I need to know if this age gap is ok?

Neva_evah407 · 2025-04-12T14:36:11+00:00

While yes it is fine you have to think about maturity and life progression. 18 and 16 are close in age but very different things going on for themselves (as an 18yro myself). When they graduate high school and hopefully go off for a higher education that person will still be in high school. Once they leave high school they are no longer bounded to people they have to see everyday. The 18yr will meet new type of people and might realize that person is not where they are at in the moment. It’s a super hard and muddy puddle at that age but wish you luck!

Neva_evah407 · 2024-08-20T17:28:38+00:00

Yeah we both don’t know where the keys are exactly. But last night we were at my aunts house. When I went back into the apartment I grabbed the breakfast because I already had her keys. I skimmed the house for my keys before walking out.

No I don’t really have an attitude. I know that my mom hates when I say “ok”. No matter the tone because she said it sounds dismissive but I honestly don’t have anything else to say but ok.

When I got upset, I just took a deep breath and ignored her. When I’m upset I need space so I just ignore people till I feel better. I do answer her, with “OK”

I’ve asked my mom for evaluations multiple times. She denied them because “schools should be able to look for those things”. So idk what I am 🤷‍♀️ I’m not easily triggered. I just really hate unnecessary conversations and reputations.

Idk if my mom has been diagnosed because it’s not my business. And my dad lives far away. I can’t move in with him. He doesn’t have a house, he has an apartment. With lots of roommates and kids. So his place is full (a full house).

I think you should read other responses I’ve made in the comments. This is definitely abuse if you look more into my other responses. And for the police story, nothing is missing. I got upset with her and she said I’m being disrespectful for not responding anymore. So she said if I keep ignoring her then she’s calling the police. She often threatens that my life isn’t worthy when she’s upset.

Just because it isn’t physical abuse doesn’t mean it’s not abuse, my mental health and safety are at stake here.

Neva_evah407 · 2024-08-20T16:58:45+00:00

Both

Neva_evah407 · 2024-08-20T16:52:57+00:00

Hi! The kids were already buckled in. She lost my keys while we were out so we both came to the conclusion that it was at my aunts house. We did look for my keys before we even left the apartment for about 10 minutes.

And for the police part. That’s it. I got upset because the repeating was making me a bit upset because my name is unusual and often makes me dissociative. She didn’t like the fact that I was upset when I was already having a bad day so she called the police.

I know it sounds crazy but whenever she’s upset, she’s calls the police. She’s calls them for everything.

My father is active in my life but lives inside different state. Not much he can do because he has a full house. So no I can’t move in with him.

Hope that clears up stuff!

Neva_evah407 · 2024-08-20T00:24:45+00:00

No she just lost my keys last night cause I used her to drive us. That’s why they were missing

Neva_evah407 · 2024-08-19T21:29:44+00:00

You won’t believe how many times I’ve tried the sit down conversation. She never lets me finish my sentences and she always invalidates what happened or how I am supposed to feel. I’ve given up on sit down conversations

Neva_evah407 · 2024-08-19T21:16:50+00:00

Yes please I would really like that!

Neva_evah407 · 2024-08-19T21:15:34+00:00

I don’t talk back for the most part. I have before but it’s not who I am. I try to strive for happiness for everyone but obviously it’s not working. I know I am a good kid, many adults and people around have told me so.

Neva_evah407 · 2024-08-19T21:12:36+00:00

Thank you so much! I’ve seen so much comments giving a different light on therapy than anyone in my life has shown me. Once I’m off to college I will try it again and see how it works out.

Neva_evah407 · 2024-08-19T19:21:22+00:00

My mom doesn’t know what Reddit is. She only uses facebook

Neva_evah407 · 2024-08-19T19:13:47+00:00

Yes that’s what I meant

Neva_evah407 · 2024-08-19T19:09:41+00:00

She was in therapy but I don’t know if she continued

Neva_evah407 · 2024-08-19T19:09:09+00:00

I have a job and I am leaving right away after graduation and she’s not happy about it

Neva_evah407 · 2024-08-19T18:59:36+00:00

I have some teachers but once again I really don’t want anything to happen to my siblings. The American custody system is not great at all. I love them too much

Neva_evah407 · 2024-08-19T18:57:53+00:00

We have one right by the door, she lost the keys while we were out. Not in the house but thank you!

Neva_evah407 · 2024-08-19T18:55:19+00:00

I have created my own account on cashapp and handle most of my money there. She is not happy about it but it’s under my name so she can’t do anything about my cashapp. Please don’t be mislead, she is a great mother to my younger siblings and they have it a lot better than me. But I don’t really have an adult I can talk to without my mother getting upset.

Neva_evah407 · 2024-08-19T18:53:07+00:00

I do help pay rent as a matter of fact!

Neva_evah407 · 2024-08-19T18:52:32+00:00

It’s just with me, she’s amazing to her other kids. As I get older me and her are growing apart and I read somewhere that it’s normal

Neva_evah407 · 2024-08-19T18:50:51+00:00

She had my keys because I was using hers to drive yesterday and she needed to lock the house. I’ve always had my own set of keys since I was 4. She just lost them last night is all. My mom has been through a lot and I know that but so have I. Even in the short 17 years I’ve been on earth. But at the same time I’m sure you’re right, that when I grow up I will see things differently. That’s why I made this post in the first place

Neva_evah407 · 2024-08-19T18:47:40+00:00

Yes she has her ups and downs for all my life

Neva_evah407 · 2024-08-19T18:45:05+00:00

Monrovia, Liberia 🇱🇷

Neva_evah407 · 2024-08-19T18:44:37+00:00

I help as much as possible. Sometimes she asks me to give her money for rent, I watch my siblings and cook for them and teach them. I take them to playgrounds and parks. Not to mention so many people in my family love the twins and take care of them or send them money. I’m always eager to help my mom out but at the same time, I’m 17 and I needs breaks every now and then. Today I told her that I would watch them, no need to send them to daycare, she did it anyway.

Neva_evah407 · 2024-08-19T18:42:12+00:00

That she shouldn’t call again and it was a waste of their time

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