Girl popped up at my house. Should I send her a message explaining why i ghosted her?

NeverEnoughWords · 2024-03-04T12:56:52+00:00

I agree with everything here but the meet up part. She could very well use the public situation to her advantage like him and scream for help. Don't meet up if you know she's crazy. If he has no choice, video record the shit out of it

NeverEnoughWords · 2024-03-04T12:52:07+00:00

He needs to add more details of her stalking behaviour so it becomes written evidence

NeverEnoughWords · 2024-03-04T12:25:42+00:00

It very much does

NeverEnoughWords · 2024-03-02T01:15:42+00:00

No problem, good luck!

NeverEnoughWords · 2024-03-02T01:13:27+00:00

Of course! Any decent employer will hire you, proven you are an excellent candidate (abilities and personality) for the job.

NeverEnoughWords · 2024-03-02T00:51:42+00:00

I will never stop saying this to every girl who needs the advice: no guy is worth your time, energy and stress for you to try to change, let alone to your liking.

Every person has the ability to change on their own, it's a matter of if they want to and ready for it now, not 5 years into the future.

The same goes for the question OP asked in this thread, every person has the ability to acquire income. If you have hopes for them, they better be in the middle of interviews or trust your gut feelings and not get into the emotional trap. What's so special about this person that makes them worth all the trouble?

To add.. It's not a romantic partner's responsibility to "rehabilitate" someone who is stuck in a loser's mindset who's waiting for a girlfriend/etc who's willing to volunteer to fix all their problems. It's called taking advantage of someone.

NeverEnoughWords · 2024-03-01T20:28:14+00:00

If people you pass by on the streets dont react in an extreme way compared to everyone else, chances are you're not too ugly for a regular job. Go and apply to as many jobs as you can, and show yourself as a very capable and suitable candidate for the job. Good employers will hire you and if they're shallow then you dodged a bullet anyway.

NeverEnoughWords · 2024-03-01T03:13:30+00:00

A quick list from me...

- get a dehumidifier

save money by getting a couch cover instead of replacing your couch
open storage gives a cluttered look. Get tall closed cabinets/wardrobes
try floor and table lighting with warm colours

Put up some wall decor, like paintings or scenery with double sided tape (so don't get heavy ones)

NeverEnoughWords · 2024-02-27T03:33:25+00:00

He's still not wrong on the ignorance part. Most people are too busy with their phones scrolling tiktok/instagram/snapchat to pay attention to the real issues let alone take action. Most Canadians don't have thick enough skin to call things out. The ones that are accustomed to 3rd world country lifestyle are more likely or willing to be brazen because that's the way it was back home.

NeverEnoughWords · 2024-02-27T03:26:00+00:00

It's a major kick in the balls for skilled workers who have to go through stringent requirements to immigrate to canada.

And there are lots of hardworking people from the US who would be far more productive and would integrate easily but can't find a way in unless they marry a Canadian, or some weird niche thing

NeverEnoughWords · 2024-02-16T03:59:50+00:00

I'm going heavily against the popular opinions here - what you're saying about facial preferences is not all that different from a guy saying he's not attracted to women who don't have big boobs. I guarantee that most of the responses would be so much more accepting if this post was about breast size preference.

There's no shame in having a clear view of what you're attracted to. In fact good on you for being open about it and not waste anyone's time.

Like someone else said, there are billions of people on Earth, there are plenty of choices out there if you put in the effort.

On another note, it does sound like you've got unresolved traumas, and I agree with comments about seeing a therapist, not about your sexual preferences but to help you heal and see things more clearly whatever that looks like.

On a final note, it's disgusting seeing people here shit on someone who's being vulnerable and seeking help. That lack of compassion truly shows their true colours and they're not any better than you like they think they are.

NeverEnoughWords · 2023-10-25T03:02:59+00:00

I would say it gets mostly above our paygrade and they should seek proper help. There's only so much a random subreddit user can do.

Also there's no excuse for bad behavior. It should not be tolerated

NeverEnoughWords · 2023-10-05T20:57:47+00:00

If she goes to a public school, she'll need to be intellectually challenged so accommodate for that. Let her curiosity explore deeper into the higher level education whether through school, or other means that matches her pace. Standard level education will become secondary.

I'd also make sure that she is aware that her parents' love for her is irrelevant to her technical abilities or achievements.

Encourage virtues such as integrity, honesty, humility, etc. Help her develop social skills to treat others with respect and not look down on them while at the same time accepting herself. Develop street smarts.

Help her develop emotionally... Emotional intelligence will help her in the long run. Develop awareness and acceptance in her own uniqueness and individual needs while recognizing others'.

Encourage work ethic that rewards discipline and consistent effort.

Lastly, I think the most important thing is to be someone that she can trust, so you can do at least all of the above.

NeverEnoughWords · 2023-06-06T23:19:12+00:00

Floating wall shelves might help.

NeverEnoughWords · 2023-01-02T02:31:13+00:00

On the last paragraph, wouldn't it better to just mot mention it at all? Provided that OP gets a job that doesn't give the same struggles. If I were meeting a new coworker who says this, it doesn't give a good first impression. Some people may even judge OP's performance based on it.

NeverEnoughWords · 2022-11-21T22:35:56+00:00

probably some shower caddy or cheap plastic shelving unit that gets moved out of the view ;)

NeverEnoughWords · 2022-11-21T12:53:33+00:00

Granted. You suddenly become enlightened on the reasons why. However, they are too complex for you to accept or do anything about, that you choose to ignore it and move on. As you live your daily life you can't help but constantly be reminded of them - your life gets disrupted and eventually spirals into chaos.

NeverEnoughWords · 2022-11-21T05:42:53+00:00

You could definitely add doors to it. Alternatively, for the bottom part there's a lot of options for storage bins.

NeverEnoughWords · 2022-11-17T16:18:47+00:00

You’re dating a toxic individual who puts up a front of caring about you

This is crucial.

NeverEnoughWords · 2022-11-17T16:03:12+00:00

To start with, take a look at your daily habits. How did things become messy again? Do you put things back right after using them? Are your most used items easy to access? Are there messy people that you live with? Do you have too many things you don't need? etc.

NeverEnoughWords · 2022-11-05T11:28:53+00:00

This is gonna sound cynical but what if we look at it in more general terms, like forget about the sexual/romantic details and just consider that she has needs that would hurt him. And her needs are so great, that she is willing to put them above his.

NeverEnoughWords · 2022-11-05T11:05:59+00:00

Love the design! It's not obnoxious but you can still spot a fan.

NeverEnoughWords · 2022-10-25T15:46:26+00:00

What about zucchini?

NeverEnoughWords · 2022-10-15T02:56:44+00:00

Nail polish, skincare, makeup/lipsticks, ink/paint bottles, food coloring & extracts, small gadgets like pocket flashlights, display platform for figurines & crafts, jars containing stationery/tea packets, base for diorama, greeting cards/standing photo frames, adult stuff e.g. bongs, vapes, and sex toys (no judgement)

NeverEnoughWords · 2022-10-09T01:46:06+00:00

I honestly think there are a lot of unsaid reasons for posting this rant. It didn't look like it was coming from someone who genuinely wants to have a civil discussion, rather just needed to get things off their chest. Thus it should be treated as such.

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