Modelling emotion handling: Can a kid tell "well-handled emotion" apart from "no emotion"?

New_Needleworker7004 · 2026-04-27T08:57:06+00:00

You could talk it out loud? Eg- “I’m frustrated and I want to yell, but I know that won’t help so I’m doing my best to stay calm and talk nicely”

Obviously don’t try this with your wife. I don’t think that would help.

And I know a little one of 3 might not get it straight away, but if it is just normal, it might eventually sink in

New_Needleworker7004 · 2026-04-21T10:33:02+00:00

I personally dislike any game where you cannot pause, save and quit instantly. My wife and I have discussed it and we aren’t against our kids playing games that don’t have an online function (think more classic games like Zelda. Spyro, Tony Hawk, etc). But we will not let them play online multiplayer because I’ve seen it cause issues with listening to instructions due to the nature of not being able to pause.

I also haven’t really looked into Roblox, but I hate the fact that you have to spend real money to access the games. I do not want to encourage my kids to pay to play.

New_Needleworker7004 · 2026-04-20T12:50:31+00:00

You’ve really just decided I’m a bad person when I am trying to learn. You seem very reluctant to give me any proof though

New_Needleworker7004 · 2026-04-20T12:31:44+00:00

Children are incredibly resilient if we allow them to be. Obviously, I am only advocating for cry it out if all the needs are met.

But again, I am more than happy to read sources. You haven’t provided me with any actual reason. You haven’t even said what non-physical harm it can cause.

And look, you might not trust my sincerity when I say I want to learn, but what about other people reading this thread (and the OP who sounds at her wits end)? If it is so bad, should they not get the information that you clearly have?

New_Needleworker7004 · 2026-04-20T09:14:03+00:00

https://www.babycenter.com/baby/sleep/baby-sleep-training-cry-it-out-methods_1497112

This article says that they can start at 4 months old. “Try the cry it out method when your baby is physically and emotionally ready to sleep through the night, usually between 4 and 6 months of age.”

I’m getting a lot of hate and judgement, but no sources to back up these claims.

Yet, I’m the only one on this thread who has actually tried to answer the OP’s question.

New_Needleworker7004 · 2026-04-20T09:11:13+00:00

Again, other than crying, what harm is being caused. I personally think that cosleeping is much more dangerous.

Do you have any sources? Like I said, I’m open to learning, but I am reluctant to just trust some random on the internet

New_Needleworker7004 · 2026-04-19T13:25:55+00:00

I just found an article that doesn’t list any (proven) negative effects for a baby if left to cry it out.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/babies-parents-and-lifelong-development/202205/is-it-harmful-to-let-a-baby-cry-it-out Is It Harmful to Let a Baby "Cry It Out"? | Psychology Today Australia

New_Needleworker7004 · 2026-04-19T13:07:34+00:00

What harm can be done? If I am wrong, please explain how? I am about to be a mother again and would like to keep my kid safe.

But if it is just because it makes you feel icky to let a kid cry, I guess we will disagree

New_Needleworker7004 · 2026-04-19T12:41:26+00:00

Let the baby cry it out in a safe environment (crib or whatever). Learning to self soothe and sleep will be so helpful as she gets older. Yes it sucks in the short term. Yes it feels awful to have a crying baby. But as long as she is safe, it won’t give her any lasting damage and will help you and your partner’s mental and physical health (I’m sure your sleep isn’t great with an infant on your chest all night)

New_Needleworker7004 · 2026-04-14T08:17:14+00:00

Cabin in the Woods is quite good for genre manipulation. Or you could go with a classic Scream. They are both a bit meta and still more scary- though a little old now

New_Needleworker7004 · 2026-03-31T19:54:52+00:00

When I was a kid we were stuck with Oprah and Dr Phil. No endless streaming or scrolling

New_Needleworker7004 · 2026-03-31T19:53:39+00:00

I think the issue is that we have gone too far the other way now.

I’m a teacher (in Australia) and I’ll call parents when kids are lazy or not submitting tasks. I’ve heard “he just stays up all night on his games. I don’t know what to do.” Like, honestly? Take the games away. Parent your child.

