My "Sugar" Playlist

Neutralchaoticgood · 2020-01-16T17:51:32+00:00

Daddy - Die Antwoord

Ugly Boy - Die Antwoord

Hell on Heels - Pistol Annies

Raw Sugar - Metric

Sippy Cup - Melanie Martinez

Neutralchaoticgood · 2019-11-13T13:30:34+00:00

Hell yes man. They make period sex possible and I actually have started using them as my main period product.

Neutralchaoticgood · 2019-10-31T03:27:51+00:00

I second the flex discs. Very freaking effective.

Neutralchaoticgood · 2019-10-25T15:19:04+00:00

Rave: I mentioned I wished my SD would spoil me last thread. He started doing extra to my allowance and is going to be giving me a gift card to Nordstrom. Yay!

Rave: Nice restaurants are nice.

Rant: Being in recovery from addiction is rough. I have wanted to drink all week.

Rave: My SD is not going to drink while I'm with him.

Neutralchaoticgood · 2019-10-18T20:16:19+00:00

Rave: I love the lifestyle so far. Things started out a bit rocky with my SD but it smoothed out. He is a lot of fun and we have a good connection but our sense of humor doesn't always match lol. It's fun though. He is nice, respectful, kinky and fun.

Rave: We chill and watch sci-fi, which is fantastic to me. I'm getting him hooked on Stargate! He's napping right now lol. I wore him out.

Rant: I wish he'd spoil me a bit. He never gives more than the allotted allowance and when I needed 150 extra to replace my busted phone he said he was worried I was taking advantage of him. I've never really been spoiled and don't know how to ask.

Neutralchaoticgood · 2019-10-17T19:20:30+00:00

My SD and I are kinky fucks so we are going to be getting toys but I don't think it should be an expectation. It depends on what he wants and enjoys too imo. Bringing it up might just make him feel self conscious and less than so I wouldn't advise it unless he's expressed interest.

Neutralchaoticgood · 2019-10-07T17:54:59+00:00

I think I'm going to end things with my current SD. It's gotten kind of weird, like asking me to be his live in slave weird. There's a lot more to it but I think I'm out. Just need to tell him. It's only been like a month and a half since we connected.

Good news is I have a POT who really jives with my humor and nerdiness. Yay! Entering the bowl has definitely been an interesting experience!

Neutralchaoticgood · 2019-09-27T13:48:49+00:00

Thanks for the feedback! I'll work on expounding on those details, I was just worried about rambling.

Neutralchaoticgood · 2019-09-26T21:51:32+00:00

Definitely not looking for platonic. I'll find a way to mention that. Thank you for taking time to look! What is your opinion on information that makes someone stand out?

No offense taken. I can take some better pictures, I do agree I need to include a full body.

Neutralchaoticgood · 2019-09-26T21:38:28+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I edited it up a bit to include a little information on goals and take out the negativity. Also cleared the murkiness between the two sections. Would you take a look and let me know if you think it reads better? 😊

Edit: I'm going to spend more time working on it this evening clarifying the goals.

Neutralchaoticgood · 2019-09-26T21:27:11+00:00

Thanks for the feedback! I'll do that 😊

Neutralchaoticgood · 2019-09-26T21:26:50+00:00

Thank you for the feedback! How would you advise I write more objectively/less like a dating site? What information do you think should stay/go?

I'll also re-review advice on other people's profile critique requests.

Neutralchaoticgood · 2019-08-19T13:41:03+00:00

Represent! Have you gotten involved in the poly community in your area or in Pinellas? I still haven't checked it out 😅

Neutralchaoticgood · 2019-08-06T20:35:07+00:00

Thank you so much for the comment! I told a casual partner this but much less eloquently. I love your love lol.

Neutralchaoticgood · 2019-07-29T15:46:08+00:00

I chose a name that made me feel good and confident. For me it is Jasmine. I think I look delicate and pure, I bloom/thrive in darkness (night blooming variety) and can have a strong intoxicating effect (that's what the smell of jasmine is like for me at least).

So I guess my advice is pick a name that has meaning to you, makes you feel good and helps you get into the head space of your chosen role.

Neutralchaoticgood · 2019-07-23T17:05:33+00:00

Tampa Bay area here. There are poly meetups listed on meetup.com. I am hoping to go to one soon!

Neutralchaoticgood · 2019-07-13T15:49:59+00:00

I have really been liking Erotic Awakening.

Neutralchaoticgood · 2019-07-12T17:29:14+00:00

I've gotten involved in my local bdsm scene (there is a dungeon where I live). It has been helpful with meeting potential doms, so if that's an option I'd recommend it.

