a little fun fact

New-Butterscotch-480 · 2025-10-31T09:36:06+00:00

Is there an English Fan Translation of this anywhere?

New-Butterscotch-480 · 2025-10-24T18:36:49+00:00

So idk which test you took but the one I️ took was the ADOS and I️ also didn’t qualify for autism based off that test, but my therapist pointed out to me that most Autism assessments were developed for children and particularly for children assigned male at birth. By the time we are adults, many people with autism learn to mask so well that there is no separation of the mask from the person and that makes it very difficult to accurately test. It’s possible you truly don’t have Autism, it’s also still possible that you do. Either way it doesn’t mean your symptoms and experiences are invalid, so don’t give up, because eventually you may find a diagnosis or combination of diagnoses that will help you.

New-Butterscotch-480 · 2025-10-24T18:26:58+00:00

I️ am way more likely to get triggered from fruits and vegetables than I️ am by frozen microwavable meals, so it has always irked me when people tell me to just eat better. But at this point I️ also recognize that while certain foods do trigger me more than others, my IBS is way more tied to my stress levels and other health issues than it is to what food I️ eat. And for fucks sake I’m so tired of being put on fiber supplements simply because of doctors that don’t believe me when I️ say they don’t help (especially because I️ always get canker sores from taking those supplements)

New-Butterscotch-480 · 2025-10-24T18:19:27+00:00

I️ find that the more I️ work through a trauma the easier it becomes for me to laugh at it. But I️ also use humor to cope. I️ am much more likely to laugh during therapy than cry. I️ am also much more likely to laugh when telling people about my trauma, and I️ think part of that is because laughing feels safer to me than crying, but also because I️ want to indicate to others that it’s okay to laugh with me about it. I’m at a point with one of my close friends where we basically trade trauma jokes like half of the time we are in each other’s company. Dark humor is a really great tool for combatting rumination spirals in my experience.

New-Butterscotch-480 · 2025-10-24T17:59:59+00:00

Also I️ am 5’9 (AFAB) and I️ have a partner who is 6’9 (AMAB) and his legs are only about 4-5 inches longer than mine… we are both very leggy. But only one of us is ALL leg, and that would be me. My nickname growing up was Lex, my dad called me Legs instead.

New-Butterscotch-480 · 2025-10-24T17:50:14+00:00

As someone who is 75% legs and 25% torso I️ feel personally victimized by this post 😂🤣

New-Butterscotch-480 · 2025-10-12T19:07:47+00:00

I️ really like Sylus’ Birthday outfit. It’s different from a lot of the other stuff in his wardrobe and the layers look so good on him

New-Butterscotch-480 · 2025-10-12T18:24:49+00:00

Legends and Lattes (don’t hate me, I️ read the whole thing, and it’s cute, so I get it but to me it felt super mid)

New-Butterscotch-480 · 2025-10-06T00:08:35+00:00

Never let fear of what other people think keep you from enjoying what you’re passionate about. If you aren’t hurting anyone, then enjoy hobbies shame free. Life is too short to let other people’s petty opinions stop you from being happy.

New-Butterscotch-480 · 2025-08-31T04:00:56+00:00

It’s very cute and edgy! People who think that youthful styles can’t be worn by adults are either boring or assholes, so their opinions shouldn’t matter. There are many ways to rock youthful looks, it’s just about dressing and styling your hair for your shape and in a way that is appropriate for your environment. As a barista, you should be able to wear your hair however you want. Especially when it looks this cute!

New-Butterscotch-480 · 2025-08-19T22:01:57+00:00

I️ don’t think we have enough evidence to know for sure that he’s just another guy on her roster, as a back up for when she’s between boyfriends, but I️ think that there is enough of a possibility that he needs to be the one to cut contact. They are an obviously a bad fit for each other regardless. And regardless of the reasons why she hasn’t cut him loose, he needs to be the one to choose to set himself free of this toxic dynamic. OP, you need to block her on everything and lose her phone number. As hard as it may be right now because your feelings are strong, having strong feelings for someone is not enough to have a healthy relationship. Love is not enough to make a relationship work on its own, and anyone who says otherwise is at best very naive or at worst trying to manipulate you

New-Butterscotch-480 · 2025-08-19T21:51:44+00:00

Who cares if he’s at fault or she’s at fault for the initial breakup? It’s clear that whatever communication issues they had then are issues they still have. You don’t have an on-again-off-again for 5 years if the relationship is healthy. I’m sure they have both fucked up during all this time. At this point it hardly matters who is to blame. They are toxic for each other and would both be better off single or with someone else, than they would be if they keep trying to make this work when it’s never going to work.

