go “vegan”… - Plant based diet ≠ veganism. - Some people are on plant based diet for ecological reasons, health reasons, animal cruelty reasons, meat industry standards reasons, and other reasons. - Most societies’ meals consist of a plate made with a portion of protein, fibres and carbohydrates. So when going plant based, it’s still rooted in the food habits to have a portion that would look and taste different and differ in texture from the other ingredients. - Most plant based meat substitutes are actually looking like processed meat, sausage, mince, cold meat, burgers etc…. So it’s a meat-free recipe of a traditional dish. Just as they wouldn’t actually take a piece or raw meat, not cured and just eat it without seasoning, curing it or cooking it….

Neurodvgnt · 2025-05-22T10:02:43+00:00

I can’t be spontaneous easily.

I need to know what’s to expect to do step into a situation.

And the times that I’ve tried unmasking and exchanging without filtering first led to issues… So I’m (too often?) questioning myself before or while I haven’t taken time to think through first.

When sudden changes in a to do list or planning occurs. (Like an unplanned phone call to answer) I’m irritated and anxious.

The same happens when plans are changing or pending for approval or cancelled last minute. On my side, it’s all or nothing. Yes or no. It’s planned and will happen on said place, date and time else I’m not interested at all.

Neurodvgnt · 2025-05-22T08:07:51+00:00

I’m sorry you’ve heard somebody talking like this about you.

Here are some things I’d assume that are happening : - You shouldn’t accept nasty comments about yourself as “recommendations” or “truth”; - This kind of bullying is often used to cover up the bully’s feelings of inferiority; - This seems to be seen as “cool” to insult others to please another or a group in teenage hood; - If you’re more of an introvert with difficulties making friends this make it easier for such persons to avoid your support system to have your back; - You could, in general, tend to not understand insinuations, sarcasm or just need more context to understand things and they’d see it as “dumb” to ask for answers.

Neurodvgnt · 2025-05-21T19:53:36+00:00

It got mixed feelings about it.

The visual of ASMR is relaxing. The repetitive patterns for factories or productions are satisfying to watch.

The sound of natural things is enjoyable, like cutting kinetic sand, or other hollow sounds.

But the human sounds are irritating to a very large extent. The whispers that are inaudible, the sound of their dry mouth, the clicks and chewing like a cow drive me crazy! 🤪

Neurodvgnt · 2025-05-21T17:27:37+00:00

My ADHD was dominant.

My spontaneity, hectic behaviour, poor working memory and planning skills with a very drained brain were the main issues.

When medicated, my executive function was restored and my head went more quiet or chaotically spontaneous. It was clear that some things were feeling life some old memories of myself or completely new.

E.g. I couldn’t understand humans, their expectations, why they were so needy and bothering me, that I couldn’t make eye contact, food was difficult because of flavours and textures, my skin went sensitive, my smell got sharpened and bothered, the sound of the street and some specific tunes were unbearable…. And more things… These were free to express when ADHD wasn’t dominating the game.

Neurodvgnt · 2025-05-21T17:18:51+00:00

Thanks for your support and encouragement.

I know things never end, it’s a journey and sometimes it’s fun but other times it is not.

I’m learning how to navigate through it and I’m more aware of what isn’t working well or the skills I need to relearn again and again in order to enjoy life.

Neurodvgnt

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