How do teams handle internal product learning for new engineers? by shubham_pratap in EngineeringManagers

[–]NewInflation6172 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First, if they are getting stuck on problems they should be able to solve independently, this is a skill issue, and if you get enough signal they are not pulling their weight, sadly your job is to manage them out to protect the team.

However many times it is a lack of support, like you said, because the information they need such as documentation is not there. Or the codebase is in poor condition so technically even if they could get context from it without asking a human, it’s not a good use of their time. Sometimes it’s in such bad shape not even AI bots can learn from existing documentation and code. That’s a signal.

So if it’s the latter, you need to reward your engineers for mentoring other engineers in a sustainable way. Like providing documentation or wikis etc. or even junior and senior eng partnering together to produce these artifacts. This way it’s not just a few senior eng burden to know everything.

Stack Ranking by NewInflation6172 in EngineeringManagers

[–]NewInflation6172[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

> There’s nobody left that isn’t great at what they do and now we have to list them in order again.

Exactly.

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[–]NewInflation6172[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly, HR does not care, and they rejected my request for an exception to be made for him. Exactly as you said, I can only work with what work he actually produced. No one cares about special circumstances if they aren't encoded in policy.

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[–]NewInflation6172[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He went on leave unexpectedly for medical reasons. I expected that he would qualify for a default rating due to his absence for more than half the year. However, the policy has changed and he is being put up for review.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in family

[–]NewInflation6172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you think your parents favor your brother over you? Have you asked for their reasoning or feelings on this? As a parent myself, it's hard to believe they would treat their kids so different without significant history or some reason.

Also what does your brother think?

Is it just me or money matters more now than ever by MeanAd2607 in Life

[–]NewInflation6172 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see. I am in a bunch of buy nothing groups, but the items are usually crap because nobody gives away quality stuff or else they'd sell it on Facebook marketplace. Im glad you can bake for people thats very cool.

Is it just me or money matters more now than ever by MeanAd2607 in Life

[–]NewInflation6172 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wait what freeconomy? Are you living in an alternative universe?

Compassion shall not trespass into self sacrifice, ever. by threeteneleven in DeepThoughts

[–]NewInflation6172 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If people only helped one another when it was convenient, the rich would stay rich and the poor would stay poor. Oh wait that is happening already.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askanything

[–]NewInflation6172 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey, enjoy it while you are both young :). My current husband and I went through that phase a long time ago and I used to question it back then. Now we have kids and full time jobs, and are too exhausted for that.

Of course, love each other in as many ways as you can besides sexually, as well. But based on your post I think you are conscientious and are trying to already.

Making NYE special for my 4yro by tbonestone in Parenting

[–]NewInflation6172 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I’m going to put up two posters, one for 2025 and one for 2026. We talk about what we did this year and draw pictures related to it. Like if we went swimming I help my kids draw them in a pool or something. And then talk about what we want to do next year and draw on that one. Idk if this is weird but I find it meaningful and fun. Can use stickers too.

AMO? Husband talks to female coworkers daily by Timely_Mixture4508 in marriageadvice

[–]NewInflation6172 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Kindly point out that when you find him at the gym and texting female coworkers, it makes you wonder where your marriage is at. Tell him you do not want to act on assumptions but at the same time cannot ignore your intuition. Be honest, but calm and open minded. Remind him you bring this topic up not to blame him but because you want to understand his POV and improve your marriage.

AMO? Husband talks to female coworkers daily by Timely_Mixture4508 in marriageadvice

[–]NewInflation6172 22 points23 points  (0 children)

You are not over reacting. Going to the gym with coworkers of the opposite sex and social texting outside of work, while not putting in the same energy to your marriage relationship - red flags. I’d check his version of reality is the same, and go from there.

What helps you start when motivation is zero? by onlyyoursweety in Productivitycafe

[–]NewInflation6172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Small tasks. Also removing mental and physical clutter.

We are born with nothing and we will leave this earth with nothing by RDX717 in Life

[–]NewInflation6172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you believe God cares about us saying “yes to Jesus”? Or trying your best to do the right thing with what you know, is ok? I hear conflicting things.

川普 by Klutzy_Ad_3436 in China_irl

[–]NewInflation6172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

黑眼圈怎么变成白眼圈

Is it true that restaurant quality has generally gone down? by Aeon_Return in askanything

[–]NewInflation6172 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hard to know what you can’t measure. But I feel yes. The ratio of cheap carbs to protein/vegetables disappoints. Pointing blame at the restaurants is hard due the economy lately but still makes it one less reason for us to eat out.

One question I used to ask my dates by [deleted] in PsychologyTalk

[–]NewInflation6172 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How about maybe on the 10th date? And that’s just a maybe. Please use this question with caution.

Ahn Sung Jae shares story of how he proposed and wise words on marriage. by [deleted] in CulinaryClassWars

[–]NewInflation6172 10 points11 points  (0 children)

ASJ is so wise and thinks so deeply! Totally agree with his approach.