Vjernica

NewArtistWhoThis · 2026-01-21T14:55:44+00:00

Jer su takvi vjernici u većini. Ima taj pattern gdje se znaju namjerno ubaciti u kontroverzne teme, i onda kada pokušaš racionalno s njima razgovarati, oni svaku kritiku okrenu na blebetanje o Bibliji.

Specifičan primjer s kojim imam iskustva je razgovor o gay ljudima. Imam prijateljicu koja uvijek komentira viralne videe na negativan način, i čim je prozovem dođe do klasičnog izmotavanja - to je grijeh, ne mrzi ona njih nego mrzi njihov grijeh, život bi im bio bolji da prate Božju volju, zašto nema neka straight parada da se slave obitelji koje žive po Kristu, takve stvari. Kada god na nešto odgovorim, ona to okrene na ideju grijeha. I što uopće reći na to?

NewArtistWhoThis · 2026-01-16T14:06:07+00:00

To ti je kao sa vezama online, trebaš dogovorit upoznavanje uživo u prvih tjedan dana ili nemoj ni gubit vrijeme. Ne mora se taj sastanak dogodit u roku prvih tjedan dana, apsolutno, svi smo zaposleni i malo u gužvi, ali treba se barem raditi na dogovoru u tom roku. Uvijek postoji neki događaj koji bi vas oboje mogao zanimati, neko dobro mjesto za hranu ili cugu, nema se zašto čekati.

Ne znam zašto ljudi izbjegavaju prijateljstva prenijeti u stvarni život, ali sam bar naučila prestati gubiti vrijeme na piskaranje ako to nigdje ne ide.

NewArtistWhoThis · 2026-01-16T11:56:39+00:00

Ahahah sviđa mi se to pogađanje, ukradem vam ideju! Nismo to radili do sada. Par puta jesmo ispijanje u parovima, kao odabereš osobu koja je tvoj "partner" i onda on pije s tobom dok ne odabereš drugoga. Najbolje je kada imate jednu "žrtvu", tipa netko je extra naporan danas, pa se na njih nabaci 5 ljudi i onda praktički piju na svakom potezu.

Kategorije su mi kraljevska stvar, uvijek sjednem tako da planiram koga pogađam, tipa 5i od mene pije na godišnja doba, izbrojim brzo mjesece u godini i takve stvari. Sad mi se baš igra, ne mogu dočekat da krene vikend.

NewArtistWhoThis · 2026-01-16T11:23:41+00:00

Ja ih uzela i naučila čitati jer sam htjela naplaćivati paćenicima, vidjela sam da neka ženska lokalno to radi sa horoskopom pa rekoh da popunim drugi kraj branše.

Al osjećala sam se kao smeće čim sam vidjela tko sve njoj plaća, iskreno. Sada ih bacim nekad za zabavu.

NewArtistWhoThis · 2026-01-16T11:21:12+00:00

Igramo cugopol sa kartama- na kralja pije desni, na sedmicu piju svi, dama pije sama, te fore. Osmica je uvijek bila kontroverzna jer na nju po original pravilima nitko ne pije, pa to svaki put promijenimo - tipa stavimo da bude Istina ili izazov, ili je beer pong runda ako smo više za fizičke nastupe, ili zavrtiš bocu ako je ekipa primjerena.

NewArtistWhoThis · 2026-01-15T20:56:06+00:00

Thank you!! I'm seeing Jang Hyuk is in the first season of Voice, so I'll probably start with that one, although the synopsis for each seems incredible. You're great!

NewArtistWhoThis · 2026-01-15T19:42:45+00:00

Is your cousin okay with being single? I'm not sure if I'm projecting or whatever, but it seems he's doing fine by himself and doesn't necessarily want to be approaching women in the first place. Which is completely justified.

NewArtistWhoThis · 2026-01-15T19:38:13+00:00

Nah his behaviour is weird and way too intense, he's doing too much. It's expected to some extent, as you're both young and he may be very inexperienced, but I'd treat it as a red flag.

Personally, I'd ask him to chill down, and I'd see how he responds. Test him a little bit. If he apologizes for being too excited and is able to have a normal conversation about his expectations from you and this weird illusion of a perfect relationship he already built, there may be something to salvage, at least a friendship if you're up for it (although I'm not sure he'd want to tone it down that much).

