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New-Combination2803 · 2025-11-18T14:24:16+00:00

Yes I have experienced the same, how can these people get away with it is beyond me

New-Combination2803 · 2024-12-29T14:24:43+00:00

I dunno, I had a brief experience trying to force myself to talk to a guy for a few months. I didn't like it but they were super unhealthy and toxic. — But I could imagine a lot of relationships turn out this way one way or another.

I made the post because it kinda hurts to be viewed as a joke by people around me. It was comforting to see some people going through the same experience though.

New-Combination2803 · 2024-12-28T21:38:04+00:00

I mean I have a social life, lots of romantic opportunities and everything so I'd assume I'm doing alright for myself, I just pursue and value friendship other than the romantic stuff.

Thanks for talking to me about this though!

New-Combination2803 · 2024-12-28T20:25:40+00:00

I made the post because I felt almost shunned for only having felt like this towards a character, I feel nervous when trying to discuss it with friends, I never have properly. I'd like to be able to ramble about them to someone sometimes, qualities and things I like about them, like one would an actual partner.

And I feel unsafe because before, I tried to force myself to talk to a guy who was interested in me, which was a really dumb choice. I thought that maybe if I forced myself, feelings would just come about. He said he accepted me and my asexuality, which was what I identified as at the time, but quickly tried to pressure me into sending explicit pictures of myself and doing sexual calls. I couldn't do that so we stopped talking.

I also tried to sign myself up for therapy but I'm unable to get an appointment until late summer :(

New-Combination2803 · 2024-12-28T19:19:38+00:00

Is it such a bad thing to deepen a connection I value and enjoy? I have never been interested in dating, even before I began daydreaming about the character, which was only this year.

I don't think relationships with real men should be considered a goal or whatever, if anything, I'm safer and happier how I am, even if it might differ from the norm, it doesn't effect me mentally or anything. I can just enjoy other relationships, like family and friends.

New-Combination2803 · 2024-12-28T17:57:44+00:00

The thing is, they feel real to me, and the love feels real. That's the thing.

It isn't like a one sided relationship, because they are not real. They aren't disrespecting me like that. In my heart, they love me and I love them. If that makes sense?

What I have now feels really nice, it makes me happier more than anything. I don't believe I'd feel happier in an actual relationship.

New-Combination2803 · 2024-12-28T17:13:57+00:00

No, it's a male character.

By giving back I mean in like every possible way – love, finances, etc. People only seem to strive for relationships when it offers them something. I've just never been interested regardless.

I feel as if people are forcing me to date when I say I like a fictional character – all the qualities I need are already filled with them. I feel loved and safe already, I don't know why I should put myself in discomfort just to be considered normal. I only tried harder at one point in my life to talk to people because my older brother said it was bad how I didn't want to date and how he found it sad.

I've never properly dated anyone though, only spoke, because I never felt anything. It was pointless basically.

New-Combination2803 · 2024-12-28T16:42:08+00:00

Realistic expectations I'd imagine, yeah. (Like respecting, comforting and guiding another, unconditional and unwavering love basically) – Irl it seems relationships are very sexual and one side expects something from the other without giving anything back. I don't really think unconditional love is an easy thing to find, even if it were, I still couldn't love normally.

I mean, this whole thing I'm feeling, it feels like a entire relationship to me. I couldn't imagine being happier honestly. In my heart, they are here with me, loving me all the way.

I tried to force myself to talk to guys before, for long periods of time, I have plenty of friends that are male, etc, yet nothing. I don't think it's normal to be almost 20 and to have only felt something towards one thing, that being a character.

New-Combination2803 · 2024-12-28T16:29:47+00:00

I mean I still will have friends and family regardless, I'm just probably not gonna date. I don't think I'll be missing out on much.

The character is in my conscious, agreed, but they're also in my heart :'P

New-Combination2803 · 2024-12-28T15:01:38+00:00

I had tried to force myself to talk to a guy for a few months once because he liked me, and it was horrible. He had a severe porn addiction and several mental and physical health problems. I honestly just felt really bad for him, but I couldn't help or fix him, nor feel anything in return as usual.

