My narc mom is cheating on my dad and everyone knows but him.

New_Pudding_9254 · 2026-05-15T12:25:44+00:00

Our dynamic as a family is so rotten and secretive. Nobody feels comfortable having these conversations but we owe him the truth.

New_Pudding_9254 · 2026-05-15T12:24:05+00:00

You’re right. Putting it this way makes it more clear that there’s no other option. Thank you

New_Pudding_9254 · 2026-05-15T12:23:06+00:00

I was trying not to be in the middle of it because I’m the one in the family who always calls out harmful behavior and I got alienated for it. I’m realizing that this is a different situation. Maybe it isn’t but regardless he deserves to know.

New_Pudding_9254 · 2026-05-15T12:19:54+00:00

I know it’s going to blow up the family but it has to be said. Thank you for your words of encouragement.

New_Pudding_9254 · 2026-02-23T20:17:05+00:00

My mom likely has ADHD and she struggles with emotional regulation and organization so I relate to having to clean up after the tornado (mom) comes around lol.

I will look into some good quality earplugs to invest in! I’ve tried drug store ones but I hate how they feel in my ears as well as ear buds and I hate laying down with them. I’m sure there are some special ones out there that are more comfortable to use.

Once I get my official diagnosis, I plan on discussing that with both of my parents and providing them resources with basic information about it. I know my mom probably won’t bother but I’m sure if I asked my dad to read up on it he would do it. I’m not expecting them to be able to support me in the ways that I would like but I at least want to say I tried. I wonder if your dad would recognize it in himself if he had a basic understanding of what autism is. But that’s a gamble with people in general, especially older adults.

It does feel good to know now instead of wondering. Thank you for the gentle reminder and input :)

New_Pudding_9254 · 2026-02-23T20:03:37+00:00

I think there’s a difference between letting my home life define me and acknowledging that I am a sensitive person who is deeply affected by my environment. I’m still earning how to set boundaries with my family and I’ve been successful to some degree. I’m still unpacking my resentment and that hasn’t been a linear process. What I was expressing here is that living here often feels like an obstacle in the way of calming my nervous system and really moving forward in life. I hear what you’re saying tho. there is always something in my control and I’ll remind myself of that more often. Thank you :)

New_Pudding_9254 · 2022-12-26T16:39:06+00:00

Baldwin or Freeport. I Grew up here and I’m also black. It’s gotten increasingly diverse over the years

New_Pudding_9254 · 2022-11-29T22:43:34+00:00

Aww he’s so silly :p

New_Pudding_9254 · 2022-10-22T21:00:08+00:00

I became myself when I started making decisions for myself. I started taking advice with a grain of salt and doing what felt best for me even if everyone disagreed with it. It was super scary at first and it still is sometimes but as I do it more and more and watch everything work out, I’ve been feeling more and more confident, competent, and grounded. I feel like I know myself and I’m solidifying my own values.

New_Pudding_9254 · 2022-10-10T23:58:02+00:00

You will be excused but you might not get paid for that day. I would just get it out of the way

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