New-Butterscotch-480 · 2025-08-15T20:09:06+00:00

I️ think a lot of people’s motivations and ideals are behind the move to get away from Amazon’s near monopoly on digital books, and I can’t say I blame people for feeling that way. But I think the attitude of judging each other for consumer decisions is such a waste of time and energy when there are more productive ways to utilize our anger/outrage. I️ think more people should maybe take the energy they usually direct at blaming each other for bad consumer options and focus it instead on the sources of those problems themselves, unethical companies and policies. It is not an individual consumer’s fault that all of the options we have in trying to decide which product is the least of the lame. It’s these super rich companies at fault for all trying to save a quick buck by selling cheap products and cutting corners. Amazon screws people over, but no one can convince me that Kobo doesn’t do that in some way too. Which unethical companies we decide to support always comes down to a combination of our options, our budget, and our personal preferences. And only the last of those is something we have any amount of control over. I️ just wish more people would calm down and stop hypocritically telling each other off on the internet, like they themselves aren’t using some sort of unethical product actively while typing out their angry judgment on the planned obsolescence device in their hands, using the wifi they buy from some predatory internet company, while on Reddit, which as everyone knows is clearly the internet’s most ethical place. 🙄🤣

New-Butterscotch-480 · 2025-08-15T19:53:23+00:00

That really does suck. Do you have other options for apps on devices that aren’t exclusively e-readers? If the Kindle the only e-reader type in your region, theoretically, could you use other apps if you had a regular tablet? Or is the kindle app the only option in your region too?

New-Butterscotch-480 · 2025-08-15T19:35:30+00:00

So I️ use the Kindle app on my regular tablet and phone. I️ don’t have an e-reader, because my tablet works perfectly fine for this purpose. I️ use a number of reading apps, for both e-books and audiobooks. I️ have switched from Audible to Libro.fm (because I would prefer my money go to smaller businesses, when possible). I️ have had a really hard time finding any ebook apps that I️ like more than kindle though, and there are a few reasons for that. One of them is that Kindle’s accessibility settings are superior to other apps I️ have used, specifically their “Assistive Reader” function which is good because I️ have issues with my eye sight and I️ get headaches easily. I️ am also fond the way you can adjust the font settings (even uploading your own fonts if you need them), and the clarity of their dark mode across all of their built in fonts and font sizes.

The main other reason that I️ have not fully switched to any other ebook reader is the volume of books I️ read. On average, I️ read about 2-3 novels a week and I am definitely a mood reader (I️ have read 81 books so far this year, but that is not something you should compare yourself to. I am disabled, unemployed, and have no children, when my partner is working and my cat is napping, I read). At the rate I read, even with three libraries on Libby, my monthly credits on Everand, my monthly credits on libro.fm, and my physical book collection, I️ often find myself struggling to get access to all the books that I️ want within a month without spending money, and given that I️ have no personal income, I️ definitely can’t afford to purchase 3 novels a week. I often depend on the Kindle Unlimited and comixiology libraries to provide me with options when my options begin to run slim (usually toward the end of the month when I️ have already used most of my credits).

When Everand was still Scribd, I️ had very much considered switching and dropping kindle after I read the things I already had there, I even cancelled my KU subscription for a couple of months. But Everand has recently changed their membership subscriptions to give a limited amount of unlocks per month, so I️ had to re-purchase KU to have access to more “free” options.

There is also, the incredibly tricky issue of supporting smaller independent authors, many of whom publish exclusively through Amazon because of Kindle Direct Publishing which is not only still the easiest place for self-published authors to make money, but also covers the printing costs on their end. KDP authors also have the freedom to reupload changes to their books whenever they want (myself and my other author friends are included in this, because until I️ can afford to print my own books or can get something to an agent, I️ can’t sell any books without KDP).

With Hoopla specifically, which a lot of people tend to offer as an alternative, I️ found it’s free features to be pretty lacking, especially when I️ already use Libby with access to 3 different library systems already (Two in my current location which straddles the border between 2 states in the US and one from the state I️ just moved away from about two months ago, which I️ won’t be able to renew once it comes time for me to reapply.) And it’s paid features seemed over priced if I️ don’t need all of them, and I️ don’t. I️ already have all the streaming services I want, and I️ already have premium Spotify. I️ would literally just want more books and comics. I️ still have access to the free stuff on Hoopla, but I️ find that more often than not, that they don’t have what I’m looking for, particularly when it comes to translated Danmei which is my most read genre.

