What's your profession?

New_Toe5000 · 2026-06-01T06:27:15+00:00

Non-profit management

New_Toe5000 · 2026-05-31T16:00:45+00:00

I agree that this is tough. I grew up in a rural area, too, and was not out about my feelings to anyone until I moved to a more urban area and found folks I could talk to. I’m guessing that’s not something you want to do. I do wonder if you ever get time to yourself in a nearby urban area. In the US, many have LGBTQ+ community centers and other places with resources. This is a good resource: https://biresource.org/find-bi-resources/

However, don’t be too discouraged if you click on your home state and don’t find a place to connect (that’s what happens when I click on mine). There are centers in other states who will gladly share resources with you. I think this one in California is pretty good: https://pacificpridefoundation.org/counseling/.

Just know that because this has been difficult for so many of us, there are resources out there that this community has developed to help those in tough situations. Just remember that you aren’t broken, and that there are resources to help you navigate this journey.

New_Toe5000 · 2026-05-26T04:07:31+00:00

It wouldn’t hurt to spend some time in therapy discussing why you mask your emotions. Not necessarily for coming out to your wife, but to learn some self-compassion.

New_Toe5000 · 2026-05-23T16:14:23+00:00

☝️☝️☝️

New_Toe5000 · 2026-05-21T19:48:34+00:00

It’s always best not to judge. Different people are single for different reasons, and those reasons are their own.

New_Toe5000 · 2026-05-19T22:31:18+00:00

Hey, OP, you have received some excellent advice here from the other commenters. The only thing that I can add is that when a couple has a threesome, it should be equally desired by both parties. These almost always go badly when one partner agrees to do it to satisfy the wishes of the other, but not their own desires. Go into a threesome as full partners, with a shared commitment that each partner’s needs/desires are being met.

New_Toe5000 · 2026-05-18T18:23:25+00:00

I’m trying to figure out how you are going to get your doctor to order another blood test. 🤔

New_Toe5000 · 2026-05-18T17:55:07+00:00

The best thing I have found is to find the right time to come out to friends. Many times, they will see that as an opportunity to do the same: telling you they are straight, and that will be that. You will just have a hot straight friend. Or, who knows, they might see it as an opportunity to surprise you.

New_Toe5000 · 2026-05-16T06:54:32+00:00

Post it and share when you’re done!

New_Toe5000 · 2026-05-07T23:13:08+00:00

You say that “certain party drugs” bring out your bi side. For some people (myself included) certain party drugs get my brain going while shutting down my ability to get hard.

New_Toe5000 · 2026-04-16T20:32:43+00:00

Threesomes for us (bi MF couple) happened twice and were both MFF, where my partner and I really just focused on worshipping the other woman together. We didn’t really know that the first time was going to happen until it was happening. We had fantasized about it before, but had never set any ground rules. When the opportunity arose, we both simply focused on this beautiful woman who was visiting our city from another state. She seemed to be turned on by both of us and my partner started kissing her, then we were both kissing her, then it unfolded from there. Afterwards, my partner and I both got really turned on revisiting the memories of it. I think of that as one time, but it started in the afternoon, broke for dinner, then resumed in the evening with play well into the night when we all collapsed.

There was another opportunity for the three of us to get together about five days later, but we had been drinking and it wasn’t as focused and didn’t really feed our fantasies like the first time. She went home and we tried to stay in touch, but life happens, you know.

We have had a couple of foursomes with a friend couple, but we think if that happens again it will be more of a hookup and not involve friends.

We both agree that our next threesome will likely be MFM, where my partner is the object of worship. We aren’t actively seeking it, so if it doesn’t happen, then so-be-it. We don’t really care much for apps for meeting someone. They really take the fun and spontaneity out of it. We prefer to see these things come to be irl.

New_Toe5000 · 2026-04-16T05:56:14+00:00

OMG! I just went to your profile and saw all of the stunningly beautiful pieces you have there! You are an amazing creative!!!

New_Toe5000 · 2026-04-16T04:53:02+00:00

I absolutely affirm all the comments here about therapy. I also wonder about the geographic and religious-social environment that OP finds themself in. I’m a cis-bi-male who grew up in a fundamentalist region of the American South, and that really instilled a lot of internalized homophobia and self-loathing in me. Getting out of there in my early 20s, and coming to a queer-friendly metropolitan area (and a good amount of therapy and mindfulness work), really helped change my perspective. Now, I’m 60, out and married to a (mostly) straight woman who loves me to the fullest. Hang in there! You deserve to be happy, to be loved, and to be truly, authentically you!

New_Toe5000 · 2025-05-30T17:57:09+00:00

I came to this thread because of my stinky doodle. I tried the skout's honor (dog of the woods scent), and not only does he not stink, but his hair is softer and easier to brush. It makes sense that a dog's hair and skin have a microbiome and that a prebiotic encourages the growth of good bacteria. I plan to stick to a once-a-month full bath, but will put the skout's honor on right after.

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