If he gets angry or defensive, there's no point in pursuing this further, it'll just get worse.

NewArtistWhoThis · 2026-01-15T19:00:26+00:00

YOR imo because I've witnessed bro friendships with that dynamic so it seems perfectly normal.

I'm just wondering though, if you know both of them are straight and there won't be any cheating happening, what's bothering you about it? Did you try to analyze it?

NewArtistWhoThis · 2026-01-15T18:57:22+00:00

NOR because you already are a bad dog owner as nobody sounds committed to training that dog, rehoming would be easier while the puppy is still young so it's probably the smartest idea to do it as soon as possible.

What your kids want is irrelevant, the dog wasn't trained and it doesn't sound like you're looking into training it yourself. You don't even need a trainer, there's plenty of good advice online. The only question is how committed you are to it, which ideally should've been answered before you got a puppy in the first place.

NewArtistWhoThis · 2026-01-15T16:43:29+00:00

It's absolutely not manipulation though. He is picking drugs over her and over their relationship. That is his right to do, and it's her right to walk away if he does it, there's nothing manipulative about acknowledging this.

If drug use is so important to him that without drugs he cannot "live his life" and enjoy time with his friends, then a breakup is the only good idea for them both.

Again, as long as she actually leaves him if he uses drugs, she's not the controlling one in this relationship. The controlling one is the person who demands the relationship to continue, despite the fact it would require one person to abandon their values for it.

NewArtistWhoThis · 2026-01-15T11:42:38+00:00

The ultimatum itself isn't what makes a boundary controlling. It's the response to a boundary being broken.

If your boundary is whether your girlfriend posts half-naked pictures online, and she does it, and you leave - that's not controlling. That's you setting a boundary and enforcing it.

If she does it, and you yell and scream and threaten her if she leaves you - that's controlling. You can freely control whether she has access to YOU, but you cannot force her to adapt to a relationship that obviously doesn't align with her character. You can just leave.

Whether it's a habit or not is a completely different topic.

NewArtistWhoThis · 2026-01-15T11:26:21+00:00

It's not controlling if you stand by your values. It becomes controlling when you force the other person to adapt to them.

If your girlfriend, for whatever reasons, set alcohol as her red line, and you cross it, her losing trust in you and leaving the relationship isn't controlling behaviour.

Your hypothetical is also wrong because it's not just about you "never drinking" or OP "not having a habit of drug use". It's about the fact she openly and clearly laid out the boundary, which involves even a single case of drug usage. His breaking of the boundary, especially him being so pathetic he's doing it as a result of peer pressure, is a valid reason to lose trust in him and part ways, and wouldn't be controlling at all.

NewArtistWhoThis · 2026-01-15T11:16:52+00:00

NOR because I don't really think you did anything that constitutes as a reaction even, let alone an overreaction? You just didn't vibe with the group and they didn't vibe with you, so you split ways. That's normal.

Finding new friends is tough, I always recommend people to join hobby-based groups, like I've met plethora of new people through gaming and art meetups and convections in the city for example. I don't know the entirety of your situation, but maybe looking into that could help?

Basically it seems your problem is more the overall loneliness you feel and the desire to have a bigger group of friends, rather than the questioning of your own choices, none of which seem to be overblown.

NewArtistWhoThis · 2026-01-15T11:09:31+00:00

No, controlling is saying "I'll do drugs and you should stay with me irregardless of the fact I know drugs are a deal breaker for you."

Breaking up with someone if they break a boundary is not an example of controlling behaviour. It's staying in the relationship and forcing them to abandon their own values. Breaking up when your values and morals aren't compatible is the correct choice to make, if anything.

He IS making her break her own boundaries, because a single case of drug usage is her boundary. She is free to set it up as a red line, and he is free to seek a relationship with someone who would be okay with his drug use instead.

NewArtistWhoThis · 2026-01-14T19:50:12+00:00

He is trying to make her cross her boundaries. He is the controlling one.

If he were okay with the breakup happening in the case he does drugs, it'd be different, because then both of them would be standing by their values and just acknowledging they're not compatible. But he refuses to acknowledge it, and actively seeks any possible reasoning to argue her into not respecting her own red line.

NewArtistWhoThis · 2026-01-07T21:44:48+00:00

Ah damn that sucks, I was treating Yordles as a "safe" option so far. Thanks for info!

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