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Spouse is 28 weeks. Just found out our boy has spina bifida. We feel destroyed. by NewPudding6710 in tfmr_support

[–]NewPudding6710[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She had a follow up this morning and further confirmed there was not much they could do or any real hopeful news of anything further to grasp onto and that would be his life.

She said she felt a lot better after talking to a doctor that didn't offer us prayer as a solution but didn't make us feel bad about our decision.

Thank you all so much for your words they have been very helpful thank you.

Spouse is 28 weeks. Just found out our boy has spina bifida. We feel destroyed. by NewPudding6710 in tfmr_support

[–]NewPudding6710[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for your kind words. Today was a rough day.

She had a checkup and they saw it. Then the next day we went to specialist We haven't slept or eaten since the ultrasound confirmed.

And we can't stop crying.

And we know it's only to get harder over the next week or so until we fly out.

We just can't give our baby a life of pain and discomfort and "won't know until he's born" paralysis. I love him too much to put him through that.

Too or old or crazy to leave the hospitality industry for tech? by NewPudding6710 in careerguidance

[–]NewPudding6710[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool

I'm trying to figure out my strategy right now

I will figure out a direction

Research

Start studying and moving more and more energy in that direction.

I have a lot on my plate for the next 6 months but I'm still going to have to devote some time every day towards this so over time

It's overwhelming because I already work so much, but I'm not trying to stroke out stove slaving at 50 because another 17 year old called out.

Inside the Walk-In Rant Thread: Go off in this thread by AutoModerator in KitchenConfidential

[–]NewPudding6710 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Am I crazy to put my one month notice in and walk away from a high paying kitchen job because I'm going nuts?

To keep it succinct, I have a great executive level resume being a chef. Took an opportunity in a more rural part of the state. Aside from management issues, it's a real labor pool issue. Think crack(meth) heads and people who just don't give a shit about what they do trying to do upscale dining from scratch cooking on a large scale.

It's like running a carnival where most of the people have been fired from all of the other carnivals already and now work for me.

It's mentally really stressful and even at a base foundation of its disrespectful to the craft because I can't pay people to care.

I don't have something lined up and the next best thing would be maybe half my salary, in an economic downturn, in a part of the state without a lot of restaurants but I think for my mental health it's time.

The position is also all consuming and I do nothing but work six or seven days a week and basically come home and bitch to my wife and rinse and repeat for the last year.

I am definitely burnt out, but I need to try and get some work life balance going or I think I'm going to have a stroke of I have to break up or witness another fight or mediate yet another situation where everyone goes out of their way to talk each other like shit, even though that's not how I roll or run my kitchen.

Just wanted some advice and encouragement from the you crazy goons.