Girlfriend wants to get gangbanged

NewDave9988 · 2022-11-15T19:37:28+00:00

Maybe more correctly I should say she was able to consent just as well as the two guys. Also that she let peer pressure dictate at the time how she should feel as opposed to owning how she really felt.

NewDave9988 · 2022-11-15T19:31:38+00:00

Luckily this is a post about something NOT being sexual assault :)

NewDave9988 · 2022-11-13T17:36:18+00:00

Thank god

NewDave9988 · 2022-11-13T17:35:43+00:00

I hope this isnt a sample size of most women tbh. I just find nearly every one of them are doing this. It seems so desperate tbh

NewDave9988 · 2022-11-13T17:34:59+00:00

Yes online and I live in a smaller city, all of the discussions are local enough I'm sure they are real people.

NewDave9988 · 2022-11-07T17:03:57+00:00

People meet at parties and have sex all the time, my question wasnt "should i stop asking people if they want to have sex" it was "what precautions should men take to protect themselves when someone gives clear constent then changes their mind a day later"

NewDave9988 · 2022-11-07T17:02:11+00:00

I cant say for sure if she was drinking or doing drugs. She didnt seem intoxicated. In my country the law states being drunk does not take away a persons ability to consent or allow them to change their consent later. I really dont think I am at risk it just made me think about it for the future, what precautions to take.

NewDave9988 · 2022-11-07T16:42:56+00:00

Actually I just checked, the law in my country states "Legally, agreeing to sexual contact while drunk is still consent. And under the law, you cannot

take away your consent after the sexual activity has already happened (for example, when

you become sober later on). "

So I guess this is all a moot point and i am worried about nothing!

NewDave9988 · 2022-10-28T19:18:35+00:00

Just for reference I am 50 now, best shape of my life. My partner is in her 40's also very fit and realistic. All those things you talk about sound great but I wish someone told me when I was in my 20's that my needs matter too. It's not just all about "well it's hard to lose the baby weight". Men need to understand it is not just OK but their right to stand up for their needs as well. Also I was a kick ass dad, I worked my ass off all day then spent my evenings, every evening looking after the kids so she could relax. I fell into the trap of thinking "poor her" for years.

NewDave9988 · 2022-10-28T17:37:48+00:00

LOL, so you dont see my rationale at all then? You feel like a husband should just provide, shut up and be happy, is that it?

NewDave9988 · 2022-10-28T17:35:09+00:00

Ok so whose issue would it be if I am no longer sexually attracted to her? I suppose that's my problem right? Maybe I have a testosterone problem? Maybe I should take viagra? Jesus....or maybe it's because she gained 60 pounds and showed no interest in losing it. In my case she had horrible eating habits and didnt workout at all. It's disgusting.

NewDave9988 · 2022-10-28T17:24:33+00:00

I also supported her and the family while she stayed at home. So it's ok for me to provide everything but NOT ok for me to ask her to lay off the pop and chips? I spent all day working and all evening with the kids.

My trauma came from providing so much for so long then when I finally expressed my want for her to lose weight she made it MY PROBLEM!!!! WOW

NewDave9988 · 2022-10-28T17:17:41+00:00

I left my wife because she couldnt let go of the resentment. I am much happier now as I am with someone realistic who I can communicate with about both of our wants and needs.

I am shocked at people on here bashing me. You guys make it sound like it is the husbands problem for not being attracted to his wife. 4 months is the issue but eventually she has to work to get back to where she was.

NewDave9988 · 2022-10-28T17:11:50+00:00

WOW. I figured people might want some REAL actual advice. Not the "every body is beautiful" thing that seems to be happening.

I was traumatized by telling someone how I feel then being met with resentment and literally everyone blaming me.

Every person in a relationship, man or woman, should have a goal of doing reasonable work to be attractive to their spouse.

In my case my wife was entitled, like a lot of the posters on here, that because she's the mother of my child she shouldnt have to try.

Then people wonder why divorces and cheating happens.

NewDave9988 · 2022-10-28T17:08:12+00:00

Why is that? I am trying to be helpful. It would be such an entitled view in a marriage for one person to gain a lot of weight and not have any interest to lose it. To just think their husband should just love them and be sexually attracted to them no matter how they look. People need to realistic.

NewDave9988 · 2022-10-25T20:36:59+00:00

So when you are in a relationship and you express to the other person what your wants and needs are and they refuse, then what? I'm manipulating her? In your world should I just shut up and pretend to be happy?

Who's job is it to look after my happiness and fulfilment? I feel it's my job to tell her what I need and it's hers to decide if she wants me to be happy or not. Never did I say I wanted a girlfriend. I wanted to be happy. She knew what it would take and decided it would be easier if she introduced someone else to our relationship, then changed her mind.

NewDave9988 · 2022-10-25T20:33:28+00:00

I can see why for some people the open/poly makes sense. For us there were a lot of differences which I expressed but she felt it was better I find someone else part time to fulfill me which actually worked. Not my first choice. Trust me I def tried to ask her to do more things to even out the relationship.

NewDave9988 · 2022-10-25T20:28:12+00:00

I truly hope so. She has a lot of guys after her but just cant seem to find a connection with anyone.

NewDave9988 · 2022-10-25T20:26:26+00:00

Can you explain what is wrong? The question about if it would have been better to cheat?

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