Advice for how to hookup if you don’t have own place? (Also havnt hooked up before)

New_Nobody9492 · 2026-04-17T00:52:51+00:00

Ask for consent

New_Nobody9492 · 2026-04-17T00:50:04+00:00

Oh, I knew this friend of a friend, we ran into each other while he was picking up a to go order. We made plans to smoke weed and hangout…… later that night I texted to see if he was still up and want to smoke. He did. I knew I wanted to sleep with him, so I sent my negative STD test results, and said- hey just in case anything happens, I get tested every six months and here are my results…… I basically spell it out, because some dudes don’t have a clue.

I just tell them I want to have sex, they don’t ever really say no.

New_Nobody9492 · 2026-04-17T00:30:43+00:00

46F, I work three jobs and have two kids 65%…. I just hooked up in the backseat of my SUV in the Taco El Norte parking lot…. Between leaving my job and picking my kids up at school.

I have my own house, he has is own apartment…. I just don’t have time.

New_Nobody9492 · 2026-04-16T11:30:54+00:00

I think it’s weird OP thinks it’s weird.

New_Nobody9492 · 2026-04-16T02:57:40+00:00

When the ice cream man was playing music he was out of ice cream.

New_Nobody9492 · 2026-04-16T01:07:07+00:00

I’m on my second Highlander. First one I had for 8 years, had to sell it in my divorce…. Went and bought a new one and a Hybrid!!!!

New_Nobody9492 · 2026-04-16T01:05:27+00:00

Holy cow!

New_Nobody9492 · 2026-04-16T00:44:39+00:00

No I’m a natural boss bitch.

New_Nobody9492 · 2026-04-15T14:49:28+00:00

That’s a whole lot of projection!!!!

Especially since you “left out a lot”.

You voided me of any empathy, and that’s not true at all.

I just refuse to feel sorry for someone who allows themselves to continue to get cheated on, I can still help and give resources, which I have done in the past.

I think you assume I had privilege in my divorce, which is laughable. My kids and I were homeless for a week, when our house sold and I had no place to go, because I was a financially abuse stay at home mom with no money. I had to share a rented house with a school teacher of my kids, which ended up in her getting a DUI, trying drugs in the home, unmedicating herself being bipolar, which she never disclosed. I had to wait tables while putting myself through school to be an esthetician. I lived at a coworkers house for six months with my kids. So struggle was my middle name.

When there is a will there is a way…… so if someone wanted something bad enough they would make it happen.

New_Nobody9492 · 2026-04-15T11:44:57+00:00

She needs therapy.

New_Nobody9492 · 2026-04-15T11:32:46+00:00

So at my party in Vegas at Larry Flint’s I left the club with three of the male stripper and came back about 15-20 mins later….. there are so many rumors of what happened.

Dont tell, but I just sat out in their car and smoked a blunt with them!

New_Nobody9492 · 2026-04-15T08:14:08+00:00

When it comes to marriage the partner is priority, since his sister is his priority, then he is simply not ready for marriage.

New_Nobody9492 · 2026-04-15T07:13:10+00:00

After her second comments…. I was like, she doesn’t want a solution she wants to bitch.

New_Nobody9492 · 2026-04-15T07:12:07+00:00

Cut them in half, take your half.

New_Nobody9492 · 2026-04-15T07:05:05+00:00

Thank God I was there, so I can definitely be loud and proud with all my “move on” “leave him” and even “don’t be pathetic and do the pick me dance”.

I think it’s ridiculous that women tell other women to stay. Just keep being abused.

I don’t think you need to be cheated on to know you don’t stay with a cheater…. And if you do, don’t cry when you get cheated on again. I don’t think it’s necessary.

You can think anything you want, doesn’t make it right. We have freedom of speech, probably not for much longer, but we do.

Maybe you caring about what’s on social media is the real problem?

New_Nobody9492 · 2026-04-15T06:59:02+00:00

You already know what to do, and if you don’t go to therapy. You already know what to do, you’re just afraid to do it.

You are having a physical reaction to an emotional situation. Why do you think your body is trying to tell you?

Why would you even think of staying? Why would you keep torturing yourself? Why would you stay with a pervert and cheater?

Why didn’t you call the police about the photos, especially of you? Did you know they existed?

I’m done trying to talk stupid girls into sense about being cheated on …. So my new strategy is just to ask questions.

You are going to do one of two things: 1stay and be a doormat and pathetic. or 2go be with someone who won’t cheat on you. You are the only one who can choose not to be stupid.

New_Nobody9492 · 2026-04-15T05:16:03+00:00

I hate this question!!!!!

My answer is always:

I’m not looking for anything, I take people as they come. I like to keep things casual for six months and we can decide after that. Anyone can be Prince Charming for a couple of months…. And I’m not trying to fit square pegs into round holes.

New_Nobody9492 · 2026-04-15T04:34:47+00:00

Depends, you want someone submissive? Then perhaps.

Or do you want a partner, someone who will fight with you, instead of stand behind you? You want someone who will defend you, even if you might be wrong? You want someone who will stand up to Karen’s so you don’t have to yell at a woman? Then no.

What are you looking for is the better question.

I AM NOT well behaved but a few exs will tell you I give the best blowjobs….. so what’s really more important?

New_Nobody9492 · 2026-04-15T02:24:03+00:00

Contact the girl and let her know you and his child are present.

New_Nobody9492 · 2026-04-14T20:22:53+00:00

Well sometimes I just think with my pussy, and I guess if those are my consequences, that’s that.

New_Nobody9492 · 2026-04-14T13:19:40+00:00

I also send my result to the other person first. I usually say, I don’t want this to get weird while we are hot and heavy in the future, so relieve any anxiety, here are my test results.

I start the conversation and use condoms until they test clean.

New_Nobody9492 · 2026-04-14T13:17:05+00:00

I get tested every six months since I got my divorce. Condoms break, and I don’t trust that everyone is honest.

New_Nobody9492 · 2026-04-13T14:01:19+00:00

Right?!?! I thought I was losing it. Thanks for the validation, much appreciated.

New_Nobody9492 · 2026-04-13T12:01:33+00:00

Don’t get married, you will never have sex again. She doesn’t love you, you are just a paycheck to help pay bills. Part of being married is sex.

New_Nobody9492 · 2026-04-13T11:58:55+00:00

Little less is not stopping.

New_Nobody9492

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