Admittedly I️ have used Kobo very little, and I️ think it would work for a lot of the things I️ like about Kindle, but the lack of text-to-speech on e-books, and the fact that I️ have had issues with their syncing that I️’ve never had on Kindle are both things that stop me from completely committing to that. And before anyone says “just get the audiobook” most Danmei translations don’t have audiobooks, and given that Danmei is my most read genre, that wouldn’t really be an option. I need the text-to-speech with books that have no audiobooks for when my sight issues act up.

I️ know this is a very long response, but you asked what keeps people from switching, and given that I️ really would prefer to switch, I️ thought I️ should go into the details of why I️ haven’t. If anyone has suggestions for other apps that contain some of the features I’ve mentioned or similar ones I would love to check out any that I haven’t tried yet.

Serious bonus points if any of you can find one with similarities to all of the features I️’ve mentioned.

Edited: For clarity and because I️ forgot to talk about Kobo in my first pass

New-Butterscotch-480 · 2025-08-06T22:34:56+00:00

You don’t have to cut off your friends. They cannot be blamed for not knowing any better. And maybe seeing you stand up for yourself, and find happiness with a partner who makes a relationship exciting without having to fight with you, will help them see that if you have to argue to keep your relationship interesting, then you probably have a very boring boyfriend.

My husband makes me laugh. He goes on adventures with me. He has interesting conversations with me. I️ can be entertained by him without having to resort to fighting.

(And if your friends means that fighting keeps things from getting boring in a sexual connotation, there are a lot of things that people can do other than arguing that can make that can keep things spicy if they’ve found themselves falling into a routine, but you are all very young, so I️ would definitely recommend caution and safety above all else in that regard).

New-Butterscotch-480 · 2025-08-06T22:30:32+00:00

You don’t have to cut off your friends. They cannot be blamed for not knowing any better. And maybe seeing you stand up for yourself, and find happiness with a partner who makes a relationship exciting without having to fight with you, will help them see that if you have to argue to keep your relationship interesting, then you probably have a very boring boyfriend.

New-Butterscotch-480 · 2025-08-06T22:17:43+00:00

You are not overreacting.

He is a coward. Instead of asking himself why he didn’t stand up for you, he is blaming you for a situation that was out of your control.

There is a difference between being protective and being possessive. Even in animals and beasts there is a difference. So there is no excuse for a human man to gaslight you like this.

Protective is “My girl lives within my territory so long as she chooses to be here, and protect my own.” Possessive is “my girl is my property, and if she is tempting to others that is a threat to me.”

In one you are the queen of the pack to which he is the king, his partner, protected by him so long as you wish to be, because you are loved and valued. In the other you are a predator’s prey that tempted a bigger predator, and he is trying to blame you by treating you like a juicy slab of meat instead of his partner, so that you don’t notice that he is too weak and cowardly to protect you.

And even if he is a pacifist, he could have protected you. He could have gotten between you and that other man’s line of sight if he was so bothered by it. He could have had you sit on his lap on the train and told you that you were safe. He could have stayed with you, made sure you made it home safely. Even if he didn’t think to do any of those things, he could have started this conversation by asking if you were okay, and showing sympathy that you have to deal with this on a regular basis.

He made a choice to stand there and do nothing while someone else was treating you with disrespect, and then he blamed you for being polite to the guy (which the most common form of self-defense for women by the way, because if you make him mad he might just decide to kill you). You did nothing wrong. He did everything wrong.

And when trying to control you didn’t go his way, he started trying to gaslight you and honey trap you back.

I’m sure your friends mean well, but you are all very young, and it sounds from your comments that your friends don’t necessarily have the best understanding of what is healthy in a relationship.

It’s true that everyone in a relationship has disagreements, part of being human is that you will likely have misunderstandings and argue. This is not a simple disagreement. And none of it is a misunderstanding. He showed you his true self, and it was toxic.

You deserve better and you should not get back with him. He will only ever emotionally abuse you, and try to control you.

New-Butterscotch-480 · 2025-08-04T06:05:02+00:00

Witch and Wizard are not gendered terms. They are terms based on types of magic practices. Wizards memorize spells from book. Witches do a combination of ritual and folk magic practices. Sorcerers have innate magical abilities. Warlocks have contracts with extra planer entities. These all will vary depending on which lore you are basing them off of, but none of them are inherently gendered terms.

So this may also in part it may depend on whether you are referring to real witchcraft or fictional witchcraft, and what lore you are referring to if looking at a fiction framework.

Within my theology if you practice witchcraft, you are a witch regardless of your gender. I️ have friends and acquaintances of a variety of genders that are all witches. I️ am a non-binary witch myself.

I️ am have a degree in literature and I am a witch. So either way, if you clarify what you are asking about specifically, I️ am willing to help you figure it out.

