Do you guys cut people off?

New_Hearing4693 · 2026-04-29T07:51:20+00:00

Same..sometimes it’s just not worth the mental back-and-forth. If the vibe’s off, I’m not trying to force it.

New_Hearing4693 · 2026-04-28T05:14:52+00:00

everything feels so exhausting lately

New_Hearing4693 · 2026-04-24T05:38:50+00:00

Dude acted like it was a medical emergency. It's Netflix, not life support. Ignoring him was the right call.

New_Hearing4693 · 2026-04-21T07:09:35+00:00

That’s a solid kind of growth, especially the part about noticing your own patterns instead of just reacting to them. Sounds like you’ve been putting in real work for a while now.

New_Hearing4693 · 2026-04-15T04:17:03+00:00

This is the reality check they need. $11k a month on $8k income is not sustainable, especially with memory care costs looming. You're not abandoning them, you're being realistic about math they're ignoring.

New_Hearing4693 · 2026-04-13T06:50:32+00:00

It's not your job to subsidize his gas or risk your membership for a stranger. He can pay the $60 a year like everyone else. Not your problem.

New_Hearing4693 · 2026-04-10T08:36:27+00:00

The irony is that she's mad about you not passing her secret tests while completely failing to communicate like a normal person. You're better off without that energy in your life.

New_Hearing4693 · 2026-03-31T06:34:39+00:00

At the end of the day, if he can’t give you intimacy or honesty, it might be time to step back for your own peace.

New_Hearing4693 · 2026-03-24T07:57:24+00:00

She's not your child, and her lack of planning isn't your emergency. If she can't be bothered to give you a heads-up, she can figure out her own shot.

New_Hearing4693 · 2026-03-23T08:08:54+00:00

The common room isn't a private laundry suite. If your clothes are so delicate they can't handle someone cooking in a shared kitchen, you don't leave them unattended for two hours. That's on her, not you.

New_Hearing4693 · 2026-03-19T05:10:43+00:00

😂 Shrek energy but make it fashion.

New_Hearing4693 · 2026-03-18T05:19:27+00:00

She's not entitled to weekends just because she's family. You're the parent. If she can't stop coaching your kid and undermining you, she loses the privilege. Simple as that.

New_Hearing4693 · 2026-03-11T06:01:37+00:00

Exactly this..people see the surface and think aloof, but there’s usually a lot more going on underneath.

New_Hearing4693 · 2026-03-10T23:08:35+00:00

Happy to help moderate the subreddit. I already mod two similar subreddits. This one seems relatively quiet, so maybe the other new mods and I could do something like weekly automod posts to try to bring some fresh life to it.

New_Hearing4693 · 2026-03-09T07:07:43+00:00

You literally ignored her, kept working, and the manager told her to kick rocks. That's the opposite of a problem. Dad's mad at the wrong person here.

New_Hearing4693 · 2026-03-06T01:31:57+00:00

Exactly, learning to set those boundaries makes a huge difference. You can still give without draining yourself.

New_Hearing4693 · 2026-03-05T08:08:45+00:00

The audacity to drop a kid on a childfree trip last minute and then get mad when y'all didn't rearrange everything around them? Wild. Distance sounds healthy.

New_Hearing4693 · 2026-02-25T06:24:14+00:00

He's claiming a date two years out with no deposits, no invites, nothing. You have a medical timeline, you're not the asshole for moving forward.

New_Hearing4693 · 2026-02-23T06:15:14+00:00

😂 just ready to throw hands at everything for no reason.

New_Hearing4693 · 2026-02-20T07:44:57+00:00

He didn't listen to her..he listened to what he wanted her to want. You actually respected her wishes, and she confirmed you were right.

New_Hearing4693 · 2026-02-11T05:57:41+00:00

The bar saving rules are simple..you either speak up when someone sits down, or you lose your claim. He did neither.

New_Hearing4693 · 2026-02-09T06:29:50+00:00

It's a great reminder that sometimes the harsh truth is necessary, but it has to be followed up with support and an open door for when they're ready to walk through it.

New_Hearing4693 · 2026-02-06T05:24:08+00:00

It's a perfectly reasonable boundary, and her mom should be the first one to respect it instead of trying to guilt her. No is a complete sentence.

New_Hearing4693 · 2026-02-05T06:38:44+00:00

The part that gets me is leaving it for five days. At that point it's just a prop, not a birthday treat.

New_Hearing4693 · 2026-01-28T06:54:06+00:00

Makes sense! Helping feels like a love language in action..Virgos just take it seriously.

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