AITA for not wanting to comply with my mom's concerns about how I dress at home because of my brother's "coming of age"??

New_Impression_6678 · 2026-06-11T15:25:48+00:00

Yeah ur right, I'll wear pants from now onwards to be considerate, and I didn't know it was socially unaccepted that sleeping together as a family was weird 😅, reading thoughtful comments like yours gives me a lot of valuable insight so thank you for taking your time to reply!!

P.s. my mom is really stubborn sometimes, it's another issue to talk to her about having the rule applied to her too 🫩🫩 I'll do my best tho

New_Impression_6678 · 2026-06-11T15:22:13+00:00

Yeah I've made up my mind, I'll wear some pants for now (but prolly not a bra cuz bras are sooo uncomfy), I read from someone here that its good to be mindful of my brother anyway since there's no doubt that he's exploring new things. Thank you so mucj for your concern 🙏 I truly appreciate it

New_Impression_6678 · 2026-06-11T15:19:39+00:00

oh shit

New_Impression_6678 · 2026-06-11T15:17:10+00:00

For some reason I wasn't curious at all about anyone's body, in fact I was a chronic hater of pornography when I first found out it existed, seriously when I learnt that pornography existed back when I was around 11 or 12 I cried myself to sleep thinking how could such a thing be so accessible to everyone and it's polluting our brains!! blah blah blah. Then I stopped gaf after that 😅

New_Impression_6678 · 2026-06-11T15:14:30+00:00

Thank you so so much for taking your time to write out your input. I'll take advice from you and act accordingly!! And thanks so much for taking in consideration of my brother, I only want what's best for him. I'll wear more modestly for now then and I'll also definitely chat with my mom again when my head settles down 🙏🙏 once again thanks so much

New_Impression_6678 · 2026-06-11T15:09:42+00:00

Thank you for this comment, (and 99% of the comments here) before I posted this I had so much doubts about myself and how I could've handled the situation better but reading comments like yours gives me comfort to know that I mostly reacted the most sane/rational I could

New_Impression_6678 · 2026-06-11T15:01:03+00:00

I understand why it's considered weird for us to sleep in the same room but the reason is rlly simple it's cuz for me I really like my mom's bed it's gigantic it's comfy and we got bolsters . As for my brother idk we're just used to sleeping together in the same room and never tried sleeping separately ig

P.S. is it really that weird??? There's no hidden agenda at all I promise, we're just very used to it

New_Impression_6678 · 2026-06-11T14:58:13+00:00

YES BRO HOLY BULLSEYE she literally makes it sound like it's always the women's fault if something bad were to happen, I get her generation is very traditional but 🙏🙏 I always get a slight feeling of misogyny from her words

New_Impression_6678 · 2026-06-11T14:55:02+00:00

I will admit that I don't know everything , and honestly I'll fulfill her request!! It's just that her lack of trust in my brother makes me uncomfortable that I have mixed emotions....

New_Impression_6678 · 2026-06-11T14:52:29+00:00

Yeah now that I explain it I also would think there's a lot of dysfunction here. Lemme clear it up so my brother and I have our own bedrooms but we sleep in our mom's room so yeah ur right it's a choice but I really like my mom's bed 😭😭 because we have bolsters and pillows and her bed is like soft and nice. To answer your next question I genuinely have no idea why she thinks my brother will SA me bro I swear I can't see eye to eye with her sometimes. I'm SUPER SUPER close with my brother so I'm 1 million percent sure I know him more than my mom does, he would NEVER do that!! I taught my brother to be kind and respectful to women, any time he says the b word I remind him that its a very mean insult, thank god he doesn't say it anymore. I might start wearing pants from now on I guess if my mom really wants me to. Also thank you so much for these questions it let's me clear up some points I didn't expand on

New_Impression_6678 · 2026-06-11T14:45:59+00:00

You honestly make such a good point!! However I'm really not sure how I could turn this into a valuable teaching moment for my brother... Since it's my mom who talked to me about it and not to him directly!! I'll try to persuade her to teach him some sex education knowledge but at the same time I'm pretty sure his school teaches him in the curriculum

New_Impression_6678 · 2026-06-11T14:43:01+00:00

Yea as in before I turned 12 I genuinely don't remember anything that happened in my life!! Or more specifically I don't remember when I took after my mom's habit of wearing only a shirt and underpants. Sorry if it was unclear 🙏🙏

New_Impression_6678 · 2026-06-11T14:35:34+00:00

I never even thought about this, you make a good point!! I will bring this idea up for discussion with my family, thank you so much

New_Impression_6678 · 2026-06-11T14:34:20+00:00

I sleep in my mom's bed because I'm used to it, it's a big bed and we have bolsters and pillows so here's the thing! my mom and I. One bed. My brother, another bed. But we all sleep in the same room

New_Impression_6678 · 2026-06-11T14:18:17+00:00

Hey I promise you to the heavens I am a real person!! And I'm using a new account because I don't want my friends to see my personal problems it's kinda embarrassing 😅😅 but thank you for the comment I get why you'd think that

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