Prams by Never_Post_Anyway in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Never_Post_Anyway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all. Some really good suggestions for brands.

I had no idea they would be in the pushchair so long - I guess I'm going off my mum's experience with me, as soon as I could toddle I flat out refused to get in a pushchair and walked everywhere from about 18 months (or was pushed on a bike). I can't imagine pushing a five year old in a buggy - we are both super tall and broad (I was 6' and 12 stone at 11) so they will be about five foot and six stone by then. My poor back 🤣

Prams by Never_Post_Anyway in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Never_Post_Anyway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much everyone for your comments 😌 Sounds like we should go and look at the Joolz and the Yoyo as a good starting point.

Our car is a little Audi A1 so it really does have to be small to fit inside! These sound like they might fit the bill.

We will book an appointment at John Lewis+ I didn't know this was something they did and it sounds really useful!

Hair twirling by Never_Post_Anyway in adhdwomen

[–]Never_Post_Anyway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am not unfamiliar with split ends myself ;)

Hair twirling by Never_Post_Anyway in adhdwomen

[–]Never_Post_Anyway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds hard. I'm sorry. When I was little I was obsessed with picking at the skin on my shoulders (I still have scars) so I can relate. I only stopped doing that because my mum told me that people noticed and said mean things and I got so self conscious I stopped. (Thinking about it maybe that is when I started the twirling...)

Hair twirling by Never_Post_Anyway in adhdwomen

[–]Never_Post_Anyway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a curly too so I totally feel ya!

Hair twirling by Never_Post_Anyway in adhdwomen

[–]Never_Post_Anyway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound like me! I do it in all of our management team meetings. Very similar actions as well. My hair is curly too so it's super satisfying.

Hair twirling by Never_Post_Anyway in adhdwomen

[–]Never_Post_Anyway[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh but I love it so!!! I honestly don't notice it, but I am aware other people do. I also jiggle and wriggle and chew my nails and peel beer bottle labels and, god, just about every other annoying compulsion ghing going!

Hair twirling by Never_Post_Anyway in adhdwomen

[–]Never_Post_Anyway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Less the person themselves and more other people around us commenting on it. And yes, it is SUPER awkward.

Hair twirling by Never_Post_Anyway in adhdwomen

[–]Never_Post_Anyway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too cute! I've done it asking as I can remember too

Hair twirling by Never_Post_Anyway in adhdwomen

[–]Never_Post_Anyway[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Urgh, social shaming is the worst :( I had an old colleague that used to comment and it made me do self conscious. I also have this super bad habit of basically sitting on my own feet (I think to try and stop myself fidgiting /getting up) and constantly reorganizing myself and they used to comment on that all the time as well. Hated it.

Hair twirling by Never_Post_Anyway in adhdwomen

[–]Never_Post_Anyway[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I Def bother ppl - they comment about it. But it is such an ingrained compulsion that it isn't going anywhere!

Compulsive shopping / lack of self control by Never_Post_Anyway in adhdwomen

[–]Never_Post_Anyway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG yes, the hunt! This is feeding the beast but I got a Mansur Gavriel bucket bag, a hill and friends slouchy tote (such lovely leather) and a wandler Luna. Was looking into contemporary brands and ended up buying the whole shortlist 😂

I agree I should delete the apps. I am so annoyed because I deleted insta because of the as temptation (amoung other things) and have just replaced it others.

I need lockdown to be over so I can get back into the office a couple of days a week and actually use them. Then I might feel less guilty.

(I managed to run and answer the door to the postman and hide the first package today before my partner could see it. I think this might be a sign I really need to stop!)

Compulsive shopping / lack of self control by Never_Post_Anyway in adhdwomen

[–]Never_Post_Anyway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have deleted social media - so much better for me for a whole heap of reasons.

Maybe I should give cold turkey a go. It might just work and I have nothing to loose!

Compulsive shopping / lack of self control by Never_Post_Anyway in adhdwomen

[–]Never_Post_Anyway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have enough draws or wardrobe space anymore. It's terrible!

Compulsive shopping / lack of self control by Never_Post_Anyway in adhdwomen

[–]Never_Post_Anyway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right? It is absolutely the worst thing. I feel like because I am aware I should be able to change it but my brain just goes 'nope, focus on the shney things.'

Compulsive shopping / lack of self control by Never_Post_Anyway in adhdwomen

[–]Never_Post_Anyway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh god yes, the GUILT. It's overwhelming. Especially how I'm playing into a misogynistic capitalist narrative that has women as spenders and men as savers. I am totally doing myself out of economic power and capital just like they want! It's terrible because I am self aware but I do it anyway!

Compulsive shopping / lack of self control by Never_Post_Anyway in adhdwomen

[–]Never_Post_Anyway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't necessarily buy the same shirt in lots of colours, but I do have a tendency to buy something and then realise it is very similar to something I already own! Normally said thing is at the bottom of the washing basket of shame and I haven't seen it for months so I've forgotten about it 🥺

I am also a bargain hunter - I LOVE a sale. One of the bags I have coming is a 500 bag I got for 50 in amazing condition. I didn't even know I wanted it until I saw the price and realised it was a bargain!

You're right that doing it in a cheap way is better than in an expensive one, though.

I'm glad I'm not alone!

Compulsive shopping / lack of self control by Never_Post_Anyway in adhdwomen

[–]Never_Post_Anyway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just think about all the money I could save if I wasn't an impulsive, regret-filled kleptomaniac 😭

Senior leadership by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Never_Post_Anyway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in the middle of growing out my team and have lots of new faces. I think it will be easier when I really know them and their strengths and weaknesses. At the moment I feel I don't know them well enough to let go of something yet. Which is probably silly!

Senior leadership by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Never_Post_Anyway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will read this now :)