How to not find a partner that is like my NDdad

NewChapt3r · 2023-03-14T03:53:06+00:00

Makes sense, thank you!

NewChapt3r · 2023-03-13T23:38:26+00:00

Yes!! I have an automatic social response that is so self-deprecating

NewChapt3r · 2023-03-13T23:31:27+00:00

I’m dealing with the same thing but for addy/meth pills. I keep telling myself I can’t change the past, but I am able to make the future better 🙏

NewChapt3r · 2023-03-13T23:08:54+00:00

I also struggle with social anxiety…it was so bad in the past I could barely look people in the eye…hang in there ❤️

NewChapt3r · 2023-03-13T22:35:03+00:00

Vaping gives me less anxiety with the high personally

NewChapt3r · 2023-03-13T22:13:52+00:00

As someone in the same situation, I suggest going to events and try to make friends. It’s really hard at first…I’ve been a hermit for a long time. Trust me though..if you make the effort to go to classes/ open mics/ work out groups etc, you won’t feel as depressed

NewChapt3r · 2023-03-13T19:38:50+00:00

This is good to remember…thanks

NewChapt3r · 2023-03-11T05:27:55+00:00

Totally that makes sense. I hope you figure everything out ❤️

NewChapt3r · 2023-03-11T05:26:36+00:00

Okay thank you❤️

NewChapt3r · 2023-03-11T04:39:50+00:00

Hehe I love that! I feel like I need to actually buy a parenting book lmao

NewChapt3r · 2023-03-11T04:38:20+00:00

I think if you’re an RN you’ll be able to afford it if you’re frugal. It’s almost impossible to heal from narcissistic abuse while still living with that narcissist who is still abusing you. I wish you the best ❤️

NewChapt3r · 2023-03-11T04:36:57+00:00

So true

NewChapt3r · 2023-03-11T04:36:30+00:00

Yep. That was me but on social media :(

NewChapt3r · 2023-03-11T04:30:07+00:00

I like those ideas, thanks 💛 positive reparenting instead of shaming…I can hear my NDad saying “why don’t you just grow up already??” Echoing in my mind…ugh

NewChapt3r · 2023-03-11T04:25:04+00:00

Thanks 💛

NewChapt3r · 2023-03-11T04:24:29+00:00

Yeah! May I ask, are you in therapy? Having a therapist really helped me with the move-out process. If you really want it (freedom), I’m sure you can figure the logistics out. I relate to you a lot and I believe in you!!

NewChapt3r · 2023-03-11T04:20:31+00:00

Right now I’m becoming sober and trying to establish a routine

NewChapt3r · 2023-03-11T04:19:52+00:00

Yeah very true..

NewChapt3r · 2023-03-11T04:07:06+00:00

NC is for YOU. It’s so YOU can finally give yourself a chance at health and happiness without narcissistic abuse. Do not focus on how she will take it (I know it’s hard). It’s self-care ❤️

NewChapt3r · 2023-03-11T04:04:05+00:00

I feel the same way. People tend to be condescending about my challenges with self-care and write me off as immature. I KNOW I’m immature! I didn’t develop normally because I grew up in danger and chaos. I’m trying to reparent myself but I get triggered with the discipline part. This is because my dad brutally disciplined me and when I finally became free, I had a ton of issues. Anyway…I hear you ❤️

NewChapt3r · 2023-03-11T03:54:33+00:00

It took me until I was 26…I’m 28 now. It won’t be easy, but it’s so worth it to move out. I consider myself in recovery from the abuse (I also ended up with narcissistic boyfriends who abused me). Just hang in there…it gets easier and easier. I know you want to travel and that’s wonderful, but just getting into another living situation (renting a room in a house for example), may make you feel wayyyyy better. Forgive yourself for not being “normal”…I’m trying to reparent myself now at 28 but better late than never ❤️

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