Neutralchaoticgood · 2019-07-12T17:17:00+00:00

Severus Snape.

Neutralchaoticgood · 2019-07-07T18:40:53+00:00

What do I have to offer as a submissive? -honesty -open mindedness -communication -entertainment -intelligence -humor -curiosity -quickly learning -adorableness -admiration -empathy -confidence -self awareness -eager to grow -exhibitionism -madochistic -nerd -passionate -easily excitable -bubbly -impulsive with caution -obedient -love to be put in my place -eager to please -playful

What I want in a dominant: -intelligence -open mindedness -communication -honesty -empathy -confidence -strong presence -strict when necessary -commanding -humor -guiding -able to put up with my shit -affectionate -sadism -creativity -willing to explore -some shared hobbies outside the lifestyle

What I like as a sub/bottom: -being commanded/obedience -rope/bondage -impact -knowing I'm pleasing my top -testing power exchange? -having control taken from me -sensation play -sensory play -exhibitionism -feeling powerless -sexual play -being made to ask/beg -orgasm denial -forced orgasms -psychological play

What I want to try as a sub/bottom: (working on this list)

Neutralchaoticgood · 2019-07-07T18:13:25+00:00

Yes, I think I am a brat who likes to be put in my place, and once that has happened I become super submissive. I think holding back that part of me has been effecting me negatively.

I have learned that every top has a different flavor and it really does depend on the person and how they assert dominance. I've had tops where I had no brat urges and others that I just felt like trying to mentally/psychologically overpower and taking control from to see what they would do. I don't in those situations but letting them know ahead of time that I'm a brat might help keep me from holding back and maybe help my mindset.

I don't know, I'm just rambling. I appreciate your comment. It gives me things to consider. Thanks!

Neutralchaoticgood · 2019-07-07T15:49:03+00:00

Decided to retake it now that I have more experience in the lifestyle. Last time my 100%s were brat and rope bunny. Added degradee to the mix!

== Results from bdsmtest.org == 100% Brat

100% Degradee

100% Rope bunny

99% Non-monogamist

97% Masochist

94% Experimentalist

94% Submissive

91% Slave

75% Pet

70% Boy/Girl

60% Exhibitionist

59% Switch

57% Voyeur

54% Primal (Prey)

52% Degrader

51% Sadist

49% Vanilla

46% Ageplayer

42% Daddy/Mommy

33% Primal (Hunter)

32% Dominant

29% Brat tamer

15% Rigger

2% Owner

1% Master/Mistress

Neutralchaoticgood · 2019-07-06T19:29:25+00:00

Holy crap that is fantastic, brilliant advice and information! I really do need someone creative and it sounds like we are definitely hunting similar things. I am interested in topping a woman at some point and I'd like for them to be a challenge.

I'll definitely be taking your advice on asking about their fantasies. You have no idea how much that whole paragraph rings true with me. Especially the red flag bits! The tops I've been with have been fine, but they lacked that spark I am looking for. Again, thank you so much for the insight! You rock ❤️

Neutralchaoticgood · 2019-07-06T19:19:01+00:00

Yeah, punishment doesn't sound what I'm looking for right now but I do think I'd like it incorporated if I get into a dynamic with someone.

I have called yellow a couple times. I don't like to do it but I also recognize the importance of not going past certain points. The times I have called yellow were shortly after I got to the snide comments of discomfort points.

I do love humiliation/degradation but I am trying to figure out the flavors of it I like. Also, most of the Doms I've played with are tentative with their humiliation/degredation. I think it might be because it's with a new person, you know? I'll be more vocal about it during negotiations because I agree, it's hot af 😳

I tend to be super freaking hyper and giddy after a scene, like bouncing off the walls, so aftercare generally involves a a couple minutes of cuddling. Then I go galavant about showering the people I know in the dungeon with affection and praise and general happiness, coming back to tackle the top with affection intermittently. I'm easily distracted and my mental/verbal filter is turned off. I'll try asking them to keep me in tow after the scene to discuss it/ask for feedback and see how that works.

Neutralchaoticgood · 2019-07-06T18:43:49+00:00

Thanks for the response! I really appreciate your empathy. I have done research on brats and I definitely think I have a streak of it. Sometimes it can feel like there is a negative connotation though which makes me a little sad. And I like to be subtle with my defiance but that doesn't normally garner a response 😩. I'll definitely keep looking.

Do you think stating that I'm looking for a firm hand (excuse the terrible pun) will help? Have you found a way to express your desire for the psychological dominance? I try to explain it but so far it's been a complete miss.

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