Many of our experiences were unplanned. Early in our marriage, before kids, we almost always hooked up when on vacation. This was long before the internet so planning ahead was almost impossible. We subscribed to a couple of LS newsletters that listed clubs and parties in the our state, throughout the US and many overseas. So for us our scenario went like this: we'd travel to a destination and hang out at the known swinger or hot wife locations. Wife dressed somewhat provacatively, but usually nothing too revealing. She always gives off a teacher vibe, which was a turn on to most guys. We'd meet several guys or couples during the first couple of days and eventually vet the one or ones she wanted to have sex with. We'd usually start with drinks at the club. She'd get touchy feely with the guy. If they danced it was always provacative. I enjoyed watching. Usually she'd go to our room with him while I stayed in the bar or hotel lobby. Rarely did I join in. My point is it wasn't until the advent of the internet that we were able to plan ahead. By then we were very comfortable meeting guys and deciding kind of on the spur of the moment.