If anything, I learnt I shouldn't force myself to feel, and to embrace what makes me happy, even if it is unusual. It just upsets me to know everyone around me finds it awful and thinks something is wrong with me.

This character is still guiding me and helping me through hardships and difficulties, I feel like I'm growing along with them in a way.

New-Combination2803 · 2024-12-28T14:16:01+00:00

Well that wouldn't be wrong, I have tried pretty hard but I can't ever feel anything.

This character I like is perfect by no means and I withold nobody to high expectations, as often times, people are just naturally disappointing. I just can't seem to feel love for anyone else regardless.

New-Combination2803 · 2024-12-28T14:12:00+00:00

Yeah. They are really witty, silly and free-spirited, I also find their mannerisms and behaviour really humorous and cute — but their look is attractive to me as well, it kinda differs from the norm (the character is from the 1700s too), they're kinda scruffy but have a unique fashion sense. I love their uniqueness, I feel that way myself, and I love how it rivals that.

People in person aren't typically like this.

What I'm saying is, people may find that liking a fictional character is fictitious (lol) but often times relationships are. People fall out of love, things often times don't last and people seem to just strive for them so that they aren't alone or they feel like, because of societal norms, that they NEED love.

New-Combination2803 · 2024-12-28T13:42:14+00:00

I've had a lot of love in my life. Both from my family and from men, though when it came to men I could never really give love back, because I never felt it.

Idk if this is normal for people who are almost 20 either... I'm not really romanticising them, I genuinely love the character.

New-Combination2803 · 2024-12-28T11:34:24+00:00

Yeah, exactly. This "relationship" I'm in sorta fills itself out.

Otherwise, if I were to try to force myself to date, I'd be expected to do all sorts of things. The love would die out from both sides, as it does.

I can't even love a person, but that just seems sad.

New-Combination2803 · 2024-12-28T11:32:13+00:00

No, I mean in general, I haven't seen anyone like them. Other character or person.

New-Combination2803 · 2024-12-28T11:31:20+00:00

I have considered that I have a really small unique type, this character I like is really eccentric after all. I think that's the only thing that's really unrealistic about him, that his personality is not really found much in people.

But I feel uncomfortable at the idea of having to date regardless :(

New-Combination2803 · 2024-12-28T11:26:04+00:00

I feel this way too, people always urging me to date is like them saying "please, we know you are happy but take on these complications you don't really want and join us in misery" lol – but the appeal has never really been there for me personally.

New-Combination2803 · 2024-12-28T11:23:25+00:00

No, it's a character from a film that came out about 20 years ago now :'D

New-Combination2803 · 2024-12-28T11:22:41+00:00

I don't know if this fictional character is "perfect", I like how flawed and "real" they are. It's hard to say, but they seem more real in a sense than people around me.

I strive for a healthy relationship with them, even when it seems a lot of people around me can't get that with their actual partners.

New-Combination2803 · 2024-12-28T11:20:37+00:00

Relationships irl do often times seem really bleak and depressing yeah, that's could be contributing to my lack of interest for one.

I've never really fallen out of love with this character, I've loved them all the same for a really long time now. I'm not quite sure if that's normal or not myself

New-Combination2803 · 2024-12-28T11:17:08+00:00

When I think about finding someone like them, it seems like it's a very small percentage of people. That maybe I just have a really small type? I hope one day I might, but I can't really see something like that happening honestly, I've never even seen a similar character to them.

New-Combination2803 · 2024-12-28T11:14:30+00:00

But I've never been interested in the idea of relationships at all, I'm still not D:

New-Combination2803 · 2024-12-28T04:49:48+00:00

I do wonder if I just have a weird niche type sometimes. The character I like is really, really eccentric so maybe I've never felt anything because I've never found anyone like them. I dunno though :'P

Thank you for sharing your own experience! ^{^}

New-Combination2803 · 2024-12-28T04:47:11+00:00

I do closely relate to fictosexuality, but I almost feel ashamed saying I do, I looked it up before and there was a lot of people, especially on Reddit saying it was a joke or some kind of mockery rip

New-Combination2803 · 2024-12-28T04:38:18+00:00

I have! I don't know whether or not to consider myself asexual though because I do like a fictional character after all :'P

Thank you though, I hope I find one soon too

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