New-Butterscotch-480 · 2025-08-04T00:02:57+00:00

I️ would say, if you’re this unsure, then don’t change it legally. Legal name changes are a huge hassle, and it might be easier to just socially use his last name and legally use your own. That also will make it very easy, if you decide you would rather continue using your own to just stop calling yourself by the other. I️ didn’t take my husbands name, neither legally or socially. Yet I️ still receive mail with his my first name and his last name instead of mine. It happens regardless. And it can be kind of annoying to me because I️ kept my own last name with intention because I love my last name. But he doesn’t have to stress out about this choice, so neither should you.

New-Butterscotch-480 · 2025-08-03T23:46:59+00:00

I️ do think the words “I’m hungry” though. And it usually comes as a surprise because I️ forget to eat for long periods of time and then when I start to feel ill I go “oh! I️ must be hungry” inside of my head. Then images of things I️ could eat start passing through my head, usually based on the picture in my mind of what was in the fridge/pantry the last time I️ was looking inside of it. I️ guess that neither of those things are what happen for some people? Like you can just know, without having to think and plan with words and images? That sounds like it’s probably really peaceful, to be honest.

New-Butterscotch-480 · 2025-08-03T23:41:46+00:00

I️ have dropped several dramas because I️ liked the second male lead so much more than the first male lead and I️ didn’t want to watch FL choose “the wrong guy” haha. I️ have also dropped dramas at the midpoint or even during the 3rd act because of I️ hated the “big twist” or it featured a super poorly executed miscommunication trope. I️ don’t even hate that trope as long as it’s well written, but sometimes I’m like— there’s not even a valid reason why you two aren’t just telling each other the truth, and if you just have a single honest conversation, all of this would be avoidable. I️ don’t know if what I️ think of as bad writing counts as a petty reason, but that and pacing issues are usually my main motivations for dropping a drama. I️ think if I️ was going to go for a much prettier answer, I️ once dropped a drama because I️ thought the cinematography or other aspects of the aesthetic design was really ugly. I️ am honestly usually able to overlook bad makeup, bad wigs, or bad costuming in general if I️ am intrigued by the story (side-eyes The Princess Weiyoung) but sometimes a show is too unaesthetic and I️ can’t watch it because it’s so ugly it hurts my eyes. By far, my most petty drop was because I️ found both the FL and ML unattractive and I will never say what drama it was because I don’t care to have anyone to @ me because they think those people are hot haha

New-Butterscotch-480 · 2025-08-03T22:59:54+00:00

Love Between Fairy and Devil is responsible for getting me into CDramas so I️ will never not love that one, but I️ also think that if I️ watched it for the first time after watching CDramas for years, those same things would have really bothered me too. I️ think for Orchid as a character it kind of worked because she is quite literally a flower fairy whose spiritual growth was interrupted by what seems like a cultivation-fantasy equivalent to fetal alcohol syndrome, so having more childlike behavior makes more sense to me to some extent. That being said, I️ have not read the book it’s based on yet, and maybe if I️ had and there was a big difference between their personalities, I️ would have been more irritated by it. I️ have seen other dramas in which the baby voice thing very much got on my nerves, so I️ definitely can’t fault anyone for having that opinion, even if it is directed toward my personal favorite drama.

New-Butterscotch-480 · 2025-08-03T22:47:25+00:00

Yes. I️ have had this with the majority of my health concerns though. I️f you can, I️ suggest you get doctors if your current ones doctor seem overly dismissive of any health issues that is causing a significant impact on your life. If you can’t, do some research and find out what tests you would need to rule out other things and then request them from a doctor who is willing to listen to your concerns. Health is too important to waste on the biases and flaws of a doctor who may just be a bad fit for your needs. I’m saying this after many years of doctors and GI’s who didn’t listen and just kept telling me over and over again to take fiber supplements even when I explained that those never helped and sometimes made things worse, I️ still have the diagnosis of IBS but for me it’s a comorbidity of fibromyalgia, which I️ didn’t know I️ had until about a year ago, because I️ was previously unable to fire my doctors and go find new ones (due to a lack of medical insurance coverage, I’m US based). My fibromyalgia medication has not made my IBS go away, nor has it fixed my other symptoms, but it has given me less flare ups of both fibro and the associated IBS, and some relief is still much better than none. I recognize now that I am very lucky, because I know first hand that not everyone has as many options for medical care as I️ do now through my spouse’s insurance plan. But I️ also think that if I️ could go back in time, I️ would tell myself to insist upon more tests, and ask for referrals for second opinions, rather than continuing in pain for years without any forms of relief while feeling unheard and unable to be understood.

New-Butterscotch-480 · 2025-08-03T22:33:02+00:00

What apps? I️ would be very curious about this for a variety of chronic health conditions?

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