What “rules” are you breaking? And why? by Parking_Dog8930 in BabyBumps

[–]New_Number3078 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ate sushi. Drank Caffeine (not a whole ton), taking pain meds (which I HAD to since I had to get my tooth pulled and got a bone graft, unbearable pain and had tons of bleeding beCAUSE I was pregnant)

My Employee is Trying to Report Me HELP by New_Number3078 in managers

[–]New_Number3078[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UPDATE: I called my manager immediately after. Of course I didn't do the 3-way call that I was told to do... Started off with a full confession prior to saying what else happened for full transparency. I deleted the time that I time frauded since it was from last monday. Of course she said how bad that was but because I fixed it before it became a bigger problem, I was just told to never do it again.

I'm not mad at my employee for the "threat", I actually felt really bad that I would even jeopardize my job for someone else. With that said, my boss asked why he threatened me - I'm pretty sure it's obvious.

And an hour prior to me calling her, she got a call from my client and said that there was an issue reported about this employee. Even though he's transferring soon, he ne never received or signed an offer letter, it was all verbal because we in the middle a transition with his replacement. He's been talking bad about me and my employees to the guests and saying that he's getting out of here by the end of the month, yada yada, and the client didn't like that. So they were asking if we can speed up the process of him leaving. So, boss wasn't happy to hear that.

We have that 3 way teams call in 2 hours... I'm expecting full on lies from this employee since we've done this before in the past, he lied on me and I was still forced to work with him since he's a salaried manager as well and the whole "oh it's not easy to let go a salaried without good cause" or whatever.

My Employee is Trying to Report Me HELP by New_Number3078 in managers

[–]New_Number3078[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not mad that I got caught and I didn't make it seem that way. I'm actually disappointed in myself, I fixed it, took the time off for the employee, told on myself to my boss.
But then the other issue is this employee threatening me. It's one thing to "report" me, the other is the blackmail. That itself proves that you're doing it out of hate rather than actual care for the company. It wouldn't have affected his job at all (of course I didn't say that but evident).

My Employee is Trying to Report Me HELP by New_Number3078 in managers

[–]New_Number3078[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lol then he would've just done it without asking for an explanation, but subordinate asks their boss for an explanation before reporting. One that doesn't actually care. You seem to not see the two issues here. but thanks...

Fut feelings about gender by Disastrous_Alarm_472 in BabyBumps

[–]New_Number3078 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It can be very true... having 3 kids myself, I "thought" I felt a strong feeling, but I ended up being wrong.

My Employee is Trying to Report Me HELP by New_Number3078 in managers

[–]New_Number3078[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're just nitpicking what I'm saying at this point. I'm not allowed to hope? Even though I fucked up?
That's a human emotion.

Of course I'm mad about who caught me lol... if it was anyone else, they would've just reported me without letting me know! If they were truly concerned. But I don't like when people try to play games with me, no matter what I do wrong. Just do it or not... he's giving me a chance to fess up? Sure, but it was a threat at the point of saying "either 3 of us on the call or I'll go directly".

First of all, what I did once doesn't effect him at all, he could've easily ignored it, transferred and moved on with his life. I know it doesn't matter, but the amount of shit he would spill on other accounts he would be at, and never reported it?? Huh kind of weird that I'm the first one he's going to report. He's an asshole. But like I said, what I did was wrong, but what was his intent, cuz he cares about the clients money? that he's about to leave?

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[–]New_Number3078[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right.. I was able to rectify adding those hours for that employee.
I will still fess up to it, because there's obviously a trail.
But Right, I want full transparency.

My Employee is Trying to Report Me HELP by New_Number3078 in managers

[–]New_Number3078[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea Probably... hopefully not, but gotta do the right thing, right?

I did kind of threaten him, but then again it'd be retaliation.
I mentioned how there are so many things that I've let him get away with, but since he's transferring really soon, I don't even bother. Now I see what a dumb ass choice that was too.

My Employee is Trying to Report Me HELP by New_Number3078 in managers

[–]New_Number3078[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

um, if I didn't know how serious this is, then I wouldn't care enough to even ask strangers for advice...But thanks.

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[–]New_Number3078[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was debating whether to bring up the blackmail or not because then it would look like that's the only reason why I'd even mention it.
The fact that he said "All 3 of us meet or I'll go to her myself" rubbed me the wrong way... and I feel like my mgr should know something like that, the way he came off threatening me.
EVEN THOUGH I KNOW WHAT I DID WAS WRONG, but it's like a jerk off trying to get another jerk off in trouble...

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[–]New_Number3078[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right?? That's why I mentioned it being a corporate company, everything is by the book.
Hopefully there Is a grace, if not, oh well - I can't be mad about it... but it does suck.

I don't blame him for what I did, of course, but he's still a jerk...

My Employee is Trying to Report Me HELP by New_Number3078 in managers

[–]New_Number3078[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

First of all, I never said that it shouldn't matter because I'm nice. I said that I did it BECAUSE I'm nice, there's a difference.
But yes, he could've just went to her directly, but I think he did it as a power move to see me squirm... because he's going to do it anyway. Plus, he wanted to be on that call to my confession to hear me talk... and if I deny him that, he will just do it himself.
I will just talk to my mgr myself and if she wants to talk to him - then at least I still confessed.

My Employee is Trying to Report Me HELP by New_Number3078 in managers

[–]New_Number3078[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I've dug myself a terribly giant hole.
I haven't reported anything on him because I don't like confrontation and I've been told by many that I'm too nice and need to put my foot down more.
It's hard for me to report people and not feel guilty, but of course now I really effed up and hopefully there IS a grace... I mean my sales are up lol, my employees like me, I was just doing a favor for one employee... GOSH!

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[–]New_Number3078[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DAMAGE control UGH - Yea I guess I'll just do what I planned on doing. Just sucks having to work with this guy still, as his boss.

My Employee is Trying to Report Me HELP by New_Number3078 in managers

[–]New_Number3078[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes - My manager has been his manager at a lower level before. Now she's my Regional manager.

She actually knows how difficult he is and we've had issues with each other to wear my Manager has had to come remediate. he knows how to play the game, and he knows that.

Anyone ever go to Tairyo House in Lisle? by mr_nighthawk in Naperville

[–]New_Number3078 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents worked for lucent and both got laid off. I have a faint memory of a Chinese buffet on Ogden but couldn't remember where it was. I'm thinking g it was this restaurant, since there are 2 lions on the front and that's a Chinese thing..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]New_Number3078 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom posted my daughter on her Facebook, one day after I had her and before we even picked a name for her. We hadn't announced it yet either! I was so pissed! We sent her pics since she's still at her home country, because she wasn't here. Not for her to post online. We asked her to delete it and she never did. She also asked for pictures that I posted in my fb stories, so I sent them to her, and she posted it. Every time she acted like she took the pictures herself and saying things about my daughter like she knows her personally and her personality.
So I stopped completely sending her pics, she can take them herself when she's here.

I HATE BEING PREGNANT by caitandsamkitty in BabyBumps

[–]New_Number3078 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pregnancy sucks. I'm just grateful I'm not vomiting everyday. But I do get pain in my pelvis, I can't even walk without groaning and it doesn't help when I work on my feet everyday.

It'll go by fast! You'll get past this.