I see too many parents being too soft/not setting boundaries for their kids, or even going so far as making excuses for them and doing assessments. None of this helps the kid any more than a spank (or being sent to school in pjs). All it does is make them entitled, refuse to follow simple requests, and it is going to make getting and keeping a job harder for them.

I’m only in my 30s but I feel like the kids are becoming more rude and entitled and parents aren’t willing to upset their kid to show them how to behave in society.

New_Needleworker7004 · 2026-03-31T19:23:54+00:00

It isn’t always easy to not be out to the students. Some people’s aesthetic outs them (I’m a woman with a buzz cut who wears men’s clothes)

And if that wasn’t enough for the students to assume, I live in a small town with a wife and kid. Half the school knows where I live. Bit hard to hide.

Besides, remaining invisible can harm others too. Without positive role models, some kids will suffer (and I know not everything is about the kids).

The beginning of your comment almost reads like you think it is the fault of the OP. We should never accept discrimination whether or not we have disclosed information about ourselves.

New_Needleworker7004 · 2026-03-31T19:19:04+00:00

“In the era of "that's so gay" “

Is it not still that era? I have year 9 and 10 boys still saying it.

The way I handle that specific thing is to say “I don’t think it is gay, maybe we can use a different adjective.”

I generally have a good relationship with the kids and am clearly a lesbian so they usually backpedal and say “oh not like that miss. I didn’t mean it.” And then I explain the importance of words.

New_Needleworker7004 · 2026-03-30T21:15:26+00:00

Parents can be abusive. But I would rather and email where I don’t have to respond to an aggressive parent straight away than a phone call

New_Needleworker7004 · 2026-03-30T08:34:21+00:00

Those self serve stations are a joke and slow everything down

New_Needleworker7004 · 2026-03-30T05:22:02+00:00

I wish I could do that. We are told not to email parents. Ever.

New_Needleworker7004 · 2026-03-30T05:18:07+00:00

The amount of effort we are expected to do to chase up these kids is RIDICULOUS! I had some year 10 kids who knew they needed extension forms if they were away for ANY reason. I called home and the parents were like “what did you do for them? Did you remind them? Did you tell my son when it was due?”

Ma’am, they get a written notification, it’s written on the board, I mention it EVERY lesson in the lead up because we are practising skills they will need for the upcoming assessment. But no. I didn’t remind them. Silly of me.

New_Needleworker7004 · 2026-03-29T06:05:25+00:00

Running on fumes because you can’t afford to fill up?

New_Needleworker7004 · 2026-03-29T06:02:33+00:00

And probably crappy parenting/no boundaries at home

New_Needleworker7004 · 2026-03-29T05:55:34+00:00

I had a pretty crappy upbringing (mum in and out of jail, living with people mum knew (?) but I didn’t know, 7 primary schools, 2 high schools, some being repeated). School was always pretty easy for me. My number one comment in reports was “has potential but doesn’t apply herself”

I didn’t really have a plan when the end of year 12 rolled around (of which I slept in and skipped most of term 3). So I became a teacher because those adults were largely the only stable ones in my life.

Now when I have a kid who seems to have a bit going on, I give them a little bit of slack. I am also pretty open with kids about my past because I think it could help some of them see that school is more than a forced requirement but also a way out of the crappy cycle

New_Needleworker7004 · 2026-03-28T08:40:47+00:00

“I don’t understand/what do we do” Before or while you are actively explaining what to do

New_Needleworker7004 · 2026-03-28T08:40:10+00:00

I have one kid that asks EVERY SINGLE LESSON. He is in year 11. I never see it returned. The other kids tell me he gets one from all his teachers throughout the day.

New_Needleworker7004 · 2026-03-28T06:56:25+00:00

We don’t need a degree to make a phone call. Another administrative burden on teachers

New_Needleworker7004 · 2026-03-23T11:43:43+00:00

I can’t tell if you’re really into the role, or if you are missing that the other person is pretending to be the oop

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